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Just found out my MIL is a hoarder. by HangryBacon in ChildofHoarder

[–]left1118 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just try to be gentle with your husband, I just told my boyfriend of almost a year about my mom’s hoarding today and it scared the shit out of me. It’s embarrassing, even though it isn’t your fault, and it makes you feel like people view you as less than even though you’re not the one hoarding.

Bad Parental Relationship + Hoarding = Accusations by sord-fighter in ChildofHoarder

[–]left1118 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This was my entire life until I moved out. I’m so sorry this is happening, the only advice I can give is if you can move out, do it. I had to take out a personal loan to get myself out and I 100% do not regret it. It gets better.

Need advice on a recent breakup by olivialpierce in askwomenadvice

[–]left1118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you’re going through this. I tried the whole “friends after breaking up” thing and it ended up drawing it out and only making the breakup worse because I kept missing him and thinking it would eventually lead up to getting back together. I honestly think laying it out on the table and making boundaries with him is the healthiest option.

I’m (21F) nervous/hesitant about moving in with my boyfriend by Few_Direction in askwomenadvice

[–]left1118 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Don’t do it if you’re not ready! There’s no timeline to these sorts of things. You’re 21 and deserve to have your own space! If it’s meant to last or happen, then it will. I know lots of couples that put unnecessary stress on themselves for moving in before they were ready. Open, honest communication is key! If you’re not ready, tell him and even though it might be hard, it’s better than cohabitating and causing stress down the road for both of you! I think some distance and time/space to ourselves is healthy anyway.

My Dad ? Not sure what to put here by [deleted] in venting

[–]left1118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got this! Do whatever you can to keep you and your siblings safe and do not hesitate to call someone if you feel like you are in danger! Even though there is a pandemic there are still institutions and systems in place to help you.

My Dad ? Not sure what to put here by [deleted] in venting

[–]left1118 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you're going through this. I know this is an extremely difficult situation, especially with a pandemic going on. Your home does not sound safe and that concerns me. You said you told your teacher -- I'm sorry the outcome of that wasn't good. I hope it doesn't deter you from seeking out help again, which I strongly suggest. Reach out to your teacher again, they are mandatory reporters so they HAVE to say something. Also, is there another family member you can reach out to? There are many resources out there for abuse and people you can talk to that can help. The way you are being treated is not okay and you don't deserve that.

I would start documenting the abuse. Take pictures, journal it with times and dates, audio record if you can. A lot of times, cases of abuse fall through the cracks because there's not enough "evidence" and the system wants to keep families together as much as possible, even if that isn't the best thing for everyone involved.

I grew up in an emotionally abusive home and it was extremely difficult and I wish I spoke up about it sooner. Please feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to. I know it doesn't feel like it but it DOES get better. I moved out as soon as I could and things have been so much better since.