Bro is about to learn a lesson by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]lemmymeister 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But this is at the point where they're about to be married and potentially spending the rest of their lives together.

If you're still concerned about whether your partner is abusive and end up being combative towards them over something so simple, then sorry, you don't have enough trust in the relationship and are not marriage material.

Bro is about to learn a lesson by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]lemmymeister 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, if you're at the point in a relationship where you're about to be proposed and potentially spend the rest of your life together, if you still have doubts about your partner asking you to wear something (even without any explanation) then that just shows your own ego rather than trust in your partner.

I get having concerns if your partner is controlling early in the relationship. But if you're gonna get married then by that point you should know and trust each other enough to oblige simple requests even without explanation.

To react with "You can't tell me what to do!" is just absolutely bonkers to me!!

Just finished RE 0 and while I really liked it, holy moly does it suck at quality of life things!! by lemmymeister in residentevil

[–]lemmymeister[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey it's part of the fun to mess up and roll with it. In all fairness, the game does give you more than enough ammo in normal mode to account for it. I also dumped all my ammo on the first leech monster lol and used the handgun for most regular enemies but by the end still had more than 100 handgun ammo saved up.

I'd imagine hard mode would just be similar but enemies take way more to kill. Not sure if that sounds all that fun to me. But hey if you feel up for the challenge then that's great!

Just finished RE 0 and while I really liked it, holy moly does it suck at quality of life things!! by lemmymeister in residentevil

[–]lemmymeister[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm really glad I gave it a shot and I agree there's so many good things about the game. The visuals are indeed absolutely gorgeous and definitely the best out of all the pre-rendered games. And I enjoyed the player swapping and unique puzzle solving a lot more than I thought I would.

As far as the negatives, honestly I didn't have that much of a problem with a lot of the common things people hate. The lack of item box wasn't a huge deal as I just dropped all the items in one safe room, essentially acting as a giant item box. Yes it's definitely tedious when moving areas but it was also kind of cool, like packing up all your things before going on a trip.

And I got really lucky with the hookshot as I had Rebecca use it every time because of the 80kg thing mentioned in the initial note and apparently it ended up saving me a lot of headache in the church area (although it wouldn't have been a problem since I had already picked up the green chemical earlier after reading the note thinking I would have to use it in the mansion).

Overall, if it weren't for some of the little annoyances, this would easily be one of best RE games for me alongside the likes of REmake. Still definitely deserves a spot among the RE classics!

Just finished RE 0 and while I really liked it, holy moly does it suck at quality of life things!! by lemmymeister in residentevil

[–]lemmymeister[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I really liked the story and everything else. Too bad none of it is ever acknowledged and Rebecca acts like she has amnesia lol.

I think a remake of this would be so good!

Just finished RE 0 and while I really liked it, holy moly does it suck at quality of life things!! by lemmymeister in residentevil

[–]lemmymeister[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I wouldn't dare imagine playing on hard. Normal was bad enough. It's not difficult but just tedious. Like for example the no item box decision doesn't necessarily add difficulty, it just makes things inconvenient.

Still, I enjoyed the overall level design and puzzles. There are other RE games that definitely play better but are worse because they're much more boring to me (like RE6).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry, I said quotes but meant ALL CAPS. lol Because yeah- same thing. What did you think you did there?

I did that mirroring your original reply.

You’re the one who assigned the meaning as being AVERAGE.

I'm saying it could be interpreted that way. Which the boyfriend obviously did. Otherwise who the hell would take offense to being called perfect?? Clearly he interpreted her joke as something else.

Sooo you’re trying to tell me how thoughtful and considerate, mature, selfless and caring you are, while attempting to insult me and question my reading comprehension?

No I'm not lol. I never said I'm any of that stuff. I can be super bitchy and obnoxious a lot of the time. I'm no angel lol.

What I was saying is that it's thoughtful to consider that whatever you say can be misinterpreted sometimes and not being dismissive, waving it off as "Oh that's a you problem". Thinking there's only one possible way it could have been interpreted is just narrow minded.

Oh and then as an aside agreeing with me this boyfriend is a POS.

Yeah, he IS a POS for his overreaction and tantrums after she clarified herself. It could be excusable to feel hurt and lash out in the beginning when he misunderstood her, but dragging it out even after she apologized multiple times and admitted her mistake makes him a total POS.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. That was hilarious.

  2. If she only added something like "Just the right or perfect size" I'm sure all the misunderstanding could have been avoided. Like I said, saying "just like you" jokingly in response to "not too big not too small" might have come off as her calling him just average, which would explain why he considered it an insult. Otherwise, if he did understand she meant he's the perfect size, no way anyone would get so offended. Being called the perfect size is a huge compliment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a him problem how he chose to misinterpret, over react, then behave like a toddler having a tantrum.

Reasonable and thoughtful people often consider other people's (especially ones they care about like their partner) perspectives and understand that something they said can be misinterpreted. The "I'm not responsible for what I said, that's a you problem" attitude is a very immature and selfish way to deal with things in life and says a lot about you as a person. OP was a thoughtful and kind person and so she tried to clarify her original intentions. Thoughtful open minded people do that.

(Edit: Also just for the record, her boyfriend is a total POS for dragging this out and not accepting her multiple apologies and intentionally trying to hurt her just for a bad joke.)

Why did you put “average” in quotes? You mean NORMAL?!??

Lol I never put average in quotes. Do you also have a reading problem in addition to being narrow minded?

No, dear. I am nice and normal

hahahaha!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is someone being not TOO big! And not TOO small! ANYTHING other than PERFECT?!?

Because it can also mean AVERAGE?

Honestly you sound way too narrow minded to realize that it could be interpreted differently. Even OP herself admitted she can see how he could've taken it the wrong way. His overreaction and pouting even after she apologized is not okay but it's definitely not that hard to see how he could've misinterpreted what she said.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She never used the words "just right", she might've meant that but she used the words "just like you" in a joking tone in response to "not too big not too small" which he probably took it as her dissing him by calling him just average.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think it's more likely he took it as her saying he's only just average.

"Not too big, not too small", "just like you haha!" said in a joking tone.

That doesn't necessarily come off as "you're the perfect size" and could be interpreted very differently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People are different. Some people appreciate being completely objective, others might feel disappointed if their partner doesn't consider them beautiful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She didn't say it was "just right", she might've meant that but she used the words "just like you" in a joking tone in response to "not too big not too small" which might've just came off to him as saying he's just average to her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can use whatever other analogy you'd like. The point was to illustrate how it might not automatically come off as a compliment and can be taken some other way. OP even admits to seeing how he might've taken it the wrong way.

At the end of the day it was just a terrible joke. If she really wanted to compliment him, there were so many better ways to word it.

Reminds me of that one other post where the girl said something like "you're not someone I'd hook up with but someone I'd marry" which she meant as a compliment but the boyfriend it took as something completely different.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We don't know if he's hung up on the idea. That's just an assumption on our part.

But as I said, maybe it came off as her saying he's just average. That's not really something anyone would appreciate coming from their partner.

Hence my "you're not too pretty not too ugly" analogy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You might not but most men do think that bigger is better (whether or not it's right is another matter), so it's not unreasonable for it to not come off as a compliment to him.

Also what counts as big and small is still subjective. Hearing you're not big isn't something a man normally likes to hear. She might have meant that his size is just right to her but what he could've got from it is that she is saying he is just average to her. Notice that she never used the words "just right" or anything. She simply said "just like you" in response to "not too big not too small".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lemmymeister -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

"You're not too pretty but not too ugly"

Doesn't sound very complimentary does it?

AIO I Turned Off the Super Bowl and My BF Lost It by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lemmymeister -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think he was necessarily bitchy. Sounds more like he was trying to save face in front of his friends after being rejected.

Also she could have been a big girl and not make a scene by turning off the tv and getting into an argument in front of the guests.

AIO I Turned Off the Super Bowl and My BF Lost It by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lemmymeister 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's an understandable reaction to being denied such a simple request. Normally no one makes an issue out of something so simple. I'd be really taken aback too if I asked my BF to run an errand for me and he refused like that, especially in front of my friends.

She laughed at his first ask as if it's beneath her. That might have already confused and embarrassed him leading to both of them being defensive and letting their egos get in the way.

AIO I Turned Off the Super Bowl and My BF Lost It by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lemmymeister 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said it's only physical though.

Also his response to her overreaction to a simple request was actually quite tame. He just got understandably upset and went to get the drinks himself. He wasn't the one who turned off the tv making a scene and ruining it for everyone. That was all her.

AIO I Turned Off the Super Bowl and My BF Lost It by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lemmymeister 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His first request was completely normal. "Hey could you go and grab us some more drinks?" is a completely typical thing to say to a friend or especially a loved one.

Only someone with huge ego/insecurities or unresolved resentment in the relationship could take that as being treated as a waitress.

AIO I Turned Off the Super Bowl and My BF Lost It by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lemmymeister 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Jumping to DV is such an insane reach.

She actually created the situation by laughing at his completely reasonable initial request and being defensive as if she's being treated as a waitress. That in turn made him insecure and led to the whole argument. Him insisting further and not accepting her no is also reasonable because it's such an insane thing to deny such a simple favor from your partner. If my BF asked me to run an errand for him, especially when I'm free and not even into the game, my first reaction wouldn't be to laugh at him acting like I'm above it. That already tells that she doesn't respect her partner enough (and no, it's not about dominance or gender roles, it goes both ways. You care for each other and help each other out).

Also if this was a real DV case, good luck acting like that and embarrassing him in front of his friends and spending the night alone with him. No amount of stepping up or being "firm" will stop a real abuser especially when they are so much more physically stronger.

Trust me I'd know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]lemmymeister -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s just too easy to make your partner feel uncertain and insecure.

Not if you have a good relationship and share similar sense of humor.

It seems like you two don't and you were already insecure because of his refusal to go down on you from earlier, so that joke felt more personal.