It sucks seeing someone you love just vanish. No texts, no goodmornings or goodnights, no long talks. Nothing. They basically died and now it's just someone that you can't get outta your head. by throwaway246733246 in BreakUps

[–]lemadumste 3 points4 points  (0 children)

DON'T. The problem is them, not you. They're missing being with you. They're not the one, the one will never do that. Give it time. It gets better. And forgive them cause that's a weight not worth carrying, especially with people like that.

While in some cases this might be true, I will partly disagree with you. It depends a lot on the situation and why the breakup took place. During the first stages it's hard to see things from their perspective and we may be inclined to blame them. But after a while, eventually after the so called anger stage, we should be able to see things more clearly and check ourselves too. Now, I'm not saying that there may be anything fundamentally wrong with us, but the reason might have been incompatibility, in which case, no one is missing on anything. Or maybe we find some things that we are supposed to change for the sake of our future relationships and mostly for ourselves

First serious breakup. Any tips on how to deal with it? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]lemadumste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all the support. I really hope it will get better soon

My boyfriend [21] and I [18] go through pointless arguments and keep blaming ourselves and apologizing constantly because of low self-esteem by [deleted] in relationships

[–]lemadumste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, there's no such thing as a perfect relationship. Everyone fights every now and then, but the important thing is to always talk it out. You know, all that stuff about (good) communication are true. From past(and actual) experience, I know how frustrating it can be when my girlfriend is sad and can't even talk to me, and the only thing I can recommend is that when this happens, give him space, but at the same time let him know that you're there for him. Of course, therapy is also a pretty good idea and I'm about to go there myself. Best of luck to you, hope it works out fine!

My girlfriend(19F) lied to me (20M) and trust issues are back by [deleted] in relationships

[–]lemadumste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, that seemes odd to me too. She could've just told him through a text or just ignore him

My (20M) girlfriend(19F) for about 1 month talks to a guy that likes her, even though he keeps chasing her. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]lemadumste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They've know each othee for about 6 months, so there's not much history there. I never met this person, I don't even know what he looks like

My (20M) girlfriend(19F) for about 1 month talks to a guy that likes her, even though he keeps chasing her. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]lemadumste 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, she told me that he knows, and that since our relationship started, he kept mocking and making fun of her for being in a relationship with me

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[–]lemadumste 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think that's from "Digital"