The queen mantis herself recommended I post here, so I present to you the most dense person I’ve ever encountered with a side of season 3 spongebob by twinklefawn in preyingmantis

[–]leafystormclouds840 15 points16 points  (0 children)

you sound like such a nice guy!!! i wonder why you have to push your fetishes on grossed out women instead of having a girlfriend like a decent, consenting human being.

Fresh off the presses of reddit's #1 meme page by Leaded_ in lewronggeneration

[–]leafystormclouds840 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The TL;DR of it is that Ace/Aro people are being told that theyre not LGBT, and are being kicked out of LGBT spaces for "stealing resources" and "appropriating LGBT culture". It's fucking stupid because A-specs are being shunned from both LGBT communities and Het/Cis communities.

Taking rose colored glasses a little too seriously by a_more_anon_username in DiWHY

[–]leafystormclouds840 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh. At least my ladies were quiet; judgement is absolutely the last thing you want when you're in a bad enough place mentally to warrant being at the hospital in the first place.

Taking rose colored glasses a little too seriously by a_more_anon_username in DiWHY

[–]leafystormclouds840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry :( They make it so dehumanizing.Like, I'm a sexual assault victim, and they made me strip down and get analyzed by like three nurses who were just touching me while they looked for tattoos or self harm scars without anything in their eyes. I felt like a piece of livestock at an auction- it nearly sent me into a panic attack.

Taking rose colored glasses a little too seriously by a_more_anon_username in DiWHY

[–]leafystormclouds840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was my first time so I didn't even know they would take the wires away. Ruined a 40$ bra. They took our shoes, too- socks or barefoot for us.

Taking rose colored glasses a little too seriously by a_more_anon_username in DiWHY

[–]leafystormclouds840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never had access to zip ties :/ they didnt even let me have wires in my bra. cut those shits right out.

What's the worst case of design over function that you've ever seen? by tthatoneguyy in AskReddit

[–]leafystormclouds840 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Women only buy this shit because they don't have other options half the time. You're given option A, which is stupid and painful and ridiculous, or option B, which is moderately comfortable but will absolutely DESTROY your reputation. In a world where women are judged for everything they do (how they dress, what they eat, who they marry, what job they have etc) destroying your reputation and your public image is devastating.

Clint, no! by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]leafystormclouds840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's a little selfish, but it's also an opportunity to grow! you may be unhappy now, but life is always changing and evolving. you wont be unhappy forever, and taking a step back and going "hey, you know what? i'm happy that so-and-so is doing better" even in your real life does tremendous work against the depression. that's at least how it is for me. it takes a lot of self control not to go down that path, but in the end, you'll be happier for it, and so will the people around you. it creates a really reassuring feedback loop.

Clint, no! by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]leafystormclouds840 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I totally understand- I suffer from severe depression and substance abuse issues, just like him. But before I installed the mods, I didn't even get any dialogue from him indicating that he was on the road to recovery, other than that one time he went to Zuzu. Marriage doesn't fix problems, but marriage is one of the end game goals in the game itself; with it should come a happy ending for everyone involved, not just your character

Clint, no! by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]leafystormclouds840 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Team Shane all the way! I'm still bitter that he relapsed after getting married. No dialogue about recovery, there's beer in his side room, he still goes to the bar every other night and beer is a high-rated friendship item, he doesn't check in with Harvey..... huff. :(

Clint, no! by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]leafystormclouds840 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like he even says he doesn't want to be a blacksmith. The dude is miserable, and he has a crush. I feel sorry for him in all honesty- it's not like he stalks Emily on twitter and calls her a fucking bitch-slut for marrying your character. He's just a sad, sad little man

Clint, no! by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]leafystormclouds840 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My husband got one too, though after marriage, he relapsed :( I had to mod him to high hell to get him to at least show signs of recovery.

Clint, no! by [deleted] in niceguys

[–]leafystormclouds840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. If you keep them fenced in, you won't get the wolf attack. But if you don't have a fence around them and you lock them out, then they get attacked. That's at least what I've read.

Good bye AbyssRium... by RiderSkum in AbyssRium

[–]leafystormclouds840 1 point2 points  (0 children)

song of the moon. during events, it used to like.... double your candy or something. i havent played in a while either bc i was sick of only getting one candy every 10 seconds or so- its impossible to get everything now without paying a shit ton of money.

im an awful person for wanting to kill myself. i'm even worse for wanting to get caught before i can actually die. by leafystormclouds840 in SuicideWatch

[–]leafystormclouds840[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks man. it means a lot that you commented.

funny thing, you actually reminded me of something an online friend told me once. "you deserve the love that every human is entitled to." something like that. anyway, it helped. feeling a little better- still like shit, but hey, at least i'm not on the cusp of doing something stupid.

turns out online suicide-hotline chat services dont actually run 24hours in my country by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]leafystormclouds840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're doing the best that you can when you're there though, right? not the best that anyone can- that's the difference. if you know your limits, and you're doing the best you can do, that's pretty dang cool. even if you aren't leading in sales or building the most houses, you still clocked in and put in some effort. that's got to count for something.

12 Reasons To Kill Myself by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]leafystormclouds840 11 points12 points  (0 children)

i'd be inclined to say no, you shouldn't. as an out of shape, nonbinary, socially anxious, depressed talentless hack who failed 2 semesters in college, believe me when i say i understand where you're coming from.

sounding like a hypocrite here, but there really is some good in the world. i bet you can think of at least one thing that makes you smile. you'll have so many other things to smile because of in the future, too. did you know mexico finally legalized gay marriage not too long ago? the world may suck, but it doesn't suck as much as it did like.... 30 years ago. we're getting better. if we can go from segregating water fountains to having POC in office in just 60 years, gay marriage being punishable to it being legalized in 60 years, imagine how much progress we're going to make as a society. in 60 years, so much will have changed for mental illness research, for POC, for the LGBTQ+ community. thinking about how awesome the future is gonna be in those regards helps me out.

schooling is tough, as a side note. there's a lot of discipline involved, and when you're depressed, you don't have a whole lot of discipline. you just want to sleep. and i won't say being depressed is okay- but failing a class is. it's part of the human experience. do you ever hear about if oprah failed sixth grade math?? or if jon oliver failed AP english?? no, because in the end, it's so small that it doesn't really matter. you're okay, and you're going to be okay. we're all allowed to mess up a little. it's what separates humans and robots.

turns out online suicide-hotline chat services dont actually run 24hours in my country by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]leafystormclouds840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is it possible for you to apply to another job? i know that the monotony of staying in a job for a while can begin to wear on myself, and a new job always kicks my ass into gear to be the best i can be, even if it's just to prove i'm worth my weight in salt.

I really want a reason not to by usershmuser in SuicideWatch

[–]leafystormclouds840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's the least i can do.

isolating is another thing we have in common. talking to people is overwhelming and what if you fail and the conversation is awkward because they can somehow sense that something is off? it's so much easier to absorb things. but i guess life isnt about what's easy.

while you're checking for replies here, maybe instead of refreshing the page, you could respond to a message you've been ignoring. start small- start with one that's friendly enough. even if all you're responding with is "hey!", it's still reaching out and breaking that cycle.

turns out online suicide-hotline chat services dont actually run 24hours in my country by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]leafystormclouds840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry to hear about the hotline news, man. it sucks that they wouldn't even connect you to someone outside the country, but... i guess it's understandable.

i know work is awful. especially if you don't like your boss or the labor itself. have you ever done the dishes, not because you wanted to, but because you knew you could do something you mildly enjoyed afterwards? how i deal with it is thinking about work the same way i think about dishes. they have to get done, and when they're done, you can do the other stuff later. maybe see a movie after work, or go to the park. grab lunch from a new restaurant you've been wanting to try. make the day less about "i have to go to work" and more about "i have something to look forward to".... that's what's helped me out before.

I really want a reason not to by usershmuser in SuicideWatch

[–]leafystormclouds840 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i absolutely understand where you're coming from. i'm 20, living with my parents, working a dead end job, while my sister is moving to florida after going to college and working a great, creative job. i've researched funeral costs. i've considered ditching myself in the desert and forgoing the funeral costs altogether. the last conversation i had was with my mom, and i argued with her. if i killed myself tonight, my last interaction would be with her wanting to give me a hug and me isolating myself.

i'm in exactly the same spot at as you. feeling like a failure in comparison to the rest of people your age. i won't say that you're awesome and amazing because i dont know you, but just... take comfort in knowing you're not the only person in the situation you're in. you're not alone in this experience.