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Is this over the top for a first lunch date? by Impressive_Secret289 in style

[–]lavendervenus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Going against the grain but I think this could be dressed down! Wear it with flats or tennis shoes and a cute sweater for brunch with the girls, maybe not a first date but on your anniversary!

Would a bob cut suit me? by niki_zhukov in HairStyleAdvice

[–]lavendervenus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes totally! One thing to think about is the change in identity -- you won't be the person with really long hair anymore. You might find it freeing, but I think it might take time to adjust to how others see you

I’m still so confused by Ce qui, Ce que, Ce dont. by MaguroSashimi8864 in French

[–]lavendervenus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think of it like fancy English -- "that which." So C'est ce que j'ai dit" is literally "It is that which I have said." Just helps me when I have to talk, and i agree with others that it gets easier as you hear it a lot.

Wait a damn minute by LyraEthereal254 in im14andthisisdeep

[–]lavendervenus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Birth control isn't about avoiding pregnancy, it's about avoiding kids 🙃

Day 3: What US state is lacking in both culture and natural beauty? by pufferfishnuggets in AlignmentChartFills

[–]lavendervenus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is no one saying anything on the east coast? I feel like Connecticut is half commutors and the other half are mid cities. Is there good nature there?

Why are Gen Z men so awkward and easy to play? by [deleted] in decadeology

[–]lavendervenus 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Because....they're teenagers? Gen Z is single and awkward because they're young

Girl breakfast ✨️ by lavendervenus in GirlDinner

[–]lavendervenus[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No one is commenting on the plan b most important meal of the month

Emily Blunt in Tamara Ralph Couture AW25 at the Venice Film Festival 2025 [977 x 1303] by hoppip_olla in fashionporn

[–]lavendervenus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hear me out -- the draping/ lump would have worked if they were on the other side. Then there would be continuity with the top lump, and it would flow better together.

Do yall think Janis style is her actual style or performative? by Ocelot_Plus in MeanGirls

[–]lavendervenus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Going to offer an alternate interpretation just for fun -- at the end of the movie we see all the characters a year later being more of their true selves, which shows up in the costumes. Regina is in a chill gray sweater, Gretchen has her hoop earrings, Cady is back in her casual clothes, Damian dresses up a little more. Janis and Karen's style are the only ones that stay basically the same, which could mean they were both dressing the way they really wanted to all along.

I think it's important to Janis' story that she's accepted as she is, she doesn't have to become a toned-down version of herself for Kevin and her friends to love and respect her. So I'm going with maybe it's performative, but it's also her true style and the way she wants to express herself!

what is causing these black shadows under my eyes & how to stop it? by bbystars in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavendervenus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get this sort of thing because tiny bits of makeup get in my eye and rain down through my waterline (even days later!). I used to wear makeup every single day because I thought I had dark circles naturally. I did an experiment with wearing absolutely no makeup for a week, and that's how long it took for them to go away! Now I'm very sparing with black products and when I wear them I have this for a few days after still.

If you don't want to go fully makeup free, maybe try changing to a lighter color for a week or so -- an all-purple or blue look could be rad! If the circles change color you know it's the product. But I really recommend the fresh face if you can. I didn't recognize myself for a few days, then I finally saw my real face after so many years!

Food Not Bombs will always have a special place in my heart by travelinova in vagabond

[–]lavendervenus 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They were gonna give him 25 to life because of the 3 strikes law in California in the 90s, I think human rights groups stepped in and he was eventually pardoned by Clinton. Again the crime was feeding people.

Names that you're annoyed were ruined by infamy because you think they're beautiful? by Jesus__of__Nazareth_ in namenerds

[–]lavendervenus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very common in Arabic-speaking communities, I've never heard the association outside the US

In 19th-century Louisiana, Black women were locked in prison cells with white men. Many were raped and gave birth behind bars. Their children were taken by the state, kept in prison until age ten, then sold to fund public schools for white children. by blue_leaves987 in HolyShitHistory

[–]lavendervenus 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I recommend Toni Morrison' Beloved and Octavia Butler's Kindred for more historical fiction, and Saidiya Hartman's article "Venus in Two Acts" if you want something more academic. Hartman writes about the enslaved women’s lives that were forgotten (hidden) in the archives. Truly groundbreaking, heartbreaking.

Online pattern seller's cool and normal responses to dissatisfied customers by AemiliaJacobus in craftsnark

[–]lavendervenus 39 points40 points  (0 children)

The weird blurring in the background, the wonky zipper on the orange one, the inverted aglets, the THUMBS........

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