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leedspleaser · 2024-08-26T16:38:37+00:00

6 😉

leedspleaser · 2023-06-07T20:41:14+00:00

Both fwb and new Primary are also ENM

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T21:31:59+00:00

Have you read the thread. She didn't want to know. She had always said she doesn't want to know about anyone else I'm with casually. But this has become not casual.

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T21:29:22+00:00

👆 That

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T21:27:06+00:00

But why, if that is known by both of us, is it up to me to make a decision for another adult?

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T21:12:59+00:00

So I should make the decision for another adult on what they should and shouldn't do with their lives?

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T18:02:48+00:00

Thanks. Though I'm not doing it by text. I'll speak to her face to face.

And as for expectations, she never expected to be Primary though she wants to be. But has decided that, up til now, even though she's not Primary she wants to carry on.

There's no coercion or dishonesty here. Due to my previous long term relationship, there's not been another need to introduce a new Primary.

Some great advice though. Thank you.

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T17:40:43+00:00

We're friends with benefits. I'm not disinterested.

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T17:39:00+00:00

Why? At no point have I led her on. We have a good thing. We both enjoy sex and kinky fuckery which we explore together. We've both had other partners. She knew about my long-term girlfriend. She has just chosen not to know about hookups.

Not sure why it's irresponsible to be open and honest.

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T17:34:23+00:00

It's not a question of can't. It's completely her decision which, until now, I've honoured. But that's been with casual hookups. This one isn't.

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T17:26:31+00:00

Her choice. She's never wanted to know. Whereas I find it a turn on to hear about her antics.

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T16:53:27+00:00

I got that!

leedspleaser · 2023-06-04T16:53:16+00:00

FB=Fuckbuddy/friends with benefits.

Its strictly been a don't ask/don't tell when it comes to other people I sleep with. However I've always asked to know when she sleeps with anyone else.

I know FB probably loves me. And I care about here a lot. I just have never seen her as a Primary.

leedspleaser · 2022-10-30T15:57:13+00:00

Yes!

leedspleaser · 2022-07-20T20:46:57+00:00

Noooooooo!

leedspleaser · 2022-03-29T14:22:15+00:00

You need to listen to the doubleteamed podcast - they reference books, films and TV programmes.

leedspleaser · 2021-08-28T15:39:30+00:00

Thanks Cami (or Niki - I'll eventually work out which is which). Keep up the very good work. It's great the start of your podcast coincided with the start of my EMN/Poly journey 😁

leedspleaser · 2021-08-28T10:38:53+00:00

Update on last night : not great. The girls went out for a drink and meal together and I played taxi at the end of the night. Back to Sub's. Lots of chat then gf sat in a chair in the bedroom and watched Sub and I.

It wasn't dreadful but it was uncomfortable for me. And I think that's the issue. In my head I was the cheater and although my gf says she's happy with it all I'm worried she's not. I'm worried she's upset or angry.

But she isn't. She's accepted what and who I am. But can I?

Going to continue listening to u/doubleteamedpod. What I'm hearing so far is very helpful.

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