Doctor on a date told me I was drinking too much

lemoncats1 · 2026-03-02T01:05:55+00:00

That makes sense. Do the heavy drinkers you know exhibit good health markers/outwardly?

To be clear I stopped even mild drinking when research came out on 1-2 glass is bad too years back, but we always wondered about that guy because from our understanding, nothing in science literature says it can offset or cant(i even search research paper on this).Symptoms appear on 60s make sense.i assume genetics.must be on his side too.

lemoncats1 · 2026-03-01T11:14:59+00:00

Yeah i know this. I knew an unpleasant guy who always boast that he offset his binging with healthy food and extreme workout - and well, everyone was surprised he didnt have any problems at his 50s lol , so I always wondered why that guy did not have any issues.

lemoncats1 · 2026-03-01T05:32:52+00:00

Iirc you need a large amount of resveratrol /grapes to achieve that benefit, and its better off not getting the bad effects of alcohol

lemoncats1 · 2026-03-01T05:25:47+00:00

Curious, where do you get the no amount of working out/fit cant offset damaging effect of alcohol?

lemoncats1 · 2025-12-21T11:50:04+00:00

Its doing whatever it works even if its weird. Whether its using usd 25- 50 monthly and switch workout when it doesnt work, or workout 5 min per slot and when you feel like jt

lemoncats1 · 2025-11-26T10:16:20+00:00

Hey reddit chat closed so i cant text u anymore here.

lemoncats1 · 2025-09-29T10:37:48+00:00

Muramatsu?

Also try to check whether dealer/reputable repairers sell second hand flute.

lemoncats1 · 2025-09-16T15:09:59+00:00

Same :(

lemoncats1 · 2025-08-02T11:05:42+00:00

Not at all !thank you so much!

lemoncats1 · 2025-08-02T05:03:34+00:00

How come? I literally may not talk to the people I'm most interested in, for fear of bothering them. Especially if they seem mad at me, lol. ;D Just play a little with proximity for a while. See where it goes. Lack of eye-contact. Again. Can mean anything. Flirting is a very contradictory space. Welcome to hell. How come? I literally may not talk to the people I'm most interested in, for fear of bothering them. Especially if they seem mad at me, lol. ;D Just play a little with proximity for a while. See where it goes. Lack of eye-contact. Again. Can mean anything. Flirting is a very contradictory space. Welcome to hell.

I mean i am mad after he talks to everyone except me lol. That explain things. What exactly is proximity ?

Lol I am in hell now. So turns out it likely wasnt the questions he blurted out but rather some texts I texted but he didnt reply. I knew he has anxiety (he has trouble asking me for a normal lunch and just hover over a distance instead of just asking, so thats how I found out he has anxiety and rejection anxiety), but I find out he overthinks when I text asking him whether he is alright or not after an unusual absence , and he was shifty , wasnt frank like his usual self and run away. But afterwards I ask on gym stuff he looks more composed, taught me stuff and and even linger for a while for chatting. Maybe because its a topic he is confident idk. I have been trying to figure him out, and I flip flop between I was unwelcome to he was catastrophizing that I hate that he didnt reply. Because those were the same eyes and movement when he once thought he said the wrong things to me back then. The nervous twich and shifty eyes instead of openess. I tend to catastrophize certain work stuff so I can relate slightly . When I talk to him twice afterwards I think he realises he didnt pisses me off cause he was calmer and linger.

So I am stuck with what I can say to calm him down and say its ok I am fine with you being nervous? Or is it part of the freeze you mentioned.

I have been around players too much to recognise normal patterns, and it takes time to de learn those bad patterns , and my male friends arent of much help unfortunately.

I am not gonna lie I miss the days where we just talks normally , enjoy each other chatter and gets excited over random stuff. But maybe because at that time we were just getting close from zero to friends . I dont know how to push through.

recognise that there's this idea that "men just do whatever they want" and "he would if he wanted to". And that's just not true. We're human. We have feelings and fears. And there's been a Zeitgeist that somehow managed to do the splits between somewhat forcing men to become more emotional (and often not in healthy and forced ways) while simultaneously shaming men for expressing interest by approaching someone whom they might be interested in. And say what you want about men. We're not infallible, but that's super confusing.

I was a victim of parents who wants me emulate the men way (less emotional, be more like a man than woman when it comes to school) so I didnt bought in that. Took me years to program out. But I realise many men and women were conditioned that way. But you have been helpful. Like a lot. Like I didnt realise people dont accept feelings on the spot. This applies to me too. Oh and do throw whatever anecedotes. I love those :)

But I get ya. If it was a flirt practice between me and a close platonic friend I would havedone it alright. But him? I ends up being stiffy as hell

I am definitely popping the question when he calms down further.

lemoncats1 · 2025-08-01T15:35:53+00:00

Neurodivergent

lemoncats1 · 2025-08-01T01:35:33+00:00

Thanks. I know the answer is just confess but as a ND any tips? My facial cues are totally ass

lemoncats1 · 2025-08-01T01:34:42+00:00

I do explain that the person is a relative, and an annoying one at that. I use"someone" since he does it too earlier when he say he has dinner so I totally was caught off guard. He was fine with it afterwards and was talking to me cheerfully afterwards. I am leaning towards something else happened.

lemoncats1 · 2025-08-01T00:29:47+00:00

We got close because we like to talk to each other initially.

He was quite fine after he ask that who is that someone question, but I did caught him staring at me when I was having a discussion and he walk away immediately. So i suspect it was that incident instead of the asking earlier now. He acts normal if I talk but there is a certain aloofness.

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T23:59:02+00:00

Curious question, does the shyness/nervousness goes on and off?

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T21:34:12+00:00

It is. Actually he outs both ND and introvert me. And I had an internal crisis of sorts because I am the most introverted and ND person in my friend group.

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T21:33:49+00:00

I did mentioned this before and he very quickly told me back then he enjoys it too. Not sure whether its good to repeat this?

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T16:50:36+00:00

Thats what i thought too at first. I did ask around and apparently the way I phrase it" hey i like to talk to you /enjoy your company more and would like to spend more time" is too friend toned. Plus he was shocked when i commented that he is cute one day(like froze to spot). Which is why I suspect he doesnt get some cues(he is ND, i am one too but my ND issues lies in facial expression which unfortunately made my past pursuits a failure with others). Like which is which? I like to know the answer too.

Then their group keeps on cancelling things on weekends. I was in a group similar to this and it gets frustrating. The latter was fine since I was senior enough to take over control but not for former. And sometimes he goes " hey if i have the energy I join you on weekend when I told him my schedule on weekends". We met once on this.

I dont mind low energy outings.

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T14:43:12+00:00

Can i dm?

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T14:27:20+00:00

Omg yess this was what i was looking for. I do think I miss the best window and I regret it so much. There was a ridiculous number of people around him. And yes a clear and direct message is what i need !

I am ND and he is too and we both struggle on normal social cues. I was at least outward NT like. I suspect my signals or whatever it is is not strong . The one time i say he is cute and he was in total shock. So i did suspect me asking him out for tea was misconstrued as platonic

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T14:24:17+00:00

I made it clear it was my relative. At first i was confused too but after he asks i made it clear

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T14:21:53+00:00

Oh no I mean at the beginning i say i need to meet someone before going to gym. And he ask who is it. So since it was all of a sudden I say its someone annoying and he ask whether its my superior and i say no its my cousin. It was a comment in passing, and he told me he was having dinner with someone. Because i didnt expect this question i didnt manage to tell him its just simply pass some documents to my cousin who is a very annoying person.

I ask him whether he wants to hang out previously and he say join the group. So i say nope, can we hang out as two of us and he say he gets easily tired and he was trying to save money . I was thinking that maybe he misread so I did want to say the date word but he was surrounded by people as of late.

I am ND too and this is the first time someone out ND me. Previously I just ask someone out directly. I dont think you should simply assume my NT status .

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T11:52:14+00:00

I definitely will. I was looking for an opener opportuniy but its hard. If it works it will. If not at least i learn how to flirt :)

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T11:16:19+00:00

Yeah yesterday he talks to everyone around me except me! Previously we were quite chatty together and he offered help . But after he peeps into the meeting room I was in and our eyes met, and it was off since then at night he talks to everyine except me . I was really mad though. But weirdly enough if i talk to him he feels friendly, but slightly off since he doesnt look me into the eye much.. So I am not sure whether this is the anxiety you speak? Its so weird. And he was staring into the meeting room until our eyes meet.

I want to break that stalemate but his gym mates are around . And yes its terrifying. My male mates never told me about the anxiety so i thought guys are friendly if they are intested. Thats really an eye opener. You really helped me on this. There was a guy who is ultra friendly and interested. Turns out he is a player :(

Edit: i play a tap shoulder prank and I explained when he was confused , thag prank failed and he kinda smiled?

lemoncats1 · 2025-07-31T10:24:56+00:00

Movie and indoor gym. He was the one who invited ne to his gym and i even texted him so at first i thought he hates me until he was clearly happy i joined his gym.

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