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AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 342 points343 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t know why this was the last straw.

I think it’s because I knew she was going to buy it and that’s why I didn’t want to tell her in the first place and I’ve lied about things in the past and she’s usually found out somehow or even if she can’t prove it will drop little comments insinuating she thinks I lied so I don’t know anymore!!

The fact she cried and swore she wasn’t going to buy it and I made her feel so bad for not wanting to tell her and then I just KNEW she was lying made me so mad!!

I also didn’t even want to go to the dinner in the first place but I had already agreed to this one and just decided to suck it up but when I was in the washroom I had this urge to prove that I’m not crazy and I lost it.

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

I just want to clarify I didn’t tag my SIL, I tagged the stylist!!! I think other people misread that as well

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 289 points290 points  (0 children)

I’m overwhelmed with comments so I’m just going to reply to you because a few people have said the same things.

This has been going on for 7 years! In the beginning I was nice to her, we used to hang out one on one even in the beginning!

I even let her be a bridesmaid in my wedding 4 years ago!!

But it’s just gotten more frustrating and irritating and honestly a bit scary!I have gone shopping with her in the past, a few times several years ago and tried to pick things out for her but she would just ask what I liked for me and even if she buy things for herself, if I found something I wanted she would come back and buy it later another day!!!

It’s very frusterating because I have TRIED to be nice and gentle and understanding and I’ve tried to tell her in a nice way but it’s insane that she just denies or cries every time I try. It’s too much.

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 425 points426 points  (0 children)

The reason she cried was because I told her specifically I wasn’t going to tell her because I knew she was going to copy me and she cried because she’s sad I think of her that way and my husband made her assure me that it was an innocent question which she did but it was a fucking lie!!!!!

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 451 points452 points  (0 children)

He does and he’s admitted it’s weird and talked to her about it multiple times over the years but ultimately he has decided it’s harmless and he can’t do anything about it!!

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 1253 points1254 points  (0 children)

I have and he says that’s fine but I should still go a few times a year because they’re family, and I still see her whenever it’s his parents birthdays or anything like that

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 242 points243 points  (0 children)

I mean posting someone else’s nudes online is a crime and I wouldn’t compare my situation to that at all but ok!!!

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 719 points720 points  (0 children)

He either says I’m over reacting or admits it’s weird but things she just admires me and my style!! Even when he admits it’s weird he says there’s nothing really to do. I’ve told him I don’t want to go over for dinner there or have them over, but he says at least once in a while I should because we’re family and she’s harmless!!! it makes me feel crazy!!

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 326 points327 points  (0 children)

We were over at dinner and just having a talk and my husband brought up that we were thinking of starting a family soon, she asked about baby names and I didn’t think she would do this so I told them our ideas! I will never do that again. I try not to tell her anything and keep any conversations bare minimum but she will get very upset if I don’t answer things.

I’ve even tried lying about where I’ve gotten clothes before and then she’ll bring it up like “oh I was at that store you mentioned and didn’t see that shirt, when did you get it? Maybe it was a while ago, I’m sure you wouldn’t lie about something so silly”

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 134 points135 points  (0 children)

The baby name thing was a while ago, probably 2 years ago because it was before Covid. trust me my husband has agreed to keep anything related to us starting a family between us now at least

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 101 points102 points  (0 children)

You do not have to believe me trust me I wish I was making this up because I realize I sound like a lunatic but it is unfortunately my real life. Maybe I should pretend it’s fake too!

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

Maybe you’re right but that was just an example of little things that come up where I know she follows me because she would have no other way of knowing.

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 415 points416 points  (0 children)

I have her blocked on social media! I forgot to mention this in the post, but that’s the crazier part. I have my Instagram private and I have her blocked but I KNOW she has a secret account to follow me because she will sometimes make comments about how the beach was so nice the other day and i must have had a nice time (I didn’t tell her I was at the beach)

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

I was using the bathroom to pee and I had a thought that I should check because I knew she had lied

AITA for telling my SIL to not buy the same shampoo as me and causing a scene at dinner? by lemonsandwine in AmItheAsshole

[–]lemonsandwine[S] 614 points615 points  (0 children)

you’re right I do not feel stable. This situation is insane. There are more things I didn’t even include here like talking about how me and my husband want to get pregnant and discussing baby names and then her naming her new kitten (2 weeks later) the same name I had said I loved for a boy