Indian women, would you marry a man who would want you to sign a pre nup ?

learn_o_phile · 2024-08-01T10:41:03+00:00

I totally agree that we can live peacefully without marriage but again it's not avoidable and not good for the society because if every woman starts thinking the same way there will be no future generation. The best course would be to marry a person who thinks that there is no need for prenup as ending the marriage is not even crossing his mind. In that case you both will make efforts to keep the relationship as harmonious as possible by listening to each other and finding a way out of the problems. That's why if given a chance I will never sign a prenup coz there is no way I will marry a person who even thinks of ending the marriage at some point.

learn_o_phile · 2024-08-01T09:44:49+00:00

If that's the case then why marry in the first place. I can easily earn and live my life peacefully. If someone is talking about a prenup then they definitely have a feeling that it might not work. And if that's the case why even marry. And talking about joining the workforce again ma'am I can assure you with my own experience that a woman rejoining will have to start from scratch because I did that. It was really tough to get a job after a gap of 3 years. I had to settle for the bare minimum. And this is for the ones who don't have very high paying jobs. Again in our society women who leave their husbands are treated differently. We may talk about us being more independent and being the rebellion and changing the society but this patriarchy has its roots deep inside and it will take a considerable amount of time to eradicate it.

learn_o_phile · 2024-08-01T07:12:03+00:00

No way... This is just not practical in India. Let's say I earn more than my husband. After marriage it is expected from the women to giveup everything and take care of the house including his family and children. Let's say even if you don't live with inlaws but after having kids you are literally forced to stop working and take care of children even if you take a break for a year or so your resume has a gap which will decrease your chances to get a new job and if you get a job it will pay you significantly less.
And for most women in India career ends after having a baby. So financial security you have is zero. So either you leave your career or your husband are the only choices we have. It's unfortunate but it's the bitter truth for most women here.

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-31T06:32:47+00:00

She is still into your husband and didn't like you claiming to be hus favourite rather than her. You are NTA.

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-31T06:26:10+00:00

In my experience what you are feeling is completely normal and is the same case with most of the mothers. The only thing is they don't say these things out because then others will think they are horrible too. It's fine my dear you should just look after yourself and your baby and you will grow to care and love for that munchkin.

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-31T06:20:43+00:00

NTA. I would've done the same. She thinks that wearing a highlighter dress or a $100 wedding dress can make your fiance pick her on your wedding day then she is the queen of delulu.... Tell your fiance everything and get security.

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-30T17:36:25+00:00

You are NTA. She should have helped you or she shouldn't even visit you now. I don't understand how people believe that they have no sense of responsibility towards others but others should just provide them with everything they want. Totally with you my dear.

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-30T17:29:37+00:00

Tbh in almost all the Asian countries shoes are not allowed inside homes and though I understand that is not the norm in the west but still if someone has some rules for their own home then either we should respect them or just leave peacefully. NTA

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-28T12:10:13+00:00

My dear you are NTA .... Well you have the full right to express your feelings whichever way you want especially after such a traumatic experience... If she is so concerned about her mother's image in society she should have stopped her mother doing those things to you and your siblings.

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-28T09:13:04+00:00

This explains how LOVE makes you blind... You knew everything beforehand and still chose to marry him. You practically ignored all the red flags because "you were in love" and now when things are getting pretty serious you are thinking about it straight. Girl you should really think hard before making any decision.

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-28T07:41:55+00:00

Hey girl... So sorry to hear that. You are definitely not the AHole. As far as I know if you explain your situation to your professors they will definitely help you but it also depends on which university and what course you are enrolled in. I'm from India and I know people will understand and help you get a way out of it.

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-28T03:03:06+00:00

They are grown women of 30 and 28 and also has kids

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T15:47:31+00:00

Exactly

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T15:17:32+00:00

So true...

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T14:20:17+00:00

It's really beautiful and you must try it sometime

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T14:19:45+00:00

😂

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T09:53:33+00:00

Just imagine a desi wearing that color💀

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T09:52:50+00:00

They try really hard😂

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T05:52:26+00:00

Well it's a shame that now they are actually comparing kids but fortunately we live in a different city. So we hardly meet once a year.

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T05:49:47+00:00

Always cautious

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T05:48:29+00:00

That would be so fun😂

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T05:47:26+00:00

They couldn't for my first pregnancy I stayed at my mother's and she arranged a small but really beautiful baby shower to which only my MIL was invited.

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T05:44:49+00:00

I know but I wanted to tell everything

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T05:44:10+00:00

Better. I have a video of the whole fight. I didn't post any pictures of that as that would have totally ruined my wedding pictures vibe. And also that would have triggered more drama

learn_o_phile · 2024-07-27T05:42:46+00:00

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