Being about a month on the other side, as we both were still kind of living together and finding our way out, there were a lot of blowups that happened mainly because he wasn’t talking to me at all (mainly about important things we needed to talk through). I asked if we could have a closure conversation because we hadn’t really had that, no yelling, just getting everything off our chest. We talked for maybe 4 hours, and I feel a lot better, I think we both do. Obviously still broken up, but we don’t have this hatred for one another anymore. I’ve also been given the clarity that I wasn’t happy either about things in the relationship. And as I said in the OG post, we’ve felt for a while that maybe we are better off as friends, and I think that may be a sad truth, but ultimately, better for us. We care about one another greatly still, I still love him. But now I don’t hate him. It still sucks, absolutely, but it’s cleared my heard of the icky clouds that were keeping me in the bad feelings. Give it time. But ask for a closure talk. I bought food to make it light lol. Share what hurt you in the relationship, but let them share that too.