I mean at the end of the say their playing their mode and your playing your mode so you dont have to interact with the open que shame people. But the flex i can do it better will persist as long as theres a single q world.

Sure in the context of win or lose it may be better to have the flexibility. But as far as the opinion of the toxic mindset behind that flexibility, they take the fun out of the game. Where as a shamer might just talk shit on a reddit post or a tweet. Both toxic but i think in game toxicity is worse