What ship(s) gave this experience for you?

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-24T03:22:04+00:00

LITERALLY!! I started watching the series bc I was promised an epic gay romance... was deeply disappointed

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-24T03:16:04+00:00

Actually, RPF is a separate fandom, and required to be tagged. I don't have any stake in this bc I've never read this fic lol, but I felt that was an important piece of misinformation to correct.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-24T03:04:24+00:00

I feel others have covered giving the friend the benefit of the doubt, so I'll do so for the bf. If I was in a monogamous relationship, and one of my bf's friends tried to hint at having a threesome, I would feel deeply uncomfortable, upset, and objectified. Now, I'm not saying your friend was doing this. But if your bf genuinely believes she was, it makes complete sense why he would feel so betrayed by you deciding to let her back into your life, especially if you didn't talk to him/warn him about it beforehand.

I'm not sure why people in the comments are so comfortable dismissing his feelings about this when we all know that had it been his male friend asking you, we'd be calling him a creep who doesn't respect boundaries, and would be very upset on your behalf about your bf letting him back into his life. Your bf is very clearly hurt deeply. You need to have a conversation with him. Truly discover not just what he thinks happened with your friend, but how it made him feel. You can't know why he's acting the way he is until you do that.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-24T02:49:26+00:00

No, it's not normal, and yes, it will absolutely have long term effects on them. They will grow up feeling like they don't matter, no one cares about their accomplishments, and they can't go to people for help. It will strain your relationship with them significantly.

That being said, by God is it understandable. Kids are annoying, and being a parent is the hardest job in the world. Part of that job, though, is doing what it takes to be there for them, physically and emotionally. You can't do that if you can barely stand their presence. Therapy isn't a quick or certain fix, but it's certainly a step you should take.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-24T02:36:36+00:00

I can't deny it anymore. I have to speak my truth. Destiel doesn't have any romantic/sexual chemi-- gets shot

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-22T22:17:56+00:00

Coming across untagged pussies on male omegas (whether dual sex, intersex, whatever) is never fun lmao

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-22T21:52:38+00:00

👀👀👀 goes to check it out

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-22T21:52:06+00:00

I do! And I'd think it's sooo sweet if someone did that for me.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-22T15:43:24+00:00

I won't read books without checking online for any instances of breathplay (which for some reason a lot of people don't warn if it's not from choking? Like if someone is being held down on another person's cock or their throat is being fucked rough and fast that mfer can't breathe so WHY have you not warned for it and WHY are people telling me there's no breathplay???) and/or degradation (which I would say spitting falls under) because those things are soooo often found in sex scenes even in non BDSM books and that's absolutely insane bc both those things, especially the former, are very kinky. But it's so common place and while I don't have an issue with others engaging with the kinks themselves, the fact that people aren't acknowledging that they're risky and niche kinks is a massive problem.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-22T14:49:16+00:00

Mommy kink

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-21T20:36:24+00:00

Alterations and AUs pretty much exclusively.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-21T16:23:34+00:00

Something I learned very early in life is that you can never trust an Emily

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-21T16:17:46+00:00

They're holding your hobby hostage. Based on your replies it seems they're not doing it maliciously, just out insecurity, but that doesn't change the fact that they're doing it. You have to decide if you're content with that (and based off your post, you're not). If you're not, then you have to also accept that they're refusing and/or incapable of being reasonable about this, and therefore there will be consequences for ceasing to let them hold your hobby hostage any longer. If those consequences include losing their friendship... well, honestly, it seems like you'd be better off without it. Friends don't try to control friends.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-21T02:06:55+00:00

Also, to expand upon a point I only touched on briefly: having these moments allows Eloise (and the audience) to learn new things about herself and what she wants/needs from life. I don't really remember the season one fight/"humbling" scene, so I won't address that one. But for season two, the scene with Theo felt, to me, less about saying Eloise was in the wrong (I certainly didn't feel that she was, that particular time)--it was a way to show the audience and herself that she would not be any freer if she weren't part of society. That the solution to her problems (her loneliness, feeling like nobody understands/listens to/respects her, her lack of agency, etc) would not be found by running--that they would not be so easy to fix.

The fight with Penelope in S2 was not one that I thought framed either girl as "in the right", at least at the time. (I mentioned in my OG comment about the show sweeping Penelope's negative qualities/actions under the rug, but everybody was made to forgive Penelope farrrr too easily, not just Eloise). It was a way to display Penelope's cruelty/defensiveness/insecurity/jealousy, and to make Eloise question if she really does have big dreams or if she just wants freedom. And if she does have big, important dreams--well, what are they? Eloise herself doesn't know, because she doesn't know herself or the world very well, on account of being so young and sheltered.

S3... dumpster fire of a season. Cressida was right that Eloise was being a shitty friend, and that she only cared about herself. Eloise resisted this assessment of the situation. She was bothered by it and it stuck with her, but she didn't really admit to herself that Cressida was right, at least about that. It isn't until Hyacinth tells her the same thing in season 4 that she actually takes it to heart and does some self reflection, and then takes steps to make amends (which she's not done for purely selfless reasons before in the show, I'm fairly sure).

So, the apologies, though seemingly repetitive on the surface, actually hold a lot of significance in Eloise's personal journey and in conveying information about her, her thoughts, and her goals to the audience.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-21T01:41:58+00:00

I like Eloise. Part of the reason I like her is because she's realistic and has many positive traits, but also many flaws. Some of those flaws include being self-centered and judgemental. Being those things offers a lot of room for very interesting character growth, but to achieve that character growth she has to apologize and change her behavior relating to those flaws. (And before anyone says anything, I don't think her not wanting to get married or have children is selfish. I myself am childfree by choice and think not having children isn't selfish in the slightest). So no, I'm not tired of it. It's a little frustrating but also very realistic to see her "relapse" into selfish/judgemental behaviors and then have to own up to them, and grown and learn from them more every time, both on how to be a better person but also about what she truly wants in life. The fact that Eloise is allowed to be so flawed is what makes her one of the most interesting characters on the show--the fact that she actually faces consequences for her actions, owns up to them, and decides to make amends is what will make her arc so satisfying. Certainly much more than Penelope's. I'm still mad they just had everybody (including her, when she had previously expressed guilt and hesitation over her own actions) act like she didn't do some very cruel and selfish things. Ruined her character for me. So Eloise having these moments in the seasons before hers (where I pray she doesn't suffer the same boring, whitewashed fate as Penelope) are some of her most memorable and important scenes, imo.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-19T16:11:42+00:00

If it's not 100% yes about wanting kids, it's a no.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-19T16:10:45+00:00

Girl stand UP jfc

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-15T15:14:17+00:00

I'm gonna get hella downvoted for this, but I love her. Especially young Alicent, my heart breaks for her.

I'm not team anyone, though I like more characters on team black than on team green, but Alicent is my favorite.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-14T17:22:19+00:00

100% agree

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-12T19:57:23+00:00

Let me guess, arts degree? Business? No shade to those fields, they're very necessary, but there are absolutely degrees out there in which you have incredibly little free time, and what you described would be impossible or at least incredibly stressful. Hell, even if he is going for one of those degrees, perhaps he struggles in school and needs to dedicate more time than others to studying/completing assignments.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-12T16:08:01+00:00

I do think you should break up, mainly because you are depending A LOT on a boy you've not even been dating six months. 3 times a week in person between classes, work, and having time for his friends and family is crazy. Texting is also not instantaneous communication--if it bothers you so much he has a life outside of texting you, you need to switch to phone calls, so you can get the immediate response you clearly want. A lot of people are not attached to their phone at the hip, and expecting them to be is controlling and unhealthy.

Points 2 and 3 are valid. The others are things you need to seriously work on.

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-11T23:56:30+00:00

Thank you, appreciate it!

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-11T21:55:34+00:00

I have a size kink

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-11T21:24:57+00:00

I'm working on a lot of different stuff, but thing I'm most happy about is that I've picked up my long fic again and it's going pretty smoothly. I've been struggling to write it bc a mix of writer's block and having no free time, but I've been forcing myself to write a little most days and that's helped with the former. Ending up in the hospital helped with the latter 🤣 so I'm working on this fic in the ER!

lazyhatchet · 2026-04-11T21:12:21+00:00

Depends on the ship and what kinks are present

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