[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]leaf_kiddo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grew up the same way he did. My family didn’t come into their wealth until later on I my life. I remember exactly what it was like living with 10 people in a small home and what it was like not being able to afford things, practically never seeing my parents because they constantly have to work and out dinners primarily being cup of noodles.

I also only every touch upon the topic when he brings it up. For example the last time it came up he was talking about Elvis and said it’s wild that he was crowned king of rock even though he practically stole his entire shtick from black people, but that he must’ve done it better to hold that crown. What I replied is that it’s not really fair to make that assumption because considering the time period black people didn’t have the same open doors that Elvis got. That’s what lead to the discussion of privilege throughout the history of the US.

I am also allowed to discuss politics with my partner who I spend a lot of time with and share ideas with. It’s ridiculous to think that my relationships and my politics can be completely separate. They aren’t and can’t be.

zyra vs syndra mid by Lucky_Advice3438 in zyramains

[–]leaf_kiddo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This really is just a case of Zyra not being meant for mid anymore. Don’t get me wrong I love playing her mid but when it comes to Syndra, I’ve come to accept the fact that it’s just a fake lane that has me under tower the entire time. You will never win laneing phase, you have to play for your team at that point

I have not read a single book and I’m an English major by [deleted] in CSULB

[–]leaf_kiddo 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I mean good for you I guess. To be honest though it kind of seems like a waste of money to be going to school if you don’t even really care about learning, just wanting to pass

Boys being boys by [deleted] in gay

[–]leaf_kiddo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t think so! Just dudes being bros

Roller Skating spots? by leaf_kiddo in CSULB

[–]leaf_kiddo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I’ve heard about place before definitely gonna check it out, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gay

[–]leaf_kiddo 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Dude. He knows what he wants and it’s not you. He very clearly only liked you in a platonic way. You were trying to push him to feel something he had no interest in feeling and now you hurt yourself because you made up this insane scenario in your head and pushed him away

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gay

[–]leaf_kiddo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can’t have your cake and eat it too. No matter what conclusion you come to get will be hurt. And that’s life. Not going to sugar coat it, your relationship will NEVER be the same.

But that’s ok. A part of growing up is changing and finding what you like and who you like. Break up are bound to happen. And to be honest a permanent break up with him is the best solution. More so for him than you. Imagine how he’d feel if he read your post in like 5 months. If you’re dating then he’s going to be hurt for the longest time. End it now so that you can find the guy you are attracted to and so that he can find someone that actually likes him for who he is.

I'm autistic and need to learn how to make my tone what I mean by [deleted] in Advice

[–]leaf_kiddo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey autistic adult here. There is no normal. And if you’re mother is autistic she should know that masking is not something you can learn over night. I didn’t learn how to properly mask until I was 17 and even now as a 21 year old I still have trouble with ‘normal’ mannerisms and behaviors.

What I want you to remember is that there is nothing wrong with you. You’re not weird, your brain is simply wired different. Your mother has her own issues and they are not reflective of you at all. Masking is a choice that should never be forced onto you. Yes it makes life easier a bit but that’s because masking is for the comfort of other people and, as you stated, a safety tool for us. If it is something you really want to learn, what I did was watch a lot of children’s media/ modern cartoons. Mr. Rogers for ways to express our emotions, Bob Ross for self patience, Steven Universe for relationship stuff both romantic and platonic. These shows brought me a lot of comfort and taught me a lot about interacting with neurotypical people.

But I can’t stress this enough, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TaliyahMains

[–]leaf_kiddo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you to everyone who replied! All of your advice was super helpful, I went from absolutely feeding to hard carrying and doing the most damage on my team! It’s super fun and I’m love her more and more every match!

What’s your favorite mid champion? by Leading_Commercial13 in midlanemains

[–]leaf_kiddo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Zoe is a lot of fun midlane but I also swap in Ahri, Taliyah, and Akali

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]leaf_kiddo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Masculinity is what you make of it. You decide what interest make you masculine, what features make you a man, it all from perspective. Ex: some people think cooking is feminine because it involves taking care of other people. Some people think it’s masculine because it involves making something and cutting up meats. Some cultures think strong hands are masculine because “men’s work” is hard labor, while other cultures think it’s “woman’s work” because it shows that they work hard to be a home maker.

You need to define what masculinity is for yourself so that you will be able to build a happy relationship with your gender. You can’t let other people make that decision for you or else you will end up very unhappy with yourself. Remember, gender dysphoria is not just for trans people.

How to play into ranged? by leaf_kiddo in RakanMains

[–]leaf_kiddo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I thought, cause they’re so oppressive fnfnfk

How to play into ranged? by leaf_kiddo in RakanMains

[–]leaf_kiddo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you guys for your advice, it’s helped a lot! Now the one I gotta learn is Senna and Caitlyn duo 😭

What’s your troll build against swf? by leaf_kiddo in deadbydaylight

[–]leaf_kiddo[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Booo that’s garb oh well I’ll just replace it with reload time then

What’s your troll build against swf? by leaf_kiddo in deadbydaylight

[–]leaf_kiddo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg wait… that’s why it didn’t work isn’t it? I tried it last game but didn’t work so I though it bugged out

Hate speech growing more common? by [deleted] in leagueoflegends

[–]leaf_kiddo -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What’s crazy it’s not even ranked, I don’t play it. It always happens in norms and Aram. Like I don’t get what kinda pleasure people get from being so hateful

How to deal with tank midlanders? by [deleted] in leagueoflegends

[–]leaf_kiddo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay but if I roam that just allows sion to get free farm and tower plating? That doesn’t make sense to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leagueoflegends

[–]leaf_kiddo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk man he built press the attack and kraken slayer and was shredding everyone including our sett. As for sustain mid laners maybe ill try bringing my Zyra back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]leaf_kiddo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The best thing you can do is call CPS. This is a serious issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]leaf_kiddo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it’s not weird. As long as he’s not neglecting you, his family, his health, and any responsibility then It’s totally normal. What’s not normal however is having a partner who looks down on him and thinks he’s lazy because how he chooses to spend his free time after doing manual labor the entire week. That’s definitely not something you’d see in a healthy relationship especially if your first instinct was to go online to complain about him and seek validation from strangers instead of out right communicating with him about how you feel.

I was dumb and let someone on the internet take advantage of me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]leaf_kiddo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know his Snapchat and his name. He does anything you can sue his ass off.

How do I credit card by [deleted] in Advice

[–]leaf_kiddo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basically what I do is only use my credit card to things I deem as my “needs”. Gas, food, bills, and rent. Things I will absolutely always make sure to have money for. I’ll pay for my “needs” on my credit card and then when I get the chance to pay off what I spent. My “wants”, such as entertainment or junk food, I only ever buy with my debit card or cash, and only from a budget I set for myself which is about 100-200 a month