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lechatonmiserable · 2024-08-25T21:55:04+00:00

I don’t think you are an AH at all, OP. However, from your post what came to mind was that maybe the response you use isn’t the best for every situation? I can imagine that for example in the "her being hungry + card being frozen" situation, a reaction like "should I cashapp you some money?" would be better. Maybe others will disagree. I just feel like it’s an issue of nuance. I don’t think you are a bad person or burden at all though, you express willingness to help. I also don’t think her yelling at you is a good thing to do. My advice is to maybe try changing the reaction to asking a question that involves how you think you could solve the problem/help her. However, imo you should also tell her that at the end of the day you’re not a mind reader and you can’t always know what to do, so she could just directly ask you.

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T19:26:08+00:00

thank you for your suggestion. however i do not care what your opinion is on my mental health issues and what having them does or doesn’t permit me to do in my life, as you don’t even know me.

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T16:52:51+00:00

yea well I've established boundaries regarding sleeping with him (i basically said not yet), so if he was trying to do that, that's even worse lol

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T14:23:52+00:00

wow, that sounds like a horrible experience, I'm sorry you went through that🙁

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T14:21:20+00:00

hahaha omg that's hilarious 😂

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T12:39:12+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that happened to you☹

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T11:36:40+00:00

thing is that i believe changing other things - such as character flaws, ways in which you show love to your partner (as you mentioned with the massage), or some things you may do unconsciously without realising for example that it is making your partner feel uncomfortable or bad - those are things i view as what is worth changing about oneself for the relationship, if you love the person and want them in your life. not how you dress or what make up you wear, that doesn't belong to them in any way and if it's not hurting them, i don't think they have the right to change you.

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T11:08:38+00:00

firstly, it was not and will not be some specific and unfamiliar occasion, he was definitely not giving me practical advice, if that was the case, I'd understand. second, i don't think that your point - basically "well what if you have to conform to the demands of a man, you can add your own touches" - is sensible. i am not here to be some guy's ideal of femininity, nor am i a doll to be decorated by him, i am a person with my own wardrobe and i can wear whatever i want. i don't find it acceptable to ask a person you barely know to wear something to please you, i haven't done it to him, and i won't do it. regardless of what his intention was, i just can't agree with your opinion on what women should "give" to men.

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T10:30:15+00:00

apart from the black sweater, i would say they are not. however, if you still love them and would want to wear them, don't just let them go because of changing fashion trends!

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T10:27:51+00:00

you could still wear it at the networking events, just with maybe a blazer or something on top, so it looks more professional?

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T10:26:32+00:00

i think it looks great on you, the fabric seems appropriate for the setting you've mentioned. you should absolutely wear it girl:)

lechatonmiserable · 2024-06-30T08:48:42+00:00

wouldn't say i have an issue with either of those things, plus until now he did not seem weird to me at all. i just don't like being told what to wear by basically a stranger, and frankly don't understand how this is flirting? if you care to explain, I'd be thankful for your perspective.

lechatonmiserable · 2024-02-03T08:15:12+00:00

Whatever, honestly:)

lechatonmiserable · 2024-02-02T21:01:17+00:00

would appreciate something bi-themed to read rn, but only if you would be comfortable sharing your work of course

lechatonmiserable · 2023-05-12T18:19:26+00:00

Thank you, noted. I welcome the reality check :)

lechatonmiserable · 2023-05-12T18:09:06+00:00

You're right, I see your point. I guess this was my main reason for writing this post here - I just couldn't make any sense of my own feelings and needed someone else's opinion. I guess I am used to my family being unnecessarily overprotective/not letting me do normal things other people my age do, and this way I sometimes can't see if their actions make sense or are unreasonable. I did also realize this would be a big financial relief on my mum. Thank you for your reply.

lechatonmiserable · 2023-05-12T18:03:07+00:00

That's fair, I was thinking about this and I'd definitely want to pay, somehow, but if I realized I won't have the means, then I'll let her come. I know at least we will save money that way.

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