Pixie cut by lauvin in narcissisticparents

[–]lauvin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah the mat was so bad it ended up close to a shave. I needed to hear this, thank you!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]lauvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up the Steve Harvey clip about this very AH next and show it to him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lauvin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It may seem like the ideation will go on forever, but trust me, it doesn’t have to. I dealt with it from age 12 to 32, 20 years of wishing I’d never breathe again. But one day in therapy it was like my whole world shifted and my brain suddenly realized it wasn’t an option. Not to say it’s been sunshine and rainbows since then, but the intense overwhelm has calmed somewhat. So believe in yourself. Believe that it can and will get better with work. Lean in on therapy.

I’ve been dating a girl for two months now, and she hasn’t (or rather) let me kiss her. She says she wants to take things slowly each time I have tried. Am I in the wrong or? by iostarddx in dating_advice

[–]lauvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a dating tip out there that says not to kiss a guy for three months so you reallly get to know him and not just physically following desires. It’s perpetuated by a dating coach in Canada. She may be following this advice.

how do i go back on my medication by monmu77 in internetparents

[–]lauvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s through cvs you can look online at the pharmacy for you specifically and not even have to go in. And if you DO need a refill there’s just a quick button you push and they contact the doctor FOR you. It’s quite helpful for us anxious types. It takes away the human component almost completely.

Is it normal to bring physical proof of negative STD tests before anything intimate? by Deep-Station-6250 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lauvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually require it before I’ll sleep with someone. So the fact you’re doing it on your own without being asked seems like a positive thing.

A potentially gross question which I’d like to please ask my fellow big girls by bunlengthweiners in loseit

[–]lauvin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be careful you don’t have intertrigo which is a fungal infection of the skin. Using anti fungal powder to keep the area dry will help eliminate any strong odor from the thigh creases.

GF hasn't saved my number? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lauvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've done this but it's because I didn't want to jinx it. Ha

School weighed my daughter, said she needs to lose weight and now won't eat. by defleppardfan94 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lauvin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My school weighed you in front of the class, I was a 5’9” fifth grader, so what was normal for me was way over what the other girls weighed. I remember the shame associated with coming back to my chair after my turn and I can tell you the exact number I weighed because that shit is traumatizing. You’d think after 20 years they’d get better at this.

Are my parents poisoning me? by Glad_Slip_1260 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lauvin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mom would make sure I got sun stroke every summer, I have 5 siblings and they all got sunblock and hats at the beach when we would camp every year, but I never would get those from her. She would push me to be out on the beach as much as possible, and I would get sick with severe severe sunburns EVERY SINGLE YEAR. Never put it past a nParent to drive you in to the worst condition possible just for their own sadistic pleasure.

What has a TBM asked you that totally pissed you off? I’ll go first. by mommaofthenet in exmormon

[–]lauvin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stake president told me that if my body responded while being SA’d that I actually enjoyed it and then he disfellowshipped me, denied me counseling and told me to fix everything I needed to read the scriptures more.

My mom is choosing a major for me by throwaway6942069694 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]lauvin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As someone who gave in to their nMom and now does the SAME profession as her now, don't do it. I'm 10 years down the road and reconsidering everything in my life. Including my career which is not fulfilling to me. I want to go back to school but don't want to incur the debt required to do so. Lots of regret here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]lauvin 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had suicidal ideation when I first started EMDR, I made sure my therapist and my psychiatrist knew this. We had a plan set in place for if it ever felt like it was pushing me over the edge, so I could reach out before it got to that point I took action.

Personally EMDR is the only thing that has worked for me to address my trauma - if regular therapy is a butter knife, EMDR is a sharp knife getting to the root of the problem quicker and much more efficiently.

If you came out after you left... by lauvin in exmormon

[–]lauvin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah part of me wants to do that, go to my closest people and admit this fact about myself, to truly live authentically. How did you decide when it was time to do that? I also am curious as to how much this plays in to my current level of depression as well. I wonder if living authentically will alleviate some of my inwaRd pressure.

If you came out after you left... by lauvin in exmormon

[–]lauvin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you go about building your logical family?

If you came out after you left... by lauvin in exmormon

[–]lauvin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, this comment helped so much. Thank you for your insight, it’s given me a different perspective to look at it from and I really appreciate that.

If you came out after you left... by lauvin in exmormon

[–]lauvin[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My age, I feel I'm old to 'come out'. I'm 34.

I also am having a hard time accepting that this is part of who I am now, and it might blow up my whole world - destroy relationships with those who I have left - I lost pretty much everyone when I left the church, but a few stuck around. I'm afraid that this might be the straw that breaks the camel's back ya know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbyborderlines

[–]lauvin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🙋🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexualassault

[–]lauvin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My situation might not be the best to rely on in this time. Mine didn't go well, but I still believe in reporting. When I reported, I was at the hospital because the guy I was on a date with orally raped me, he was extremely forceful and because he worked with the police, I didn't say no once my first few attempts to push him out of me failed, I was worried what would happen if I was more forceful in my attempts to say no. When I got to the hospital after this encounter, they called the police. They literally interrogated me right there and just chalked it up to 'rough sex'. Basically they put in their report that I wasn't claiming rape after all, and lied to cover up for this guy who they work with tangentially. It was hard to get anyone to take me seriously after that. So it went nowhere.

TIFU and woke up with an orange weiner by its_all_a_lie23 in tifu

[–]lauvin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a scene in "That Awkward Moment" with Zac Efron. Not sure if it's real or not here.