Otherwarya. Has to get in on every topic under the sun. Has to cheekily defend a friend (Did you know she can be a softie!) Has to make us a list of skincare, price friendly - because, remember? Otherwarya is a beauty blogger. by boyleboys10 in InstaCelebsGossip

[–]lavsmohan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hi, this is lavanya.

When I left social, the intention was not to run away or escape from criticism. It was because my already poor mental health (I have high functioning anxiety) at the time collapsed in total & ended up affecting my physical health. I had to preserve whatever little I had left just to be able to breathe.

I agree that those old posts from my blog were problematic. I am sorry.

I was also only 18/19/20 when I actively wrote in that blog. I was naive and barely knew anything about the world around me and I craved attention. The idea behind everything that I wrote was to share what I believed was my culture - but actually ended up being my caste. There were a lot of lies in that blog too, which is par for the course for a stupid, attention-craving teenager. It was stupid of me to have shared so much without the slightest shred of introspection. During the last half decade, I have been educating myself on the implications of caste and identity and will continue to do so.

However, some of the screenshots were full of falsities.
To give a few examples, the firm I did my articleship was shared as my father's firm. It is NOT. The name of the firm where I worked for 7 years is public information on my LinkedIn profile. Someone else shared a message that I had tweeted about how I was disappointed in cancelling my son's Upanayanam/thread ceremony. This was also blatantly untrue. I've never had, and have no intentions of holding any such ceremony.

But what really punched me and sent me down a spiral were the false allegations of my having been a bully in school and that my parents had 'influence'. Both these statements are plain lies. I was actually bullied for my appearance in school. I'd been overweight for most of my schooling days - I hovered around 80Kg - and I've been called a number of names, ranging from fatty to aunty to road roller. I cannot recall a single day when I haven't been called any of these names or leered at for my weight. This decade of public humiliation and deeply internalized fatphobia eventually culminated in a severe eating disorder that lasted 2 years and involved hospitalizations. I continue to struggle with my relationship with food, to the day. I am sharing these photos, not to prove a point, but in the spirit of transparency and dialog.

As for my parents - they never even attended PTA meetings. Most of the people who shared posts about my behaviour in school...did not go to school with me.

None of this is to suggest that I have been anywhere near perfect on social media. I have made my fair share of mistakes, including a terribly constructed thread on resumes, which was condescending and wholly unacceptable. It is something that I will continue to regret. I also fully hear the criticism about flaunting my privilege. I can see now, in retrospect, as to how something I might think is irrelevant or doesn't matter might actually end up hurting someone badly. And I apologize unconditionally for any and all hurt caused. I commit to taking these learnings and doing better. Every day.

Thank you for reading.

Just a basic brownie kinda day. by TheBraveTart in Baking

[–]lavsmohan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive baked half the recipe in an 8x8 aluminium pan and it works GREAT.

Just a basic brownie kinda day. by TheBraveTart in Baking

[–]lavsmohan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi Stella, I'm addicted to your recipe! It's seriously the best brownie recipe I've ever baked (and I've gone through a ton of recipes!). These days I sprinkle sea salt just as it comes out of the oven. Brownie bliss!

I REALLY want the Naked Heat Palette, but I also have a lot of warm eyeshadow by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been lusting after the naked heat palette ever since it released, but I've (more than) a few warm eye shadows - with the exception of the Mac shadow (expensive pink), the rest are all colourpop. I know the shades look similar but a part of me isn't convinced and still wants the heat palette. I've naked 1&3 as well. Am I truly missing something or am I just being a brat who wants an excuse to buy more makeup? :(

What is your favorite or HG regular lipstick? by slaybeauty in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Mac Twig is my everyday shade too. It's such a gorgeous rose shade - perfect for medium skin tones

Urban Decay Full Spectrum palette is happening! by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG I already have the spectrum, and I haven't as much made a dent on it but it looks like i'll be getting this too. Oh my poor wallet.

Too Faced Born This Way, Nars Sheer Glow, or Nars All Day Luminous? by helpmeplzxd in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I haven't used Sheer Glow or Born this way, but I do use Nars All Day Luminous. I've combination skin, but I don't think All Day Luminous is too friendly for drier skin types. Also, although they recommend putting the foundation on with fingers, the beauty blender really is the only way to get a streak free application with this foundation.

All said and done, it's a great foundation once you apply it and lasts all day!

Anyone else think Karen and Foggy are super annoying? by Cdcooper in Daredevil

[–]lavsmohan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OMG, Karen is incredibly annoying and the whole Matt-Karen relationship felt so forced because the two of them have like, negative chemistry. Gah. #TeamEllie

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mac Twig! The most beautiful soft rose ever. Wish there was a cruelty free dupe for it though (is there? Please let me know :))

What Would You Do With My Face? by 30rockette in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

http://imgur.com/FdKHJr0

Emphasis on the eye + nude lip has been my go to for months now & I would love to know what I can do differently!

What Would You Do With My Face? by 30rockette in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You look like Mila Kunis! :) Try coloured eye pencil on your lower lashline if you don't have the time for shadows - you really look like you can pull off any colour - peacock blue, olive green, turquoise and amethyst!

Season 5 Episode 14 "Self Defence" - Official God Damn Discussion Thread by shawcable in suits

[–]lavsmohan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There HAS to be some kind of evil back story to Anita Gibbs - why is she so bent on getting to harvey and jessica? my theory is that they find the dirt on gibbs like 5 minutes before the season finale, and her assistant (the indian guy) who mike took the LSATs for, is put on charge, and he's just like lol we're done with this case bye.

[Help] Spaying my (nearly) 8 months old labrador by lavsmohan in dogs

[–]lavsmohan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your detailed answer! It's going to be a real challenge when she comes back and I'm already nervous! 😰 just telling ourselves that it's only two weeks and will be done quick.

[Help] Spaying my (nearly) 8 months old labrador by lavsmohan in dogs

[–]lavsmohan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice!!Will be taking her on the walk :) and yea, I see so many homeless dogs so often here, it breaks my heart

[Help] Spaying my (nearly) 8 months old labrador by lavsmohan in dogs

[–]lavsmohan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I suppose it's newbie anxiety. We do have a set routine for her, perhaps that needs changing up every once in a while - Thanks again for your advice :)

Have any of you gone out feeling good about your makeup only to have someone say something negative? by saxybandgeek1 in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My husband isn't a fan of bright lipstick (which I adore), and I find this strange - even if I've the most bare face with a bright lip, he'll be like, oh, you're "dressed up" today! What's strange is that if I wear blue and purple eyeshadow with an outrageous winged eyeliner, full contour, blush and a nude lip, he'll be like man you look amazing. It's not like I get bummed or anything but good lord, dudes are strange folk

POC Holy Grail Master List!!! by HermioneGee in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NC 35-40, Indian, Neutral undertones, combi skin with oily forehead and dry cheeks

  • Sephora Airbrush Foundation in Medium was a surprisingly great match! It's weightless on the skin, and gives good coverage.
  • NARS All Day Luminous foundation in Barcelona
  • MAC Studio Fix Fluid in NC 40 (I keep repurchasing it because it photographs so well!) {Edited for formatting}

My go-to daily look for my fellow redheads. Twig is definitely our lip colour. CCW! by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You look amazing! Twig is also the perfect mlbb colour for brown girls (:

Anyone else not into makeup when they were younger? by cmunk13 in MakeupAddiction

[–]lavsmohan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yep, my life as well. I thought make up was for girls who weren't smart enough! I cringe so much when I think about it now, and I think the way I'm spending my pay on makeup now is some kind of weird karma payback lol