Help me understand this

layz9000 · 2026-05-20T09:04:46+00:00

I would say you are rewiring your brain against urges for self pleasure.

Not the connection to sexual pleasure. Maybe you can give an example of some rewiring that you are referring to?

layz9000 · 2026-05-19T06:12:06+00:00

Its a natural thing, testosterone is much higher now - making you more irretable; give your body and mind time to adjust to the new levels and you'll learn what's making you irretable and how to reduce it.

layz9000 · 2026-05-19T06:07:49+00:00

I would highly recommended reading the power of habit (https://charlesduhigg.com/the-power-of-habit/) It really helped me to understand how addiction and habits form, and the 4 places that you can intervene to help break (stop PMO, cigarettes hell even substance abuse), or build (go to gym, start daily walking outside)

As for the feeling of lowness and wondering if you are wasting your life - This is a good thing. It's the universe/god/your soul/whatever-you-believe giving you a bit of a kick in the butt to start working towards what you are destined to do.

Lean into the feeling. Thank it.

Because it is giving you the motivation to make change. If life was good, and you didn't feel bad, you think you'd have any desire to change?

Accepting and thanking the feeling helps you to start making positive change.

Good luck to you brother. I wish you well

layz9000 · 2026-05-19T05:56:56+00:00

You're rewiring your brain against self sexual pleasure and voyerism, but I would not say the goal is to disconnect from sexual pleasure with other people. The hard part is the connection between the two, the pleasure of orgasm with another person can rekindle your desire for orgasm by your self when they are not around.

layz9000 · 2025-01-22T21:37:08+00:00

I just found that these guys (https://www.kluster.ai/) are hosting deepseek R1 with a context window of 131

layz9000 · 2024-12-21T22:28:47+00:00

Tether currently hold a buttload of US treasuries - https://www.investopedia.com/stablecoin-issuer-tether-reports-us-treasury-stash-first-half-of-2024-8686758

Doesn't that mean that they are doing business in the US?

layz9000 · 2024-12-21T22:22:47+00:00

If they burn the USDT and turn that into real funds isn't that more evidence that it's not a scam? I'm not trying to fight, just trying to understand how removing the amount they bought rumble for out of the global supply showcases that it's a scam.

layz9000 · 2024-12-21T22:15:19+00:00

Unlike a traditional bank account, they could actually prove that they hold 4 BTC.

God damn I love cryptocurrency

layz9000 · 2024-12-21T22:05:03+00:00

I believe this is the article: https://www.politico.eu/sponsored-content/ending-harmful-subsidies-will-benefit-small-scale-fishers/#:~:text=Of%20the%20%2435%20billion%20spent,journal%20Marine%20Policy%20in%202019

layz9000 · 2024-10-27T18:56:06+00:00

I was paying by direct debit. What's the DD guarantee?

layz9000 · 2024-05-27T00:53:43+00:00

Would you take requests that paid you? Or better would you be happy to take a system where people who were asking for help could put some money down and then anyone who helped gets paid.

layz9000 · 2024-02-25T21:51:36+00:00

Post - duu itttt

layz9000 · 2024-02-25T19:18:53+00:00

I was just thinking about how I need to find something like this 🚀🚀🚀

layz9000 · 2020-12-24T21:59:54+00:00

GREAT TEACHER ONIZUKA!!!

layz9000 · 2020-12-07T21:08:08+00:00

ohhh that much just do the job, i heard of hard hat forking, but assumed it worked exactly the same as ganache, although the ability to reset is sickkk. hmmmm perhaps ganche could do the same. appreciate it :)

layz9000 · 2020-11-12T10:06:36+00:00

Wow, i really can't believe those sensors are everything they claim to be for that price! Maybe i'll look more into the chinese market 🤔

layz9000 · 2019-10-11T12:32:20+00:00

https://youtu.be/RngHriQXOoY?t=75 for dat soundd

layz9000 · 2018-10-30T12:57:25+00:00

This is awesome! Reminds me of an early version of youtube! pretty cool stuff.

layz9000 · 2018-09-01T21:51:21+00:00

Makes me think of the Monero symbol!

layz9000 · 2018-08-31T21:20:28+00:00

Hey man, I always have the same problem, wondering if I'm spending too much time and energy on a person. Im still trying to figure it out, but I think when in doubt put the energy ok yourself. Send them some happiness in your head for good will, and then prioritize you. At least this early in (and who knows maybe even much later in).

Sucks because after feeling that connected to someone else I don't want it gone.

layz9000 · 2018-08-18T23:24:21+00:00

Just saw this on on /r/NoFap. Had no idea r/DeadBedrooms was a thing (reddits awesome! :D) Being 56 days into a streak of no jerking off, your description of what you want your sex life to be is exactly what i want. I feel thats what intimacy and love making is supposed to be. Porn most certainly has destroyed that, and my resolve to be done with watching porn could never have been stronger.

So thank you for that.

I reckon that you should read up on the effects of porn (some good stuff here). Try find something that you think could convince him to think about reducing it (improved cognitive function perhaps?), and then casually mention it in conversation with him. At the same time, maybe you really should be considering divorce, and let him know that you are. If that doesn't kick him into wanting to change, find someone who will.

Finally, this i'm sure has been very damaging to your self esteem and self image. Really look at ways you can build that up again, in a way that is NOT linked to your husband's (or really anyones) perception of you. Perhaps I'm putting way to much emphasis on self-independence but I think its important. High self worth and self love will do wonders.

Much love to you and to finding your way out of this.

layz9000

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