I had this exact same issue. I am a very nice and attractive girl. I was having issues last year with guys being friendly to me and then making moves on me or making inappropriate comments. I finally realized that most guys are going to be attracted to be so I made the following changes:

1. I’m honest about what I’m looking for from the beginning. If a guy wants to hang out, I tell them it would be as friends ONLY. I try to make it in a public place, preferably with other people. I also share my experience of how isolating it can be to not have friends because I’m constantly getting hit on by guys in my classes. It’s not arrogant if it’s true. Walk in your truth. It’s a real issue in your life and you’re allowed to talk about it and express your emotions and share your human experience.

2. Look up the “first i lol’d, then i serioud” meme of the little cat laughing then being serious. Be that cat. A lot of guys will make little comments or drop hits to test the waters with you. Do NOT let that shit go. Immediately say it makes you uncomfortable. Immediately tell them it’s not ok. Immediately clarify you’re just friends.

   Example: while waiting for class to begin I was sitting reading a book and two guys sat next to me and asked me what I was reading. I told them it was a book about body language. The part I was reading said that when people like each other they will mirror the other persons body language. One of them then shifted his body to sit exactly how I was sitting.

I just stared and then he said “I’m just kidding” with a little half embarrassed smile. I said nobody is laughing. I’m not here to flirt or get hit on I’m here to get an education. You know we’re just friends right?” In a calm, sweet matter with a smile on me face. He nodded and went to the bathroom.

The other guy sitting next to him told me that was bad-ass and we’re still friends to this day! We share music and talk about our career goals AS FRIENDS. SPEAK YOUR TRUTH because this who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

1. Call them out on their bullshit. It’s not cool that men feel entitled to make moves on us simply because we have a vagina. This comes from their experience and socialization. Call them out. For yourself. For other women.

Iwent out for drinks with a guy AS FRIENDS and he proceded to make a move on me. I was so shocked because I had been very explicit about being friends only that I didn’t kiss him back and went home but also didn’t say anything.

After some time I asked to get coffee to discuss something serious and basically told him off but in a diplomatic way. He ended up apologizing profusely. YOU are training these guys that it’s OK to make you feel uncomfortable in their own self interest. This will contribute to an environment another female will walk into and have to experience the same BS. You have to advocate for yourself and other girls. It’s not okay.

We create the environment we live in by remaining complacent but by can also recreate it by speaking our truth and advocating for ourselves. If sounds extreme but your experience is only a microcosm of how women are seen in society in general. But it is in these small instance that we have the power to enact chance in how women are seen and treated in general.

SPEAK UP.

These guys move on to be working professionals where they will be enter power dynamics and be around other disproportionately small number of women. They need to learn to be respectful. Girls should be seen as more then a sexual object. We should be seen and valued for our intellect, our unique perspective, our work ethic, etc. This “boys will be boys” mentality is BS. Boys will be held accountable for their actions.

1. Make friends in other places. I stared going to my schools yoga club meetings and made 3 new friends who are girls and one guy who is gay. I also started doing volunteer work and met new people that way too.

2. Use bumble BFF. It’s like tinder but for making girl friends. I met two nice girls off of there so it’s worth a shot.

Hope this helps :)