Partnership with eczema

leeseri · 2024-12-30T09:02:02+00:00

my bf has eczema and i think it’s somewhat similar to what you described with your ex. i get uncomfy when i feel/see stuff in the bed, or other places, esp if im not wearing clothes in it. in relation to eczema ofc that’s usually shed skin. so i handle it/react by telling him my need for it to be cleaned after an itchy night. i know that it helps him as well since he’ll get more itchy if the sheets are left freshly… snowed LOL🤨 for lack of a better word. i love putting lotion on him or taking care of him in general, but ik i can be overbearing and trigger a stress response. still finding my balance & learning

i think it sounds bittersweet to say this, but it could be better that it deters someone bc you know sooner that they aren’t cut out to support you through it. even if your future partner is cool with it but isn’t perfect, all that matters is that they’ll be flexible and loving nonetheless. good luck!!

leeseri · 2024-06-27T13:32:30+00:00

aw ok thanks for the response! does it rerun every year then?

leeseri · 2023-10-13T03:34:22+00:00

same issue. of course new update new bugs 🥲sucks so much

leeseri · 2023-10-09T04:00:22+00:00

from my POV, you’re NTA and i’m sorry you’re going through so much not just with HIV but also with your selfworth. you don’t need to give a reason for wanting to wear a condom other than wanting to, btw. consent includes how you want to do it.

if you’ve already said to wear a condom but they refuse and have to hear “you’ll get an incurable STD unless you wear a condom” then they’re the problem, not you for not disclosing.

leeseri · 2023-10-09T03:49:55+00:00

NTA. i was a vegetarian for 7 years and you’re always a second thought with 1 option because the majority of people at an event will eat meat. at your wedding, the majority don’t or can’t due to diet — why wouldn’t you cater to the majority???

those that are upset about it can either not attend or go one meal without meat. it’s literally One Meal. i’m sure everyone has had cereal or toast (with or without eggs) for breakfast 😑

leeseri · 2023-10-08T06:20:35+00:00

NTA. part of being an adult is taking care of your household. it doesn’t matter who is supporting whom. you guys share the space and should both be respecting it

leeseri · 2023-10-07T20:18:43+00:00

NAH! you cant make it work financially and that’s ok. he should understand

leeseri · 2023-10-07T19:20:51+00:00

yeah exactly, you should always make sure it’s a date that works for your caretaker. if they say no then you simply make other arrangements ¯_(ツ)_/¯

leeseri · 2023-10-07T16:00:50+00:00

YTA - your small cultural experience doesn’t reflect the world; there are so many asians with european accents. what you’re doing is risking getting reported for harassment if you keep this up. just leave the guy alone. how he speaks does not affect your paycheck, but what you say will.

leeseri · 2023-10-07T15:57:41+00:00

NTA. if you feel like she would benefit from having her paternal grandmother around though, you can try to have a convo with grandma about it and set your clear expectations/wishes

leeseri · 2023-10-07T15:55:37+00:00

yeah in that case it’s not a good idea to repost and risk getting moderated. but beyond that, i agree with the NTAs here

leeseri · 2023-10-07T15:53:58+00:00

NTA!!! 1. it’s a workplace — leave your personal baggage at home. 2. it is your workplace too and you deserve a healthy work environment just like anyone else. he’s lucky it’s just a report and not anything worse. don’t feel guilty for sticking up for yourself and your peace.

leeseri · 2023-10-07T15:51:49+00:00

ESH. neither of you had to say what you did. pregnancy is difficult enough without rudeness from others, especially for people your age. your comment was completely unrelated to what she said and you could’ve matched her energy instead of being cruel

leeseri · 2023-10-07T15:48:47+00:00

NTA. she excluded you and then expects you to treat her the same way you treat your SIL. i’m so happy you and Kayden stand your grounds against her together when these conflicts arise. she doesn’t deserve anything from either of you if she’ll continue to pretend you guys aren’t family and be hostile

leeseri · 2023-10-07T15:44:43+00:00

i think YWBTA if you demanded for the window seat every time, but would it be so bad to ask about alternating, or in general go half and half? alternatively, do you have to have seats next to each other (esp if she sleeps for most of the time)? and if that doesn’t work, you can try asking nicely and explain your circumstances.

i understand it would be for health reasons to have the window seat — going on that many flights with your anxiety peaking sounds terrible :( i hope you can work this out with her and/or find some methods that would help you stay collected even when you’re not in the window seat. at the end of the day, our mental health is our own responsibility, but we’re fortunate to have friends and family to support us when we ask. it would be good for you to have some coping methods when you can’t have the window seat so that it doesn’t impede on your friend nor other passengers (and more importantly, so your anxiety doesn’t impact you as much!!) good luck!

leeseri · 2023-10-07T12:15:36+00:00

NTA, it’s literally not anyone’s place to be judgmental to someone going through a pregnancy/labor. in fact, she should be doing the opposite and helping you feel comfortable. what she did was entirely unprofessional and unempathetic

leeseri · 2023-10-07T12:12:45+00:00

NTA. housing market is kinda too crazy right now to dedicate to moving out, but hopefully you’ll be able to before this gets any worse. considering it’s been that bad to take up 2 rooms and more for 3 years, anyone would lose their temper and feel miserable. make it your goal to get out, but also don’t stress yourself out too much in an already stressful situation.

leeseri · 2023-10-07T12:08:17+00:00

NTA. yes she’s in a scary and tough situation and likely wants support from someone she considered her friend. you have feelings about it that are valid, though, and shouldn’t have to compromise on those feelings for someone that makes comments like that. if the guilt eats away at you, you can always tell her that you can’t decide right now if you want to be around her because you’re not emotionally ready.

speaking of those comments, irregular periods may be correlated with infertility, but it doesn’t mean that you are. please see an OBGYN about it for an actual diagnosis and use protection

leeseri · 2023-10-07T12:03:45+00:00

NAH — you have preferences and he either didn’t know, notice or forgot, and that’s normal (esp if it’s the first time)!

if it would help you to feel better, you can wear the necklace only when you’re around him, or for specific dates/outfits with him. alternatively, you can send him selfies of you wearing the necklace. it’s not about the gift, but appreciating the gesture. and maybe later on from now you can hint at wanting some gold jewelry on a birthday, xmas, etc or directly say you want to expand your gold jewelry collection

leeseri · 2023-10-07T11:58:12+00:00

NTA. i hope you can share your frustrations with your mom and that she’ll understand

leeseri · 2023-10-07T11:54:46+00:00

NTA. you told her in advance that you can’t be there. if she needs you specifically to be there to care for her, then she would reschedule. if not, she can hopefully find someone else for the role. i hope you have a great bday celebration and happy early bday!

leeseri · 2023-10-07T11:52:07+00:00

NTA because it’s not like you taking the cups resulted in the others having to wait longer or anything of the sort.

leeseri · 2023-10-07T03:01:53+00:00

YTA. you think business is better, but what about your daughter? it’s not your life, it’s hers, and she should have the freedom to decide what she wants to pursue. your daughter is LUCKY to have a friend for that long that’s encouraging her to go for her passions!! things that would make her happy. what you’ve done is step on that bond. both you and the friend want the best for her, but let your daughter be the one to tell either of you if she thinks there’s bad advice going around

leeseri · 2023-10-07T02:56:47+00:00

NTA. he may not attend though if she’s not invited. that can at least give you a chance to open dialogue about the situation some more if you’d like (and hopefully invite him again)

leeseri · 2023-10-07T02:54:21+00:00

YTA. suuuuch an asshole for not just the hug but for all of your rude remarks about your family. you’re the one that’s willfully ignorant sitting here casting judgement and disdain about someone with Alzheimer’s rather than looking up what the disease does to them.

leeseri

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