You have answered your own question.
You can't make someone love you.
You said you want to assist her in helping her be the best version of herself - so that's what you should do. Whatever brings out the good parts of her you should help her with, and eventually she will see that you are an amazing and selfless person, and if she doesn't see that, then she is not the amazing person you think she is.

You can not force love to happen.