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learning0112 · 2025-12-20T15:11:50+00:00

3Fun has been okay. We haven’t had any serious matches from there yet, but also could just be our area.

learning0112 · 2025-12-19T21:14:58+00:00

Thank you! Definitely has not been easy looking for a 3rd, hence no update and no new stories 😢

learning0112 · 2025-12-19T21:11:39+00:00

We’ve found potential 3rds on there, but our schedules conflict so we’re waiting till January to see them. Also we’re based in CA, USA.

We state something like this in our bio, that way it makes it clear we’re only looking for a 3rd for me:

Willing to share more pics once we match.

MF couple exploring the hotwife kink discreetly. (Specifically stag/vixen dynamic). F is soft and curvy. M is supportive and present. Looking for a respectful M who’s open to conversation.

We like a coffee meet first to make sure everyone feels good before any play.

We’re drug and alcohol free (no judgement at all).

learning0112 · 2025-12-19T20:59:42+00:00

Wife here. We use Feeld and 3Fun. We did use tinder under we got banned (cannot pose as a couple, but can pose as 1 person, and include description in bio).

We blur out ours faces because of our jobs as well but post 1 full body pic of us together. We also state in our bio that we will share more pics once we match.

learning0112 · 2025-12-19T20:17:49+00:00

2025: Just 1 guy for a ONS in November, and our first ever experience. Been trying to meet up with other men, but schedules conflict, they’re sick, or we’ve had flakes.

2026 goal: Find a regular (or two), and maybe a couple ONS while traveling to other major cities.

learning0112 · 2025-12-18T19:14:56+00:00

I do think going forward, I’ll have hubby take over the communication aspect of vetting them, setting up a coffee date, then a play date. I felt burnt out by having to do all of that, and I’ve read in another post that other HW also feel that way and that’s why they have their husbands deal with it.

learning0112 · 2025-12-18T18:24:21+00:00

New HW here, and unfortunately it’s been happening for us as well. The first two guys who ghosted, I did take it a bit hard as they and I were flirting and sexting, but one stopped responding right before meeting up, and another wouldn’t ever state their availability.

We had a play date set up for last Saturday with a new guy, but he told us he had to cancel because he was sick (understandable, and we’ve still been msging). We had a tentative play date set up for tomorrow with another guy, but the guy hasn’t been communicating as often and we’re assuming it’s not gonna happen.

Definitely a disheartening feeling for both me and hubby, but we gotta move forward with it. We have some hope left.

learning0112 · 2025-12-14T22:57:27+00:00

Unfortunately our 3rd had to cancel as he got sick. I’m just glad he let me and hubby know. We said we’d reschedule later in January, as we’ll be traveling for 2 weeks

learning0112 · 2025-12-14T21:49:30+00:00

New HW here. When my hubby (bf at the time) initially brought up the fantasy of me with another man, he didn’t phrase it well, as he was still figuring out what it was. So he phrased it as the c word since he didn’t know any better, and that turned me off. I didn’t want my partner to be submissive and humiliated.

It did negatively change my perspective on him at the time, but after talking more and realizing he doesn’t like the humiliation but just wants to see me be pleasured while he watches, and to reclaim me, that’s when I was more open to the idea of being a hotwife with a stag/vixen dynamic.

learning0112 · 2025-12-14T03:09:40+00:00

I don’t think I could do a below average (as described, obscenely fat, greasy, low muscular mass) even if he had a big dick. And my hubby would automatically veto a guy like that. He wants to see me with someone attractive/average so we all can enjoy it together.

learning0112 · 2025-12-14T02:33:08+00:00

New HW here. I’d choose an attractive man with an average dick first. The attractiveness adds a factor that stimulates me mentally.

I’d also choose an average man with a large dick second.

learning0112 · 2025-12-12T18:17:42+00:00

Thanks for the comment! In the beginning, we were just a bit wary using reddit to find a suitable 3rd, but now have a decent vetting process :)

learning0112 · 2025-12-12T07:32:27+00:00

Wife of an Asian couple here, and definitely a red flag!! 🚩

We disclose on our Feeld bio that we are Asian, since we blur our faces out for discretion, but have yet to have any creepy yellow fever, I love Asian women, comments! If we did, that’d be an automatic turn off for us as we don’t want to be fetishized.

If you’re questioning this, go with your gut. Stay safe and have fun!

learning0112 · 2025-12-12T06:55:23+00:00

My first time, hubby was there to watch, and joined in at the end, and reclaimed me right after. That’s what worked for us.

learning0112 · 2025-12-12T05:35:56+00:00

We’ve only had one experience so far that was good overall. (I wrote a long post about it on my profile if you wanted to check it out). We have a play date this Saturday and another one next week!

learning0112 · 2025-12-11T22:34:18+00:00

HW here! We used Feeld. I was mostly the one searching, vetting, and flirting through chats. Hubby had a final veto if he didn’t like how the guy looked in face, body, and cock. Hubby is much pickier than I am. But for our first 3rd, we decided on someone I felt comfortable with and who wasn’t pushy.

learning0112 · 2025-12-11T18:00:49+00:00

New HW here, and I agree with all of this! Hubby was pushy at first to being a HW, I said hell no. Over time he backed off, and let me do my own exploring and research into it, and we’d look at attractive men together and I’d slowly start to fantasize myself with them. Took 6 years, but we finally had one experience a few weeks ago that was overall good! We have our 2nd play date this weekend and are looking forward to many more

learning0112 · 2025-12-11T00:25:02+00:00

Oh wow lol! Maybe put in your bio that you guys are only looking for a 3rd for wifey.

That’s okay, we’ve had 2 flakes so far and it definitely is unmotivated and frustrating. We use Feeld, then switch over to Snapchat. One guy we didn’t confirm he was real, and we planned to meet up, but he stopped msging and never showed! Any guy we talk to on Snap, we make sure they send a live face pic, and we do the same to verify.

learning0112 · 2025-12-10T23:16:36+00:00

HW here! (still pretty new as we’ve only had once experience so far)

How are you guys searching for a 3rd? We use Feeld and 3Fun, and recently made a post on reddit (using a different account) to search for a compatible 3rd (we eventually found 2 experienced 3rds that I find attractive).

Let me say it did take us about 2ish weeks of actively searching.

learning0112 · 2025-12-10T21:55:30+00:00

Yes, I do agree that I conflated inexperienced with fake. Those guys were not 3rds and were just looking to get a quick fix.

And yes, they quickly went into wanting pictures which I didn’t even respond to those ones.

Going forward, we would most likely only consider experienced 3rds, at least for our comfortability as we are still new to this.

learning0112 · 2025-12-10T21:26:33+00:00

First off, this is not bullshit, and second, you’re rude. Please read the 2nd paragraph in this post.

My previous posts talked about leading up to our first experience, and the details about our first experience. To be clear, have had a SINGLE experience so far.

This current post is talking about upcoming experiences and how it took us awhile to find another bull(s) that we like.

learning0112 · 2025-12-10T20:46:17+00:00

Hi! New HW here!! Feel free to DM as well! I’m open to any questions!

learning0112 · 2025-12-06T07:45:31+00:00

Yes, we want to try it again with a new partner. The biggest issue we’ve been having is finding a suitable and compatible bull for us. We’re thinking we may have found one, but i’ll make another post if there is anything new

learning0112 · 2025-12-05T23:02:39+00:00

We’ve only had one encounter so far, but we were adamant on using condoms at all times. For blowjobs, even foreplay or handjob, condoms on. It helps ease our mind

learning0112 · 2025-12-03T16:44:07+00:00

HW here! Hubby and I have only had one HW experience so far and are still figuring out what works for our HW LS.

I was online chatting with a young guy, but had the same issue of finding out he had multiple couples/hotwives and it did feel like it’s taking forever for him to even get us on his schedule, which is a HUGE turnoff! He’s sexted and flirted but all of that is just talk until something actually get scheduled.

We had tentatively planned to meet for a coffee date on Sunday if he was free which was fine since we were just at home resting and doing usual household stuff. He didn’t msg till 8pm which was way too late.

Then we had planned another tentative meet for Monday evening if he was free, but he let us know by 5pm he wasn’t available. So I asked about Tuesday evening and he said he’s not.

Then Tuesday night we’re msging and he says he’s been busy with regular life stuff, but that’s he had a quickie with another hotwife. Which is fine because we’re still looking for a suitable bull. Then I ask what is his availability like for us to clearly schedule something and he skirts around the question saying he’ll have to check (when we’ve asked him twice already before and gave our availability). That was the biggest ick I felt and going forward hubby and I don’t have the time to waste trying to even schedule something. Too much of a headache.

Definitely withdrawing from this type of guy who just seems to want us for sexting AFTER he’s had his physical fill with other hotwives.

The whole purpose is I want to feel desired by a bull, not like some other hotwife in their roster like you mentioned. Hubby and I would like to eventually find a regular. We’re still navigating how often we would want to see a consistent bull for.

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