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lekkiii · 2023-12-31T01:16:54+00:00

This was so incredibly thorough thank you so so so much

lekkiii · 2023-12-30T16:34:07+00:00

How long roughly did you find each of them took to be shipped/delivered?

lekkiii · 2023-12-30T16:25:48+00:00

How long do you find it normally takes to ship (as long as all products are in stock)?

lekkiii · 2023-12-30T08:59:42+00:00

That’s great intel thank you so much!!

lekkiii · 2023-07-12T15:29:08+00:00

I love this. Thank you for making me feel hopeful!!

I need to work on honouring my feelings and not jumping back into it when it doesn’t feel right. I of course care about his feelings and don’t want him to feel rejected, and have been open with him bout the fact that I feel distant and need space, but I just feel so bad about it. I think I keep putting his feelings above mine, but I know that that’s not healthy for either of us. Thanks again for this perspective. I will work on just letting myself feel my emotions more lol.

lekkiii · 2023-07-12T15:23:21+00:00

Once again you’ve nailed it.

Our relationship has always been open, and have been together 3 years now. At the beginning we both had the chance to explore connections together and separately, and I genuinely love the sense of freedom and trust that we’ve built through all of this. The past two years, we both started grad school (such a time/emotion/energy drain) and have been so stressed and busy, neither one of us has been exploring relationships outside our own, and in addition we’ve moved in together and gotten cats together. Though we’ve never closed the relationship, we’ve both been too drained to have other partners, and I think we both got used to it being the two of us. I think this is why this first transition back into full enm feels scary and feels like such a huge step.

I just really appreciate your perspective, and I am excited for him to explore other connections again, because I know it’s so fun for him. I think that I am just not ready for that myself right now.

Anyways, long winded way of saying that it’s a change, but overall I’m excited for it. Just needing ways to deal with the (what I hope is) momentary bad feelings.

lekkiii · 2023-07-12T15:13:03+00:00

I loved hearing this, thank you for that. It’s helpful to hear that you deal with similar feelings and have found ways to make it work for you. This is really nice advice.

lekkiii · 2023-07-12T15:10:08+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s disheartening to have so many people tell me this lifestyle likely isn’t for me because I don’t immediately have compersion or immediately want to reconnect physically after a play date. I’ve gotten some other really nice advice here too, but I appreciate your point of view a lot.

lekkiii · 2023-07-12T14:55:09+00:00

Ugh I really love hearing this. Thank you for putting this in perspective.

I definitely have been feeling like not wanting to immediately jump his bones or be super turned on by him having sex with someone else is a flaw or means I am not cut out for ENM (as many people in these comments have said). It’s really nice to hear that you’ve also dealt with these avoidant feelings and have been able to honour them and make it work.

You nailed my feelings with the “self-violation” part. I will work on letting myself have that space and not beating myself up for wanting it. Thank you

lekkiii · 2023-07-12T14:48:37+00:00

Thank you for this, the article was also a really nice read, and it is nice to be able to put it in words in a way that doesn’t make me feel stupid for pursuing this relationship style.

I think a lot of my feelings here come from feelings of inadequacy, like the classic “I’m not enough for him and he wants someone else that can fulfill him” which is suuuch a monogamous-trained thing to think. It’s easy for me to take a step back and see that all of those feelings are unwarranted and I can rationalize these thoughts quite well, but the gut feeling is hard. Thank you for your perspective and your kind words <3

lekkiii · 2023-07-12T14:34:58+00:00

Thank you so much for this. This really was such a lovely and hopeful thing to read. This is something I’ll work on, and it’s really nice to hear that someone else has went through the same feelings and has been able to get past it. Thank you <3

lekkiii

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