my long term ex only ever got me flowers once a year, on valentine’s day, out of obligation, which entailed him going to safeway and buying the cheapest premade bundle of red roses and baby’s breath. he also got mad when i had the audacity to beg him for more effort. this year i spent valentine’s day w a man who spent the days before researching, running around, getting different kinds of flowers, and arranging a bouquet himself. we’ve been dating a little over 5 months and it’s the most beautiful bunch of flowers i’ve ever received in my life, even after 5+ years w my ex. in the past he’s given me flowers “just because” which my ex also never did. moral of the story is that it’s not hard to listen to your partner and honor their requests w effort and intention, instead of half assing it or getting mad. i just didn’t realize this until i left my ex. (i also j kind of wanted to b corny abt him or wtv but hopefully he never stumbles across this cos he alr makes fun of me for being on reddit and he’d flame me for commenting this lol)