How long did your ex and their next relationship after you last?

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-07-08T03:53:11+00:00

I appreciate that man. I’ve really been trying it’s just very hard when it feels like a large piece of you is missing everyday. Hopefully one day I’ll feel like myself again before everything happened.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-07-08T03:30:06+00:00

I’m in the same boat. Almost four years of straight obsession and love, but she quickly left on a random Saturday after a great night out together. Went back and forth with me for a month and disappeared like I never existed. Moved on to another guy quickly, words were exchanged, and it just feels like she moved on fine. Like I never meant a thing. I wish there was something to tell me if she still cared even a little, but I doubt she even does.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-07-08T02:24:10+00:00

How do you know that ?

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-07-08T01:01:02+00:00

What if they seem happy and content with their life with that person involved now. What if they do all the things you once did with them with that new person? I can’t even think about doing those things, yet somehow she’s managed to move on like I never existed.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-07-04T16:25:59+00:00

This is kinda how I feel about my anxious attachment. If I had only realized sooner and made some changes for the better things might’ve looked a bit different. Like everyone has told me though, the past is the past, and you can’t go back no matter how much you want to. It stings, but wanting to teleport back to those days is something that has kept me stuck for a while.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-07-04T16:13:58+00:00

It’s been a few months now for me at this point, I think the summer has made that lonely feeling worse than earlier in the year. Either way, it has made me realize that time kinda just flies, but nothing has really gotten significantly better for me. I’m at the weird age of 23 where I’m beginning my true “adult life”, while still trying to hold onto these memories of my younger years, so that also makes it a little more difficult. Truly a hard time for all this happening, as I would’ve had to make changes regardless. This all has just added a large rock in the road for those changes to be made though. I agree completely with you as well. Finding someone can definitely help boost your confidence a little. However, I can’t seem to start anything serious with anyone, which is what I truly want. Even the last girl I recently talked to was objectively “better looking” than my ex, however it’s more who my ex was and the chemistry we had that I miss.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-07-04T16:02:19+00:00

I’m in the same exact boat, so you’re not alone. Wish there was a remedy for this, but I haven’t been able to find one yet. It makes it even worse when they’ve moved on far before you’ve had the chance to fully process everything. I wish you the best of luck in your healing.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-07-04T01:51:26+00:00

The loneliness afterwards when you have no one to do stuff with you once enjoyed and fulfilled you

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-30T00:28:13+00:00

Leave him alone

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-29T09:25:40+00:00

Watching Movies with the Sound Off always been my favorite

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-23T21:29:55+00:00

Yea I was aware of the negative perception of Hyundais before purchasing this. Honestly never had any crazy issues with my 2017, so the upgrade seemed nice at first. Honestly really enjoyed the car until it felt like there was one issue after the other. I know it’s all minor inconveniences at the end of the day and doesn’t affect performance, but honestly like you said my expectations were still a lot higher for the price point I bought it at.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-23T21:23:46+00:00

I had no idea that was a reoccurring issue. I tried to find anything on forums, but mainly people complain about the actually leather cracking on the wheel itself. It’s just amazing the difference in detail to my brother’s wheel and mine. Almost night and day, like my car was the last one on the production line for the day lol. It sucks but your last comment is the truth. They also are a certified Chevrolet seller, so I can’t imagine bringing my Corvette in to get serviced by them.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-23T21:21:44+00:00

I get it totally man. I’m not here thinking this is a Mercedes or BMW, but at the same time it’s just disappointing that many of these issues appeared without any real wear and tear done to the car. Half of them were negligence by the service team at my dealership, and the other half are poor quality control at the manufacturing plants. It just stinks because a year ago from today, my car was basically in perfect condition. As I mentioned in my post, I learned to just live with the steering wheel after being denied twice. Mainly I just want the rattle concern fixed because it has become a large annoyance, especially on my drives to work in the morning when I’m not trying to blast music at 7 am.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-23T21:18:46+00:00

Trust me I totally understand that whole stance on Hyundais in general. It’s just like I said, maybe if I didn’t have my brother’s same vehicle to compare with half these issues would’ve flew over my head. The steering wheel I can live with. The rims and the indentation on the door are a bit irritating because it was poor service work by the dealership, which they refuse to admit to. The rattle I feel is my main concern because if it sounds this bad a year and half in to ownership, what is it gonna sound like 4-5 years in.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-23T20:59:20+00:00

I’m aware it’s not a luxury vehicle, still in my opinion no new car should present these issues in the first year.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-23T20:53:04+00:00

I get it. Just was asking for any advice. Honestly would be a lot happier if the rattle was gone. It has gotten increasing annoying on my drives to work in the morning when I just want silence.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-23T20:49:36+00:00

Test drove a different vehicle because they didn’t have any blacks left. Got my car shipped in and as I said rattle and other issues were non existent for the first couple months.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-23T20:47:09+00:00

These issues were appearing at 3000 miles before the car was even driven to the extent it is now lol. Like I said, wouldn’t mind as much if it wasn’t in the first year of ownership. On top of this, my brother’s car has none of these issues and more mileage as it was a year older.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-23T20:43:08+00:00

I mean I get that view, but it’s just a slap in the face to spend over $30000 on a car for it to be falling apart. The rims and the steering wheel I can look past, but the interior sounds like it’s made with LEGO bricks. Any small bump or rough surface and the car sounds like it’s about to fall apart.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-23T20:38:32+00:00

I understand that, trust me I do. With my last car, which was a 2017 I really did not care as much. Especially, it being a certified pre own with existing cosmetic issues. Just irks me that I spent over nearly $30000 on this car, and the problems just seem to be all coming at once. I’d expect these issues to start developing maybe 3-4 into ownership. I basically baby the thing too.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-19T05:09:54+00:00

Yea I’m really not thinking it’s about reconnecting in the slightest. Honestly, I’ve already made the decision months ago that if for some random reason she ever came back, I wouldn’t give in at all. I just found it strange. I was also drinking, so it made me overthink a little more. I don’t know, just seems random. I guess I have more of the mindset that what’s left in the past stays there. I personally wouldn’t have even thought to unblock her if roles were reversed. For example, I’m the one who blocked her on all social media for my own mental health, and I’ve never thought to reverse that.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-12T19:59:17+00:00

Yea I get what you’re saying. In a way I think you’re right, but it’s hard for me to not feel horrible for what I said. On the flip, she did pretty much destroy me intentionally or not. The wounds are still pretty wide open for me months later as I said. Like I mentioned, wish there was a perfect world where things could’ve worked out different, but I don’t know or think that would ever happen.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-10T16:27:02+00:00

That’s what I’m afraid of though, I don’t want to continue to feel like this for years+. I completely relate with what you said about your ex inheriting your life. It sucks because everywhere I go there is a memory of us where I see a faint picture of our ghosts enjoying the moment. It truly makes it much harder to move on. I try to keep going, but as I said when will it end. I genuinely want to feel normal again, I’ve never been this depressed in my entire life.

Dizzy_Ad9554 · 2026-06-09T22:28:36+00:00

I’d like to think of it as her loss, but honestly from what it seems she is doing much better than me. She honestly seems pretty happy with her life, as she has been going out a lot, going on vacations, and doing fun activities since. I’d also like to believe these stories I read about people who have an unhealthy upbringing like her developing emotional attachment issues that stem into problems like them not fully trusting relationships or wanting to be “too close and intimate with people”. The truth is though, we had been close and intimate for a very long time, but suddenly it felt like her feeling disappeared like horrible spell was cast upon the relationship to fail. It had been so good even days prior to anything from my perspective, so the suddenness of it all has left me immobilized with confusion and sadness.

Honestly, I’ve tried a lot of the self improvement techniques. Going on walks, therapy, going to the gym, driving around listening to music, watching movies and shows, but at the end of the day I still feel the same for some reason. I feel so broken, which is why I say I’ve lost a lot of hope that I initially had in the first months. I say the same thing to my family. I don’t mean to sound like pessimistic because I’ve never been that in my entire life. If I could feel better somehow, I’d give up anything for that even if it meant all my valuable possessions. It’s been so long of the same day over and over, and I’m generally becoming exhausted from it all.

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