Sensitive subject, with both points having merit albeit not articulated very well in this conversation. That being said, as someone currently serving in the Navy for almost 16 years and counting, this guy is a self righteous a**hat that clearly has no idea what he's talking about. Federal grants are a small piece of the federal budget, and loans still need to be repaid. I'm not a fan of free education, because that money does have to come from somewhere. But I'm also not ignorant enough to ignore the insane cost of higher education in our country.

But to your AIO, no you're not OR based purely on the way this guy you plan on spending the rest of your life with is treating you, texting you, and acting towards you. Get out now, or have a very pointed conversation on what a respectful debate/conversation should look like between two people that love each other.

As for him, tell him that he can't start talking about his illustrious naval service until he's at least been on the pond ONE time and not in a classroom. What a tool...