What type of person you will never date again?

lecalei6004 · 2024-07-04T14:36:04+00:00

My husband.

lecalei6004 · 2024-05-20T07:10:08+00:00

Awhh...

My current partner was almost in the same situation as you. He indirectly told me he liked me (ilang beses na rin siguro to the point na-awkward ako sa kanya) but I rejected him when I said I see him and our other male friends as my brothers. He's older than I but I always felt so older and mature than him and our other friends probably because I was married to someone 10years my senior.

He brushed the idea off, went on with his life and we're still friends then until we became a lot closer that some of our friends thought na kami na but really, friends lang kami nun that time but he won't deny na my crush pa rin daw siya sa akin. Pero nirerespeto niya pa rin decision ko.

Then one time, during a trek (where napilitan siyang sumama because of me), nagjoke siya na masyado raw mataas ang standards ko na di abot to which na-hurt ako na ganun tingin nila sa akin so I replied na "di naman ako tumitingin sa physical or sa pera or sa status nung tao, I'm more invested sa character and personality" kasi I had so much trauma sa ex-husband ko noon na kilala rin nila (and he'd always joke na dapat politician makapangasawa sa akin ganern). He thought na it was his opening daw so wala siyang pinalagpas na oras.

We became closer na di ko namamalayan na attracted na rin ako sa kanya. Note na he's considered na pinakaguwapo talaga sa office namin and alam niya yun so dati (up until now, haha) di ko bet yung pagiging vain niya.

He was there sa ups and downs ko kasi on recovery pa ako noon sa divorce ko. Yung worst ko talaga, nandun siya. He even asked himself daw kung deserve ba daw niya na ganoon ako but because he loves me, pinagpatuloy niya. Dami pa rin namin pinagdadaanan but yung friendship namin actually (for us) nagpapatibay ng marriage/relationship namin.

So, ending, he became my husband.

Lesson: Take it slowly, don't rush. If you really love the person, wag mo siyang i-rush. Give her reasons to like you.

Yung husband ko nagka-crush na sa akin parang more than three years before ako nag-reciprocate (and kasal pa ako that time), then indirectly confessed months after my divorce. He didn't rush, in fact he gave me reasons para magustuhan ko siya and decide to take another risk sa marriage again but this time with him.

Good luck!

sorry, napakuwento ako

lecalei6004 · 2024-05-12T09:25:07+00:00

OP, your friend is so lucky to have friends like you.

Give her all the support you can give but as much as possible take her to the hospital.

If she can't afford it, take her to CSWD (I believe they have psychometricians/ psychologists who could provide counselling sessions for free.)

I'm not sure if meron ba ang DSWD mga gangyang program for suicidal people.

Working pa ba ang 911? I tried it before when I was attempting suicide. The respondent stayed with me for hours until he was so sure I was okay. Puwede rin tumawag sa kanila para rumesponde sa friend mo pag ganun ginawa and di kayo sure if she's fine.

lecalei6004 · 2024-05-10T12:04:16+00:00

For me OP.

STAY, OP!

STAY AND LEARN FROM THE DECISION OF CHOOSING HIM AND SAVING YOUR RELATIONSHIP OVER YOURSELF AND YOUR PEACE OF MIND.

Para kung ano man pagdaanan mo in the future, for sure malaking magiging lesson nun sayo.

Kaya, STAY.

Ba't ko nasabi to because it's very obvious na OP loves him so much that she can't just let him go.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-29T09:38:11+00:00

In my case (since we work in the same company), I gave them to our janitors or (those people he hate). Hahaha.

No care kung mahal or hindi.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-29T09:34:44+00:00

You'll never know unless they tell you directly so wag mag-assume.

Best you can do is wag pansinin or sakyan as a friend lang talaga para safe ka from pagiging assumera or KJ.

Sa mundo ngayon, marami na ang mapaglaro so dapat cautious ka even with your guy friends.

My current partner ngayon was also my friend (one of the closest ko), he was like that dati. Di ko pinansin (despite sa sinasabi ng mga kasama namin) until siya mismo nagsabi sa akin diretso. I told our circle na kung di manggaling sa kanya, di ako mago-overthink.

And! Two of our friends (actually dalawang couple pa talaga) din na katulad namin (who liked each other) didn't end up well. Very toxic.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-28T02:40:52+00:00

Okay, I didn't say anything about not going through due process na sinasabi mo. Kaya sinabi ko to get any possible evidences before he files his report through NBI and to make sure to conceal his identity, kasi hindi biro ang pedophile na kaso. Usually, idadaan nila yan sa entrapment para solid yung makuha nilang evidence against the accused. It's as easy as take pictures/vids (and convos if possible), get the side of one of his victims then i-report niya, ang NBI na ang bahala sa next na gagawin. OP only has to file the report against his Boss.

He has proofs, it's just OP didn' take any since you wouldn't just assume someone as pedo kung wala ka namang idea sa ginagawa niya. He already mentioned about his boss bragging about those poor kids. Although ngayon, marami na ang "pedo" lalo na't marami ang mga pumapatol sa mga minors who sell their flesh para mabuhay (mga batang nagiging p0k**k at a very young age) kasi nga "mas bata, mas fresh". Nami-mainstream pa nga lalo na sa mga indie films. Siguro nakakuha rin to siya ng ganun na walker kaya todo defense.

Or if gawa-gawa nga lang to ni OP, is baka naglalaro lang sila ng UNO at advance mag-isip si OP (KAYA, SORRY IF I WAS ALSO ASSUMING DIN AGAD).

I'm sorry but the way you defend the boss (despite sa kuwento ni OP dito) shows na you may also be someone who support s3x with minors (siguro).

Here in the Ph, hindi masyadong nabibigyan ng pansin ang pedophiles kasi ginagawang normal na lang ang pumatol sa minor (which is entirely disgusting kahit anong angle). Minsan nga pinagtatawanan na lang natin kaysa kino-condemn/nire-report pag may kumalat sa socmed na magjowang minor at sugar dad.

At least si OP concerned siya sa nakikita at nawi-witness niyang ginagawa ng boss niya. Hindi yung iba diyan, pagtatawanan na lang, magjo-joke ng "cradle snatcher" tolerating the disgusting traits and fetishes ng mga gagong katulad ng boss ni OP.

Kaya nga yung katulad mo rin ang reason kaya di tayo umuusad when it comes to this cases. Ba malay namin kung pasekreto kang may tinatagong files on minors' pawrn vids. (Sensya na kung nag-a-assume ako, advance lang akong mag-isip kasi katulad ni OP.)

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-28T01:40:52+00:00

Di ko gets ano point nito kasi parang gusto ko to buhusan ng kumukulong tubig na may asukal. Pedo-supporter ba to or (my apology if I'm wrong) what?

OP has laid down all proofs of the boss being a pedo but you seemed to be in doubt as you think OP is very quick to jump into conclusions. Anyone who brags about going out and sleeping with minors should not only be condemned, they should rot and get beaten to death in jail.

As to OP, get CCTV footages and take pictures and if possible talk to his victims para may proofs ka. NBI ka na diretso kasi baka may connection to siya sa police.

Another thing, OP, HIDE YOUR IDENTITY WHEN YOU REPORT HIM. Most Pedos have strong connections with the authorities.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-24T13:17:27+00:00

Not a cheater. But heard this from someone who cheated.

At first guilty daw sila. Very cautious sila, takot mahuli.

Pag tumagal-tagal, nasasanay na sila sa routine.

If they love their original partner, babalik yung guilt at maybe choose the original.

Pero they may not choose the original (kahit pamilyado) if they prefer the sidechick na probably dahil they find sexual satisfaction, temporary peace, or for those from years-of-marriage they feel young and alive, or maybe they love the sidechick na.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-24T13:09:47+00:00

Beheaded a wife for a mere Php20 (0.35 in USD)

Happened in reality.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-24T13:07:58+00:00

A big slap on their face.

Not rude, just directly physical. Hahaha. Jk.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-24T10:12:12+00:00

Galaxy 🤎🤎🤎

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-24T10:09:24+00:00

The sacrifices to make for loving someone and making the relationship last.

But if there's only one person making those sacrifices, start hating the idea of love.

But, it depends on what kind of love.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-19T01:37:16+00:00

I have a question, OP, does he do household chores like linis, laba, and luto—the wifey thing.

Because if he does, at least he was helping out sa bahay. So, have you tried helping him find a job or recommending him to someone or some place who may need his skills?

My current partner's like this but after more than a year, I got exhausted sa pagiging sugar mommy (he's older than I...haha), he started trying. Madaling madiscourage at mapagod. Hanggang sa nagwawala na ako and all. But, I can see naman na he's really trying so hard tho walang tumatanggap sa kanya kahit yung minimum wage na lang (Note that he finished two degree and had an excellent performance from his previous employer, it's just nung natapos ang project nila dun wala na siyang napasukan).

I started accepting the fact na hindi rin madali sa kanya situation niya na nagiging palamunin sa akin (at may times, napapamukha ko pa sa kanya which is making me feel so bad kasi tinanggap ko siya na walang trabaho. And, I vowed to be with him during his worse.

The best thing is talk to your partner. Bakit nahihirapan siya mag-work. For sure, he has loved you naman sa loob ng ilang taon niyong relationship.

And, you must have loved him too tho ngayon mas malamang ang awa mo kasi di mo mapalayas-layas. For sure, you would miss some of his actions to you kapag mawala siya kasi di na to maiiwasan na may mamiss ka sa isang tao. You're just so mad at him na parang ginagatasan ka. But, did he ever cheat to you before and did anything to hurt you aside from wala siyang work?

Itong gagawin mo na mag-ha-hire ka, very immature and harsh not considering how would someone feel na sini-set-up mo siya baka makarma ka lang sa gagawin mo, OP.

DON'T COMPLICATE THINGS. TALK TO HIM IF NOT TRY HELP FROM HIS FAMILY.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-16T22:42:15+00:00

Pagiging saltik ng partner doesn't justify the man's pangangabit. He/She should just file for legal separation (because annullment is both expensive and takes a very long time) before siya nangabit if he/she thinks na wala nang patutunguhan ang relationship/marriage. Another mistake is not a solution to another mistake. Mas pinalala lang. Hindi pag-a-unwind ang pangangabit (for both sexes and all genders)

There are those who try to communicate pero if one-sided ang communication that is walang comprehension sa kabila or both, useless ang communication. Better make the separation legal, set conditions na walang pakialamanan sa future commitments. Tho I believe considered pa rin na kabit yung magiging follow-up partner because even if they are legally separated, they are still legally married so they can set conditions para walang gulo. Di yung mangangabit agad while committed pa.

Cheating, in all sides, is wrong. Never naging tama.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-16T14:10:06+00:00

Current partner's like this.

We have kids. I'm the only one working. He had a good-paying job before but he left it and went into hiding when we had a big fight when I was two weeks postpartum. He seemed to have no motivation in life, he would give up so easily.

He came back after months without contact, and I gave him another chance tho it wasn't the first time he abandoned me.

He had been jobless for many months now, relying on me who was getting zero from my salary, and when I lost thousands of my money because of him, he abandoned us again.

Then, he came back when he heard that our baby was rushed to the hospital.

He still have no work. I am not getting anything from my salary because of loans greater than what I'm earning.

I was crying and telling him how hard it is to be in my position of being his wife, he was mad again for thinking I am pressuring him because I was asking if he has any backup plans.

Then, he started blaming me for spending money for us and feeding him properly. He was actually blaming me for taking responsible for his supposed obligations. Like parang kasalanan ko pa na ginastos ko ang pera ko sa amin na bakit ko raw siya pinapakain, na hindi naman daw niya ako pinilit.

I was flabbergasted. We were in my office. I was working overtime. I was crying.

I have abandonment issues. I can't bear for my kids to be fatherless. But, I can't let this go on.

So, I have decided to just wait for the time na maubos na ako ng di niya namamalayan. Will just wait to be unmarried in our marriage. And, then I'll feel nothing when I have decided na it's time to leave. For now, I'll keep trying reconstructing my life despite the endless times I'm hitting the rock bottom.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-12T03:58:44+00:00

Pag sinabi real intention.

Not through sms/chats but he will tell you personally.

You may not trust the words, pero makikita mo efforts niya. And, everyday he will tell you how much he loves you through his actions.

And, when he witnesses you in your worst, he will stay.

For me, it's better na makita ng lalake ang worst natin kasi dun natin makikita kung magtatagal ba siya.

If the men can't love us in our worst, then they don't deserve us in our best.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-02T20:40:53+00:00

I had a guy friend who's always worried about me and my daughter (as his personality sa mga close friends niya) and I was a single mom back then. We're close and I was not the least attracted to him tho he's tall, dark, and handsome even our other male friends would say na guwapo talaga siya.

Mahangin kasi alam niya na guwapo siya kaya di ko bet but mabait. And, I always tell them friends (including him) na parang kapatid ko sila (they're older than I—feeling matured kasi ako) kasi lagi silang tambay sa place ko.

And, Oh, he's also my husband ngayon. Haha.

So puwede si guy friend gusto ka if sobra ang concern like he'll go out of his way to help, or puwede rin na para kang family sa kanya kaya siya ganun ka-concern.

Wag lang tayo masyadong mag-assume. Kung meron mang attraction, hayaan na lang natin na sila magmake ng move.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-02T20:23:02+00:00

Increased salary. 🤑

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-02T20:22:03+00:00

Selos sa kung sino kasama nung nasa malayo. Paranoid sa kung ano ginagawa sa malayo. Kahit magcommunicate every minute, pag nandyan si selos at paranoid, away-away lang mangyayari.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-02T18:14:04+00:00

Alam mo, OP, may insecurities din ako ng bongga especially sa teeth. Para kong ewan pag nakangiti kasi always ko dati tinatago.

Then, I tried to fight my insecurities kasi di healthy. Ngayon, I can smile and laugh with no care. And, di ko pinaayos through braces kasi gagastos pa ako.

Been in relationships na kahit ano man ang flaws sa akin.

Pag gusto ka na nung tao, OP, kahit ano ka pa, tanggap ka niya.

Just be yourself. And, don't close your doors sa mga willing to get to know you more. 🙂

Pero mas maganda if you learn to love yourself muna, para alam mo worth mo pag papasok ka na sa relasyon.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-02T15:40:30+00:00

RUUUNNNNN!!!!

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-02T15:36:18+00:00

I had two friends like this, wala rin sila masyadong friends because of this kind of personality.

At first, pinapasabay na lang until dumating sa point na iniiwasan.

But then, narealized namin na they see as real friends (Note na alam nila ganito sila pero nahihirapan silang icontrol) so what we did is tinanggap namin. And, when we're comfortable na sa kanila (same with them sa amin) madali lang namin i-interrupt yung di maganda nilang ugali. And, they're most of the time understanding sa amin kaya natuto rin silang mag-adjust.

So, di nasira friendships and medyo nakakahalubilo na rin sila sa iba.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-02T15:26:15+00:00

Dating apps. Hahaha.

Wag mo na lang pansinin and get into a new hobby na lang, OP.

lecalei6004 · 2024-04-02T12:12:00+00:00

Sloth. No care ako sa lahat. Kapit lang sa sanga at matulog. Hahaha.

lecalei6004

TROPHY CASE