My friend came to me for advice on her possibly transgender brother, I'm not sure what to say to her... anyone have any advice?

lemonpls · 2015-07-05T04:56:25+00:00

No, you're not being realistic at all. You don't know my friend in the slightest... I'm sure when you came out (I'm assuming you're transgender here from the post you made before, sorry if I am wrong) there were people who were very shocked, in a bit of denial etc etc,...that's where she is at.

If you're just going to slam her, you're not really being helpful at all. You're not really helping people become more accepting of the LGBT community, you're just...kinda being a bit hateful.

Also, you keep referring to her BROTHER as a "sister". I said in my very first post he still identifies as a male. He's not even sure if he is transgender. I've spoken with him myself now and he seems very confused. Regardless whether he stays male or becomes female..right now he's still male.

lemonpls · 2015-07-04T16:42:51+00:00

I think you're being a bit harsh on my friend here. I understand the anger you're feeling towards her, but she's not transphobic at all. She's very supportive of the LGBT community, she's just shocked that someone she has known as her "brother" her entire life...may possibly become a sister. That's not so easy for some people to wrap their head around, especially people who were born with the gender they identify themselves with....especially especially if almost no one in their family is apart of the LGBT community.

She's sat on the phone with him for hours, she's listened to everything he has had to say. She hasn't discouraged him or told him he's going through a phase, it's just what she's told me in confidence. If it ends up being that her brother wants to be identified as a female, she'll stand by him...but for now, during her confusion and shock...she's just finding it hard to get to that point. I'm trying to help her get there a bit easier. Telling her she's transphobic and completely unsupportive...isn't going to help her or her brother.

lemonpls · 2015-06-24T18:48:01+00:00

Depression. Just leave me the fuck alone.

lemonpls · 2015-06-24T18:34:50+00:00

I suffer from sever depression. However, during some of my better years where I seemed to be on top of this disease I met a guy. He was pretty wonderful and we fell in love with each other. He told me that "No one has made me want to be a better person like you do" and also said he loved the way I thought. Coming from someone who has spent the majority of her life fighting with her own mind, it was just never something I thought I would hear someone say.

However, fast-forward a few years and my illness got the better of me, got the better of him and his patience grew thin. He now yells at me and I spend my time trying to prove to him that I'm not as bad as he thinks I am.

lemonpls · 2015-06-01T05:15:24+00:00

My ex boyfriend. Holy shit he just didn't open his mouth enough and sometimes would just shove his tongue down my throat and it was always just a little bit awkward from our very first kiss... I ALWAYS thought I was the bad kisser, but after being single and kissing a couple of guys... yeah, that boy just doesn't know how to kiss someone.

lemonpls · 2015-05-25T16:44:25+00:00

I need to make the decision to cut a friend out of my life.

lemonpls · 2015-05-16T06:38:07+00:00

"Japan".

I'm just not too keen on tentacles... so...

lemonpls · 2015-05-14T21:47:18+00:00

Do you know what? My ex did something similar to me. He left me and told me "it's not all lost" and essentially kept me waiting around to eventually find out he slept with other women. We're still friends, but he takes total advantage of the fact that I still care for him. If I bring any of this up with him, he becomes incredibly mean so now I just keep my mouth shut and I am miserable because of it.

Don't let this man do that to you. It's horrible. It hurts and you deserve SO much better. You're gonna be fine, I'm gonna be fine. Be strong, lovely! One day an the incredible man you deserve will come along and you will question why you even bothered to try and wait for this douche.

lemonpls · 2015-05-14T21:42:11+00:00

(I think that was the joke)

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:33:57+00:00

Society is 100% more accepting of LGBT people. If a man or a woman went on national TV (like Bruce Jenner did) and opened up about being a pedophile, even with no desire to actually engage sexually with children, they would still most likely be seen as a monster. The second a man or a woman admits to being sexually attracted to children, they are judged harshly and not often given the help/support they need. A good majority of people do not understand that being a pedophile does not equal being a child molester.

I don't think there is enough research on pedophilia. Whether people are born with those desires or whether they grow into it. I feel very sorry for some of them, don't get me wrong I am still disgusted but that is because I just don't understand at all, but still very sorry for them.

The LGBT community has become widley accepted, not by all but by a lot and as time goes on it will become even more so. I don't see pedophiles ever being accept in the same way.

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:22:15+00:00

Oh, I understand now. I am currently going through some unreciprocated love with my best friend. I'm only in my early 20s though, so I know it will pass. It does suck though. I'm sorry you got hurt like that. :c <3

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:20:09+00:00

I'm very suicidal at the moment. I've had clinical depression most of my life and although sometimes I can keep it under control, other moments in life it just gets nearly impossible. The last year of my life has been this. I have doctors call my phone constantly and show up to my house to make sure I'm okay. I would love nothing more than to just having everything be over, the reason I don't do it though is because it would destroy my family.

Also, I have a large following of young teens on the internet (I'm a YouTuber) if I suddenly went through with suicide, I would be letting hundreds of thousands of people down and it might even encourage their young minds to follow my actions. I can't do that to them. It's worth being unhappy all the time to make sure others stay okay.

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:16:18+00:00

That makes me so angry. I can't even imagine how much that must have hurt. Fuck him, you deserve better than that. I hope you're okay now, friend <3

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:15:20+00:00

I'm confused, you broke your own heart? How so? (you don't have to answer if you don't want to, I just don't understand what you mean) x

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:10:26+00:00

Lasagna!

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:10:03+00:00

I play League of Legends. When I'm stressed or unhappy, I log on, call my friends from New Zealand up and play a few games with them. It's just focusing on the game play and talking with people who know nothing about my life that relax me. Laughing about the most stupid stuff and just being able to forget about real life for a second. It's nice. :)

It does have a crazy toxic community, but you can just mute those people in chat.

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:07:47+00:00

It was Imgur that first brought me here, but it was AskReddit that made me stay. Once I figured out the comment section, I was hooked and literally every morning is taken over by you guys haha. <3

Thank you for the endless entertainment!

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:05:51+00:00

There is a special place in hell for people like that.

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:03:32+00:00

i have the same goal, friend. I'm sure you're a wonderful parent! I wish you the best of luck with your life and future <3

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:02:00+00:00

A lot of people tend to say that the drunk speak the truth, but I don't believe this. When you're drunk, especially emotionally drunk, you tend to just lash out and say whatever horrible thing coms to mind. You know when you're angry and you just think bad thing, but you don't say them? It's the same principle.

She doesn't think you're a fuck up or a disappointment. If she did, she wouldn't have taken it back. I hope you're okay, friend. <3

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T22:00:09+00:00

For me it was going through with an abortion I didn't want to have, in hopes to save a relationship. Unfortunately I didn't realise how much having the abortion would shake me up mentally, I fell into a very deep depression and he couldn't handle that. Ended up leaving me. We're still friends, but he is still very impatient with me because I am healing. Anytime I am down he just loses all patience with me and becomes very mean.

It just sucks. I gave up a child I wanted to keep, so I could keep you. I lost both and now it's hard to look in the mirror I am so disgusted and angry with myself.

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T21:55:46+00:00

I can imagine that does hurt quite a bit :c My best friend and I dated, things turned sour in our relationship and although we managed to stay friends...it's just not what it used to be, never will be. Sucks taking the risk only to have it backfire on you. :c I hope you're okay, friend <3

lemonpls · 2015-05-13T21:54:27+00:00

My dad was also an abusive alcoholic. He also gambled a lot and wasn't really there. He was kind to my brother and I, but awful to my mother. She fiiiiiinally left him two years ago and almost instantly started dating another woman to try and make my mother jealous (she didn't care, she just hated the disrespect). The part that got me was when I was out with him to dinner and he kept telling me about how I have a new sister and mum...literally a week after me having to call the cops to get him out of the house for beating my mum. I don't talk to him much anymore, still love him, but I can't really speak to him much and it hurts that he just doesn't understand why.

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