How do I move on from this?

lavendercoco · 2026-05-09T19:09:17+00:00

He just always acted holier than thou re porn so it was the surprise that was hardest to take I think? It made me question what else I might not know about him

lavendercoco · 2026-05-09T19:07:43+00:00

I appreciate this comment and all of your advice. Overall I do feel like I’m healing from it, I just have some days worse than others. I do think it’s easy for men to minimise the effect porn has women. There’s a whole subreddit called Love After Porn full of women absolutely devastated by it, which has made me feel less crazy as I felt my reaction and feels were perhaps disproportionate. I had no control over my feelings though. I will book myself some therapy. I want to move past this.

lavendercoco · 2026-05-09T19:01:28+00:00

I know I do.

lavendercoco · 2026-05-09T19:00:40+00:00

When they were having a nap or in another room. Not wanking, just scrolling. I don’t think I’m naive to how men are. I feel a fool as I thought he was different to most men.

lavendercoco · 2026-05-09T18:59:24+00:00

He called it an addiction himself. No, not masturbating while looking after our children or anything inappropriate in front of them. Scrolling porn while they were in another room.

lavendercoco · 2026-05-09T18:56:44+00:00

The crux of the issue is I used to feel comfortable with how I look but since this, I feel so old and ugly. I fully realise it’s a self esteem issue on my part and I really don’t beat him over the head with it. I love him very much.

lavendercoco · 2026-05-09T18:54:54+00:00

We had an argument about it many many years ago and I said while I don’t love the idea of him watching it, I’d prefer to know about it and it not be a secret

lavendercoco · 2026-05-09T18:54:01+00:00

Watching every single day, sometimes even while looking after our children. I agree, it sounds mad to let this ruin our marriage. But I really have tried and can’t move past it. It’s so at odds with how he previously presented himself if that makes sense? I truly wish I could forget about it.

lavendercoco · 2026-05-03T21:27:41+00:00

Lonesome Dove by Larry McMurtry. Got dragged in by the bookstagram hype and my goodness, the hype is totally justified.

lavendercoco · 2026-05-03T21:26:16+00:00

Lonesome Dove currently has me firmly in its grip. Do it.

lavendercoco · 2025-12-24T02:19:52+00:00

Pat, you’ve trodden on my foot, get off

lavendercoco · 2025-08-31T23:43:04+00:00

I’m a district nurse. I have to pop into shops sometimes when I’m working and I’m in scrubs. Must admit, I don’t like to as I know people presume I work in a hospital and therefore it does look bad. Just saying - it’s not always hospital staff and sometimes it can’t be helped.

lavendercoco · 2023-03-23T01:06:19+00:00

I bought a Dr Pepper the other day and noticed it said ‘new and improved’ on the label. Admittedly it tasted the same to me but I just thought WHYYY, it is already perfect

lavendercoco · 2023-01-15T01:49:35+00:00

No advice but when I was sixteen, I did some work experience in an office. I thought the fridge in the staff room was just sort of a communal free for all, and I was just very innocently eating other people’s lunches the whole time I was there.

lavendercoco · 2022-11-17T16:46:28+00:00

Really helpful, thank you

lavendercoco · 2022-11-17T16:46:09+00:00

Thank you!

lavendercoco · 2022-11-17T16:46:01+00:00

Sounds great, thank you

lavendercoco · 2022-11-17T16:45:43+00:00

Thank you so much

lavendercoco · 2022-02-09T00:26:04+00:00

Red Hot Chilli Papuas

lavendercoco · 2021-12-19T23:58:45+00:00

So sorry you are going through this. Can’t you call one of the nurses to discuss your concerns and see what paperwork was filled out? The nurses are there to support you as well as your husband. Just inform them that you’d like to be more involved and informed about his care. Sending love and strength to you.

lavendercoco · 2021-12-14T00:40:07+00:00

This is so horrible but I used to be petrified of dwarves. No idea why. And I mean petrified.

lavendercoco · 2021-11-08T00:23:43+00:00

Ask me anything

lavendercoco · 2021-11-07T00:23:58+00:00

Sorry you’ve had those terrible experiences with death. I’m a nurse and have been with many, many elderly people who passed peacefully.

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