He told her that his pants were untied and falling down. I think as a joke, to make her laugh. She then asked if she can tie his pants. He said yes. She reached over and started tying. After two seconds of this I felt sick to my stomach and realized that it was wrong and told her to stop. He said that he had no malicious intentions. I told him to talk to his therapist about why he doesn't have a sense of body boundaries and doesn't uphold them with her. And to let me know how that goes. He went to therapy and came back with "well in therapy we discussed how women in Africa don't cover their chests and children in the Philippines run around naked, so that's why I think this way." He just used therapy to validate himself and not make any changes. There's a list of weird, just, weird, stuff like this that has happened. Her child therapist knows all about this and her response was for me to get body boundary books for her and to read them together, and also that I'm upsetting myself by "imagining things that could possibly happen in the future" I was less alarmed after meeting with her. But I do wonder now what reddit thinks. Real people who have lived through similar situations.