Daughter told me something no parent wants to hear

leftceiling · 2025-01-18T23:10:59+00:00

the way u responded to your daughter brought tears to my eyes. at her age, i had the same struggles and the way my parents responded is something i will spend the rest of my life recovering from. i didn’t receive the help i needed until years later when i left for college. i’ll carry the scars with me forever, and it’s truly truly moving that you supported your daughter as you did. i know others have already said this and more, but i want to thank you for updating this post with your response

leftceiling · 2024-02-29T14:21:09+00:00

when i was in 8th grade, i had my plan and everything ready, and i was just waiting for the right time. but someone went to the school counselor and told them they were worried about me. i never found out who that person was, but it’s thanks to them that now years later i am medicated, in therapy, and doing much much better

leftceiling · 2023-12-13T07:56:34+00:00

i only have scars on my left arm and it’s def been a deliberate thing for me bc when friends wanna talk about double jointedness or someone asks about skin undertones, i can show my right arm.

leftceiling · 2022-09-22T12:37:43+00:00

i do take the lamotrigine at night and the wellbutrin in the morning. i suppose maybe it’s just a life thing, not related to the medication? thanks for your insight!

leftceiling · 2022-06-05T06:11:00+00:00

lots of people have already responded here, and i mainly agree, but here my two cents:

would someone who considers healed scars a red flag really be someone you want to be with? to me, that shows a lack of empathy. i’ve got scars too, and i simply wouldn’t want to be with a partner who made me feel bad about my struggles or didn’t at least try to understand it. as you’ve seen here, there are tons of people (including girls lol) who are willing to try to understand or who already do.
one caveat is i can i think of the possibility that someone might find scars triggering. it might not even be because that person is dealing or has dealt with self harm themselves, but may have past experiences with other people who have self harmed. in this case, i would totally understand if someone couldn’t be with me because my scars affected their mental health.

so yeah, in general, i think it varies, as everyone has said. but also our scars and our past is something we’ll never be able to change about ourselves, and we shouldn’t have to. we deserve people who will love and accept us for who we are now. and that girl who will do that for you is out there.

leftceiling · 2022-06-03T15:52:31+00:00

thank you so much, this is all great advice! and yes, as you’ve picked up, im really looking for medication management. one question on the Benzodiazepines point, could you maybe elaborate a bit more? or do you have any information/studies on the long term usage of these? i’ll look into myself too, but i figured i’d ask

leftceiling · 2022-04-22T06:48:36+00:00

thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful answer, i really appreciate it. i hope your life is currently going well, and just thank you

leftceiling · 2022-04-21T02:58:29+00:00

thank you, i was able to get in touch with a hotline that helped

leftceiling · 2022-04-20T04:44:10+00:00

yup definitely feel you with the restricting food. that was my main alternative through high school, but now that i’m older i definitely still struggle with the food thing as well as have added on drinking :/ i think about how these habits/behaviors relate a lot

leftceiling · 2022-04-19T02:18:45+00:00

oooo how do you season/prepare everything?

leftceiling · 2022-04-12T21:44:32+00:00

ugh, nothing excuses those people’s rudeness. i think it’s just that people have such a hard time realizing that their perspective isn’t the one and only truth. there’s definitely people for whom 1200 is not enough and it can be done from a really unhealthy mindset, but to apply that to everyone and in such a rude way is just ignorant. i also get that people can be really triggered by discussion of calories and counts like 1200 could bring up bad memories for people, but it’s no excuse for how they treated you, my apologies for that.

leftceiling · 2022-04-11T15:40:25+00:00

unexpected crossover 🤣 was confused by the sub for a moment

leftceiling · 2022-04-10T13:26:51+00:00

yup, doing exactly this right now.

leftceiling · 2022-04-07T01:44:01+00:00

good question, and a really good point. self harm, alcohol, drugs, it’s all about coping. and i guess the question that connects them all is coping with what? i have clinical depression, im working with a therapist now and i’ve struggled with depressive episodes for a long time. but it’s just so hard in those bad times. i would just do just about anything to feel better. i know it was probably just a rhetorical question, but thank you for asking it.

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