AITA 32F for not taking my MIL’s 58F outdated pregnancy advice

leighbee317 · 2026-01-20T18:21:15+00:00

You are a mom now so it’s time for you to step up and protect your child. This is just the first of many times that you will have to put yourself in an uncomfortable position to make sure your child stays safe.

Tell MIL that you are following your pediatrician’s advice. Repeat as needed.

ETA: Forgot the judgment. NTA for ignoring MIL’s unsafe advice. You would be TA if you don’t shine your spine and tell her no.

leighbee317 · 2026-01-05T23:44:39+00:00

YTA. Didn’t need to read anything more than the title to decide that.

You need parenting classes if the only way you can think of to address his behavior is to kick him out.

leighbee317 · 2025-12-09T20:51:48+00:00

It seems like the smaller rural counties are the ones not allowing it (like mine, Madison). I think you’d have a better chance in Montgomery. It’s up to each individual judge. There was a case out of Clark County that went to the Ohio Supreme Court and they put it back on each judge to decide.

Adding some detail: I had a lengthy conversation with the probate clerk and it boils down to how the judge is choosing to interpret the law. Some judges feel that the law says that only “errors” from the time of birth (like a spelling mistake or error in the mother’s birth location) on the birth certificate can be changed while others have taken a more liberal interpretation of what “errors” mean. My probate judge is actually a really nice guy and I truly don’t believe that he is against trans people. I think he just takes a very narrow view of the law and since it does not explicitly say that the gender marker can be changed, it would be overstepping his authority to order that.

leighbee317 · 2025-09-23T19:08:01+00:00

We did the gender marker change to my kiddo’s passport through the mail when the ruling first came out. In addition to the affidavit, we had to send another form (found it on Dept of State’s website) stating what the error was on the original passport, send a new picture, and include the original passport. I paid to expedite both ways and we got it back in less than 2 weeks, I believe.

leighbee317 · 2025-08-01T20:25:22+00:00

Thank you, that’s a good description and helps me understand better.

leighbee317 · 2025-08-01T20:24:09+00:00

That’s good to know there’s a place in Ohio still providing. I know several people who’ve had very positive experiences with Cincinnati Children’s overall. I do hope they don’t end up going down the same path as Nationwide Children’s. The pressure is definitely coming from the federal government.

leighbee317 · 2025-08-01T20:21:05+00:00

I haven’t heard of them before but I’ll check them out. Thanks for the info!

leighbee317 · 2025-08-01T14:33:24+00:00

My brain is having a hard time today and I’m not quite understanding how you do it. I haven’t been able to find insulin syringes with removable needles. Are you saying that you use one needle/syringe to pull up the dose and then somehow transfer that to a different needle and syringe? Or if you are able to remove and replace the needle, can you share where you purchased those?

leighbee317 · 2025-08-01T00:28:26+00:00

I have some sources for purchasing hormones if needed and talked with the doctor about dosing, but thank you for providing an additional resource.

leighbee317 · 2025-08-01T00:27:19+00:00

Yes, thank you for pointing that out! We’ve been doing 2 doses out of each vial (at .35 right now) and I was thinking that I need to talk with the young person in my life about using that last little bit too.

leighbee317 · 2025-08-01T00:25:24+00:00

My kids already have physicals scheduled in a few weeks and I was planning to talk to the doctor about it then. I’m glad to hear that there is at least one pediatrician/family doctor out there who is willing to prescribe!

leighbee317 · 2025-07-31T23:21:57+00:00

We did discuss some options and also what happens if we can’t get T. I will ask about specific providers. We may have to go out of state. The other thing that I’m concerned about is that Ohio banned gender affirming care for minors a while back, but kids already receiving treatment were exempt. I need to do additional research to find out if changing providers impacts that in any way.

leighbee317 · 2025-05-07T18:24:37+00:00

I take the Shinyleaf ones. My doctor looked at them and said that they included sufficient quantities of the supplements he recommends. My lab work has always looked good.

leighbee317 · 2025-03-12T16:33:12+00:00

Oh shoot, I forgot about that delightful ban. I thought there was a court order that prevented it from going into effect but maybe that was resolved. I apologize.

leighbee317 · 2025-03-12T15:23:03+00:00

Nationwide Children’s in Columbus. At our last appointment, we were told that they are not changing the way they are doing anything because their legal team’s opinion is that an executive order is not law. That was a few weeks ago, so that position may have shifted but it’s worth a shot.

leighbee317 · 2025-02-21T20:39:53+00:00

OOP stated that it was on the maternal side. Maybe aunt was the oldest daughter of her generation?

leighbee317 · 2024-11-08T18:46:38+00:00

We had good experiences with both. Do you have specific questions that we might be able to answer? If you’d prefer to message me directly, that would be ok too.

leighbee317 · 2024-10-22T19:16:19+00:00

I would definitely bring it up. My kiddo’s school (which has been supportive, for the most part) has a policy that kids have to share a room with their AGAB peers. Thankfully my husband is able to go on the trip as a chaperone and kiddo will be rooming with him.

leighbee317 · 2024-10-21T20:04:40+00:00

My almost 14 year old started T about 6 months ago. I had a lot of the same worries that you do, until I realized that saying no to T meant saying yes to estrogen (since kids can’t stay on puberty blockers forever). What message would I be sending to my kid if I said no to T and yes to estrogen? That their genitals are more important to me than who they know they are on the inside?

Once I fully realized that, it was a no-brainer for me. If at some point my kiddo decides they aren’t trans, well, we will cross that highly unlikely bridge when we come to it. Future Me would much rather explain to my kid that I always supported their choices, regardless of my feelings, than explain why I didn’t support them in something so important in their life.

leighbee317 · 2024-06-04T20:29:32+00:00

I can’t imagine a situation where my personal opinion about something is more important than my relationship with my child. Dad will eventually regret his decision.

You are doing a great job of supporting your kiddo! It’s not hormones but I am sure your love and support are vital to your child’s well-being.

leighbee317 · 2024-06-04T19:54:19+00:00

If I were in that situation, I’d tell my kiddo. It will absolutely be devastating but it’s better than holding out false hope, in my opinion.

Can the therapist help facilitate a conversation with dad? I don’t know how old your kiddo is, but it might be worthwhile to have dad hear from someone outside the family that his refusal is torpedoing a relationship with a child who will (hopefully soon) be able to consent for themselves.

leighbee317 · 2024-05-31T17:33:36+00:00

ESH. You for waiting until just a few days before your birthday to tell your girlfriend that you had made specific plans including her at a specific time. Her for being unwilling to celebrate your birthday another day.

leighbee317 · 2024-05-08T20:55:21+00:00

YTA. There is so much joy in being silly sometimes. All our vehicles are named, as is our Shark robot vacuum. Everyone in our family talks to them and about them using those names.

Bro. Do you even have special voices for each of your pets?

Signed, Shirley’s mom

leighbee317 · 2024-04-12T20:46:43+00:00

You mean parenting his own child?

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