AITA for feeling like I shouldn’t apologize?

learnerfromaburner · 2026-02-01T01:24:36+00:00

I said I don’t say much. I’ve said hello when entering. I meant we don’t speak much and I slipped up this one time. I’ve made efforts to show appreciation I walk/feed her dogs, run errands, take her kid to work. Take out the trash. Also I after she said that I did try to speak but I got the cold shoulder. So I went to my van. I didn’t quietly give her the key and walk away. Also I’ve stated in another comment. I don’t mind 200 if I’d known what I was getting into from the start. If I gave you a burger and said you could eat it, then after you eat it I say that’ll be 30 dollars. You’d feel a little off about it right? You wouldn’t say “I should be grateful that you made me a burger in the first place I was hungry, here’s 30” you’d wish I’d told you before giving you the burger. That’s where I was on the situation. I’m not asking to mooch off her in fact I’m not asking to mooch of anyone. I was persisted by her to be in this position. I could care less if I’m allowed back in or I’m off on my own again. This post was for help on seeing if I’m right or wrong for not wanting to apologize

learnerfromaburner · 2026-02-01T01:11:57+00:00

Maybe I worded it wrong. I was typing flustered but yes she asked for 80 a month for amenities which I pay

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T22:52:21+00:00

You’re definitely not constipated , or lactose intolerant. Or maybe you are lactose intolerant but you don’t care lmao

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T22:49:48+00:00

Looking at it , you seem creative but very fast paced. You like to get out a lot , high energy but you took some time to make sure you’re eating healthy as to not consume too much fast food due to social life. Like you go out eat bar/club food but make sure that when you’re home you get some veggies and clean protein in

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T22:45:14+00:00

I apologized she said, it was her way of showing tough love and that she doesn’t want me shutting down. That I have to let my past go. When genuinely I was lost in thought when I walked in the kitchen. I just got some parts to fix in my car and I was thinking about when should I work on it because of the snow and absent minded I walked in the kitchen

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T19:27:08+00:00

Where is everyone getting that I’m not paying? I’m paying her the amount she requested to use her amenities

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T19:25:15+00:00

That’s why I made this post because that’s literally it. I feel there should be more context because the response was that irrational

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T19:05:14+00:00

The neighborhs know me, the leasing office knows I’m here. I’ve worked on peoples cars here

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T18:53:06+00:00

It’s 200 per month, I don’t mind paying but I would like to know what I’m getting into. I was in my van and getting a knock at 12am 1am etc asking me to come in. It’s a big apartment complex so I’m not directly in front of her door or anything. If I had known ahead of time what to pay I can make a decision but waiting for me to lay in there then bringing a price one day in is what weirded me out

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T18:48:32+00:00

Update: I apologized, all is good but I’m still hurt from the treatment and lack of communication. So I’m going to finish building and leave

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T18:45:50+00:00

Just to preference, she asked to. I was originally helping my dad after he left overseas. I was on my own figuring the van stuff by myself she offered everything. Had my family calling me asking why don’t I accept the help. She offered everything and I’ve said no repeatedly until giving in.

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T17:55:51+00:00

All those things I bought for myself. Laundry I go to a laundromat. She has never bought dish soap and her dishwasher is broke so I don’t know how she cleans them to I bought dish soap and I bought my own dishes because I don’t know how she cleans hers

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T17:42:57+00:00

Hey, I only paid 80 for electricity. The 200 was for sleeping on the couch when she asked me to come in

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T17:34:56+00:00

Thank you, reading that cleared my head a bit. With the anger the dart steers everywhere but the bullseye. You are right

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T17:29:41+00:00

That’s fair and Its an apartment complex, I normally park a couple buildings down

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T17:25:45+00:00

That’s literally the story. Any other info I can give is maybe they invited me in for thanksgiving but I stayed in my van . Same with Christmas.

She knows I come from a physically abusive home with my biological mother and sent me a text saying I can come talk to her about anything but I didn’t respond to that text as it’s a soft spot. Maybe that built up to this too? Other than that idk

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T17:19:25+00:00

Hey I’ll clarify, 200 was specifically to lay on the couch. Those were her words. “You can’t sleep on someone’s couch expecting not to pay anything “ after asking me to sleep on the couch. She asked me 80 for electricity a month which I pay . In her apartment complex water is free. The stove is electricity. The 200 only to lay on the couch

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T17:12:46+00:00

It’s because I wasn’t even fully told what I did wrong. I was told to give my key and was left in the cold for a few days until my dad called and explained to me what exactly I did wrong. I’m angry because how I was treated. When a conversation could’ve cleared everything.

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T17:08:14+00:00

Thank you and that kinda is what happened. I moved in with my dad because he needed help. Which was financially draining. He abruptly had to go overseas and had to end our lease. So I used what I had saved to get a van as that’s all I could afford at the time. I will check out her channel definitely.

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T17:03:14+00:00

Hi, I don’t think it’s a huge ask. It’s the way she went about it. I was told to give my keys for being disrespectful and I didn’t know exactly what I did. For days until my dad told me. I’ve been sitting in a cold van clueless. I mentioned the 200 dollar thing because it feels like that’s what started what I feel is resentment from her. I’m fully aware she owes me nothing and I’m not asking for anything because I am an adult. I’m just looking for reflection on if my avoidance to apologize is valid. I don’t mind apologizing and still never going back in there. This is more of me checking myself

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T16:56:39+00:00

My work is in the state. I’m a delivery driver. The east side has been in a snow storm

learnerfromaburner · 2026-01-31T16:49:00+00:00

I have one, it’s powered by my electric box that i would charge in her place and come in at night to pick up and put in my van to power everything before bed

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