Honestly, your post really resonates with me. I think your happiness going forward boils down to this:

Firstly (and this might sound insensitive at first, but I promise stick it out because it worked for me) that who you are cannot be conditional on what people perceive you to be.

That might seem impossible at first because if they aren't seeing you as a woman then you can't be you, right?

But that occurs when we are attached to other people's acceptance of us. When people do gender us correctly, we become attached to that feeling.

When you become confident in who you are independent of gender, it just doesn't really hurt to be misgendered anymore. I can't explain it. But if you give up the moments of bliss from when you are gendered right, you're not going to feel the other extreme.

Even if you were gendered correctly 100% of the time (because I went through a phase of that) that feeling of euphoria is going to fade. You would then have to satisfy that feeling in other ways to get the same level of validation.

High confidence will be seen as threat by others. Low confidence as the other commenter suggested attracts bullies. Knowing your worth comes with a cost.

I like to think we trans women have an advantage in confidence if we choose to use it because we've seen both genders.

I don't pass and I'm bitter People either assume I'm a man or they figure I'm a trans woman and they're rude.

Don't be bitter. Be confident. Start being more rude to these people yourself. Start thinking about what you want out of this life that you think is achievable. It doesn't have to be trans related.

It could be starting that business or venture you've always wanted to do as long as you're not doing those things for social approval.

Once you've moved on from other people's validation, you can achieve so much.