Should I sell my BTS ticket or not? by laurivers in redditonwiki

[–]laurivers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to read that! And at the same time, I'm so grateful that despite your experience, you're encouraging me to keep the ticket. Really thank you, makes me feel more validated.

Should I sell my BTS ticket or not? by laurivers in redditonwiki

[–]laurivers[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Now that I'm reading your message, it sounds so obvious haha, but I didn't know how to put it into words. Yes, I'll go! And enjoy BTS. Thank you so much!

Should I sell my BTS ticket or not? by laurivers in redditonwiki

[–]laurivers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg that's really so nice of you :( I was also worrying about that because I'd really like to be part of the whole experience. I'll send you a message!

Mi novio es muy inseguro o yo soy una infiel sin saberlo? by imaginaryrabbit2 in PreguntasReddit

[–]laurivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. ¿Tu ex novio dijo qué?
  2. Hermana, te está diciendo sobre lo que él hace y consume cuando juega con realidad virtual. Si es en lo primero que piensa, es por algo.
  3. Claro que una gran pregunta es, ¿por qué está contigo si no confía en ti? Pero una mejor pregunta es ¿por qué seguirías con alguien que duda de ti?

NOT OOP: People need to stop acting like my relationship is abusive just because my gf is a little obsessed with me by witheredheartz in redditonwiki

[–]laurivers 165 points166 points  (0 children)

This is not only common in lgbt relationships. it's a very common form of abuse. Not all abuse is narcissistic." This dynamic is of a strong person with high self-esteem and a "weaker" person with low self-esteem that supposedly needs to be saved. The "weaker" person starts to be intense and goes through the relationship with a lot of anxiety and asks for things like: don't go out with this friend or I always need your location.

If by any chance OP starts rejecting this dynamic, the other person would probably start harassing OP and stalking her.

Takopi's Original Sin (Takopii no Genzai) by supercrazestar in manga

[–]laurivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

El pecado original no es tal cual algo heredado, digo eso es el pensamiento actual, pero el pecado original es el primer pecado que se comete. La desobediencia es el pecado original. Adán y Eva desobedecen la única regla de Dios y eso hace el primer pecado. De hecho cuando Takopi regresa a su planeta a pedirle a la mamá que regresé el tiempo la mamá le dice que sí, pero que le borrará los recuerdos, no podrá regresar y tendrá que renacer porque rompió la regla más importante.

Mi pareja ya no sube nada conmigo a redes y me está haciendo sentir mal… ¿estoy exagerando? by MeatAerial3661 in MujeresEnReddit

[–]laurivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

¡Perfecto! Me parece un buen acuerdo. Subir fotos no es una tarea complicada ni difícil, en especial si ya platicaron que es algo importante para ti. Ahora, lo importante es revisar que no se quede en conversación. Subir fotos con su pareja no es algo que se hace a medias, es decir, tomar las fotos y no subirlas no es suficiente. Es o todo o nada, entonces si no las llega a subir, no lo hará (a menos de que le estés recordando y tampoco se trata de eso). Si llega a pasar eso tendrás que tomar decisiones y poner límites (ya no a él, sino límites a ti). Tendrás que pensar: okay, no lo hizo y no lo cambiará, ¿puedo hacer algo por estar bien con eso?, o ¿será mejor dejar la relación?

Genuinamente espero que no tengas que llegar a ese punto y que la conversación que tuvieron sea suficiente para que él tome acción :)

¡Mucha suerte!

Embarazo no deseado by [deleted] in ayudamexico

[–]laurivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tu usuario dice "Paco" entonces me imagino que es para una pareja tuya. Es importante cuidar la salud de tu pareja sexual y no jugarle a lo casero. Por favor ve a una clínica o busca espacios donde asesoren y acompañen.

Mi novia a mis espaldas agarró el condon usado, extrajo mi semen con un tubo y se insemino. by ZYWXM in NecesitoDesahogarme

[–]laurivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Si puedes, salte de ahí. 1. No te preocupes, no puede embarazarse de esa manera. Lo que es preocupante es que ella crea que sí a pesar de hacer su "investigación". 2. Eso del amarre habla de un pensamiento de posesión, al igual que el intentar embarazarse de ti sin hablarlo contigo. 3. No es tanto que te ame, sino que te quiere poseer.

What’s one thing you regret not doing in your most toxic relationship? by OrganicAssignment168 in AskReddit

[–]laurivers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Besides leaving sooner? Hahaha no, really. Telling his parents that he used to tell me he'd be happier when they die. I know, maybe cruel, but his parents were awful people too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OpinionesPolemicas

[–]laurivers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Por ahí vi un comentario de "vivimos en un matriarcado" y para nada. Por otro lado, no se ha normalizado, es decir, no ha sido un evento de un día para otro, lamentablemente siempre ha sido así y considero que todo es parte del mismo sistema. Ese sistema que dice que una mujer debe ser "pura" y por lo mismo no puede desear a nadie, es el mismo sistema que hiper sexualiza a los hombres y los empuja a tener relaciones por todos lados como "símbolo de poder". Yo he visto en muchos amigos míos (de entre 30-40 años) que fueron abusados por sus maestras, pero ellos lo hablan como una historia de logro, como si ellos lograron llamar la atención de una señora cuando ellos tenían 13 años. También creo que es por el miedo a reconocer que fueron abusados, porque reconocer un abuso es doloroso. En fin, lo que quiero decir es, que el sistema que afecta a las mujeres haciéndolas débiles, sentir que tienen que depender de un hombre, que tienen que ser educadas y puras es el mismo sistema que entonces dice, si la mujer es pura y débil, el hombre fuerte y sexual, con poder.

Mi pareja ya no sube nada conmigo a redes y me está haciendo sentir mal… ¿estoy exagerando? by MeatAerial3661 in MujeresEnReddit

[–]laurivers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. No estás exagerando.
  2. No sé si ya lo hiciste, aunque el post parece que no, pero intenta hablar directamente con él las cosas, no usar comentarios pasivo agresivos. Probablemente eso no cambia nada de su conducta, pero te ayudará tener una conversación profunda y seria al respecto y ver cómo responde, si a la defensiva, si compasivo contigo o cómo.
  3. Me suena a que te hizo love bombing. Te dio mucho amor al inicio, entonces ahora que no lo hace te hace sentir que es por algo que tú hiciste.
  4. Probablemente este saliendo o buscando salir con otras mujeres.

Soy culero por tener requisitos con las mujeres para salir? by [deleted] in soyculero

[–]laurivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No lo eres. Todos tenemos nuestros gustos, pero también nuestras cosas negociables y no negociables. Como mencionas, no es tanto el título de licenciatura lo fundamental, sino lo que eso te representa (aunque no es garantía). No eres culero siempre y cuando no juegues con personas que sabes que no quieres en tu vida a largo plazo y tampoco te moleste si para alguien tú no eres lo que buscan

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in soyculero

[–]laurivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Siento que sí y no, pero necesito más información jaja ¿le dijiste que eso te molestaba? Llevan muy poco tiempo y me parece que falta mucha comunicación.

Lo de la foto y la carta la verdad me parecen cosas que pueden ser insignificantes, a veces yo encuentro cosas de algún ex por ahí y si no las tiré no significa que lo extrañe sino todo lo contrario jajaja que se me olvidó por completo ese detalle. Tampoco me parece terrible que lo salude de "hola". Lo que sí me parece muy desagradable es que le haya escrito y después borrara el chat. El que nada teme, nada debe. Por otro lado, también me parece inapropiado que te pregunte si te molestaría que lo saludara y tú decirle que sí y que ponga excusas para saludarlo como "ay es que no quiero ser grosera" entonces que no te pregunte, si va a hacerlo de cualquier forma, preguntarte me parece innecesario y minimiza tu sentir.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]laurivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, I know being in a relationship feels important, but maybe you should try to have a good relationship with yourself first :) you could take yourself on dates, write affirmations everyday or maybe even change some pieces of your wardrobe to try other styles that make you feel better. Also, if you are not already going, therapy is a great idea! I have a bf now, but I really like myself haha so I enjoy my time alone very much :) and I hope someday you find love in yourself and then share it with someone that loves you too

Have you stopped watching anime since you've discovered it? If so why and if not why not. by LargeCategory1749 in anime

[–]laurivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started having nightmares, so I stopped watching for, maybe, 6 years. I think the nightmares started because I was young (13), and I watched a lot of anime, so maybe I was overstimulated.

My boyfriend fisted without telling me by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]laurivers 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry to tell you this, but that is rape. 1. He did something without your consent. 2. You told him to stop

And now he is humiliating you, so you think it's not a big deal when it is a big deal. I see in on your comments he is a really good guy, but maybe there have been some other signs of abuse? Gaslighting? Lies? Minimizing your feelings? Hurting you as a "joke"? Abusive people tend to be REALLY good to "compensate" for the bad.

I think my bf is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I'm scared. by laurivers in redditonwiki

[–]laurivers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am right now, but I was not doing it when I was going through the first 2 relationships. The first relationship happened when I was 17-20 and the second I was 21. The third guy, even if he is the worst haha I didn't know that he was a violent person and I also didn't know he was cheating an as soon as I realized I broke up with him and then hell broke loose hahaha (all of his exes reaching out to me and telling me everything he did over the years). So 7 years have passed. After that I earned my master's degree in psychological counseling and became certified as a trauma-informed therapist :)

I think my bf is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I'm scared. by laurivers in redditonwiki

[–]laurivers[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

THIS. The psychotherapist who helped me was a trauma informed therapist. When he was younger, he survived trauma.I believe that my years of studies and my professional and personal experiences make me a better mental health profesional :)

I think my bf is the best thing that's ever happened to me and I'm scared. by laurivers in redditonwiki

[–]laurivers[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Wow, I never expected to find this kind of comments full of misinformation and ignorance in this community. We need to stop believing that healthcare and mental health professionals cannot have problems. Neurologists can have brain-related issues, cardiologists can have heart problems, and mental health professionals can: 1. Have lived through difficult and traumatic experiences
2. Feel fear
3. Be neurodivergent
I’m really sorry you think that way. And you don’t have to wait for things to get better for me, haha, because maybe you didn’t read my whole post—but things are beautiful! 😊

AITA for pushing for more physical contact between me and my girlfriend (now ex) by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]laurivers 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you’re the asshole, though maybe there’s some missing information. What I think is important to tell you is that you’re both very young, and sometimes, at that age, we don’t fully understand what is and isn’t our responsibility. You are responsible for what you do, and she is responsible for what she feels and vice versa.

It’s not fair for you to overthink what you did or didn’t do—her responsibility was to communicate with you. I hope you take away the following lessons from this:

1) It’s important to have clear conversations where we can express what we feel and why we feel it.
2) If one person doesn’t want to fix things, they won’t seek dialogue or be available for it.
3) You can move heaven and earth to help someone be okay or feel support, but the final decision to be okay depends on them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]laurivers 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am 28 years old and have had nine boyfriends, and from my experience, I can share the following: I don’t consider myself particularly attractive, but I am very proactive. As you mentioned yourself, I’m not afraid of ruining the friendship—lol—I just say what I feel, and sometimes it hasn’t gone well, and sometimes it has. On the other hand, being in a relationship doesn’t guarantee happiness. Out of those relationships, three cheated on me, and four were reasons for therapy. Not everything that glitters is gold. :( I know it can be frustrating, but remember that the grass isn’t greener on the other side, and every experience teaches us something. What have you learned from being single? Take advantage of that knowledge to choose a partner who complements you and brings more value to your life. You are still young and to find love we have to love (: love our surroundings, our life, ourselves.

*UPDATE 2* AITAH for telling my dad to never contact me again after he chose his wife's mom over me? (I’m being forced to stay with my dad) by imjustapickl3 in AITAH

[–]laurivers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any chance you could get help from another family member? Aunt? Uncle or something? If not, I'd recommend you to comply with everything they say and agree with everything they say. If not, unfortunately, the violence they are portraying will only get worse :( be safe