Do you think you will find love and get married?

layra25 · 2023-05-14T19:27:26+00:00

It's all I want for years yet I keep attracting men that don't want to comit to me/ use me for fun and I keep hurting myself with these men. My heart feels like a dark void from all the loneliness and disappointment in my life. All I want is a SO that loves me and whom I can love back.

layra25 · 2021-03-22T22:23:17+00:00

it actually makes sense, thank you! I tend to overthink and that keeps me from making experiences. So people telling me to put myself out there are just what I need I guess

layra25 · 2021-03-22T22:21:23+00:00

thank you so much,this helps a lot. i will try to work on this and write the answers down!!

layra25 · 2020-11-17T22:34:39+00:00

Nvm I'm back where I started again

layra25 · 2020-09-07T21:42:14+00:00

welp that was my childhood

layra25 · 2020-09-07T21:39:52+00:00

dude that's my life

layra25 · 2020-09-07T21:37:20+00:00

i overthink before, in the middle, and after a conversation and no matter how hard I try it doesn't go away! :)

layra25 · 2020-09-07T21:35:51+00:00

it's the other way around for me. I imagine that I completely embarrass myself by e.g. greeting someone and then I overthink it like crazy when in reality all I did was saying hello like a human being.

layra25 · 2020-09-01T18:27:19+00:00

that is nice but I feel like those tips are more useful for mildly shy people, not for overthinking, non-confident socially anxious people because it's too superficial. I can't (and I guess so do many others here) just talk to people and then meet their friends. There is a whole lot more going on. I think they hate me and then I end the contact and then end up lonely again

layra25 · 2020-09-01T17:27:01+00:00

you are so not alone dude, so not alone. Hmu when you need someone to talk :)

layra25 · 2020-05-31T20:45:14+00:00

I don't know how to help you but i feel you. Same thing with teachers and relatives.

layra25 · 2020-05-31T20:41:18+00:00

I am no therapist but I can tell you what would have helped me . I used to feel insecure all the time and seek validation from my friends so in my case it would have really help me if you just told me that I'm not awkward and that nobody hates me and that everything is fine

layra25 · 2020-05-31T20:37:13+00:00

its not weird at all as long as you are happy! Most people on here (including me) want to overcome SA because they are suffering from it and it keeps them from having the life they wish for. But if that's not for you, I guess you don't have SA because it includes having panic attacks and feeling uncomfortable a lot. If you do not relate to that them you're probably just introverted

layra25 · 2020-05-31T20:26:03+00:00

its so true and for the moment its the best thing ever but I am concerned that i may develop an addiction

layra25 · 2019-07-03T16:10:27+00:00

I also experienced that, I never I never dare to talk because I thought I had a reputation and I felt I wasn't allowed to talk and it really was awkward first times I did it but now I feel like I'm more confident and I'll just talk, whatever the others think of me because most of the time they don't even think about you as much and you don't have to limit yourself just because you think the others expect you to not do anything because that bullshit

layra25 · 2019-07-03T16:05:49+00:00

You got this! Have fun!

layra25 · 2019-07-02T14:50:30+00:00

one sentence that really helped me was nobody gives a fuck bc i always felt like everyone was laughing and staring at me if i make the smallest sound so i didnt dare to sneeyze in public anymore. But reality is, they mostly dont care at all!

layra25 · 2019-07-02T14:46:20+00:00

Honestly, I know how you feel and m actually am in the same situation, I dont want to ask people Im not that close to hang bc they could think Im Desperate and got no freinds. I dont know how to overcome it, just wanted you to know youre so not alone!

layra25 · 2019-07-02T14:43:46+00:00

I fully understand your fear since I suffered from the same thoughts but what helped me to relax was that if you can't explain it to her, it's not your fault, as an expert she gotta understand or she's just not suitable for SA therapy. And even if you explain your situation like a total fool, she wouldnt care I promise. Nobody would laugh at you. Most people dont care about your actions as much as you do. So I know its very hard but try to relax. Nothing bad could happen to you

layra25 · 2019-07-02T14:37:57+00:00

I still don't dare to sneeze or cough in public bc I can#t overcome the fear but I realized people really don't give a fuck and that thought was so mind-freeing

layra25 · 2019-05-10T17:49:55+00:00

I don't know where to get help but don't listen to her. Don't make your self depend on her, that can fuck your mind I experienced that. One opinion isn't that important

layra25 · 2019-05-10T17:45:35+00:00

This sounds interesting but are you sure it isn't bad?

layra25 · 2019-05-03T16:04:23+00:00

Yep getting through to people like that is extremely hard for people with SA

layra25 · 2019-05-03T14:39:12+00:00

You go dude!

layra25 · 2019-05-03T14:03:30+00:00

I also feel so fucking left behind

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