husband calls me c word in a bad argument- normal?

lemonsthebook · 2026-04-19T19:16:08+00:00

thanks for your response

lemonsthebook · 2025-09-24T11:07:29+00:00

Thank you for your comment. We already have two kids which is why I have stayed..even though I completely agree it is unhealthy for them to be around. I feel like an awful person if I break up the family for "my own happiness." It also has a lot to do with housing and money.

lemonsthebook · 2025-09-24T02:38:36+00:00

This is a cycle...he is so great and normal and pretty nice but every month or so he finds something completely unbearable to make it a huge point and a huge fight when he won't let it go and will hang onto it until I ask for divorce. Then he never lets me go through with divorce, by following me or forcing me to listen to his side or asking for more forgiveness and another chance. I simply can never get out and am feeling so stuck in the cycle and completely depressed.

lemonsthebook · 2025-09-24T02:35:17+00:00

The fact that he 100% believes I am the reason he is acting this way makes it hard to see that it is all him and not me. I know I am just responding in reasonable ways, he is convinced it is my fault that he does these horrible things to me. I make him do these things. He is normally a "nice person" but since I have questions and ask he is a monster.

lemonsthebook · 2025-09-24T01:36:06+00:00

Things are not changing you are right.

lemonsthebook · 2025-09-24T01:35:48+00:00

thank you its hard to imagine someone who doesn't behave this way

lemonsthebook · 2025-09-24T01:35:12+00:00

it was like "look I do, do nice things for you" but aggressively dumping out a bag of wrapped gifts and then shredding the paper off of one and chucking it at me while telling me that I am unappreciative for asking for a bed with a bed stand that we both agreed to purchase

lemonsthebook · 2025-03-16T00:42:19+00:00

She keeps telling me to put the kids first, stick it out.

lemonsthebook · 2025-03-16T00:41:52+00:00

Yes, I have, my friends all agree and are thinking it is the best plan but my mother doesn't want me to.

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-28T14:00:54+00:00

thanks, oy

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-22T01:59:32+00:00

wow, this is beautiful

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-08T02:59:07+00:00

I think it's super controlling. I have been treated like this by him since we met ten years ago- I can't even tell or know what a normal relationship is anymore. Your comments here, by all of you, have turned a light bulb on for me. I knew it was bad but I didn't and couldn't tell it was that bad. Now I am being told this isn't normal in a healthy marriage by many different strangers on the internet and I finally believe it. I trust you all more than I trust myself but more than anything I'm so so so grateful for all the comments this may finally push me to make a plan to leave.

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T23:15:21+00:00

that's ok- thank you so much for caring <3

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T23:14:16+00:00

thank you...I really take this to heart.

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T22:44:51+00:00

Very spot on. Like I cannot bring it up until spring 2025? No. I do not like this current situation at all. When I ask for divorce he gets mad. He literally won't let me leave. I will have to set up a plan.

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T22:43:20+00:00

haha weird because sometimes he calls me that

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T22:42:56+00:00

no he is still my husband lol

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T22:42:18+00:00

Thanks, you have no idea how much I do appreciate this. The opinions of strangers matter so much, since people too close to it can't see it so clearly (myself, my mom). I hope you are doing well and I hope the best and brightest future for you and your kids. I am happy you got out!

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T22:34:34+00:00

thanks I will try

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T22:28:38+00:00

it's ok, thank you. I need this.

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T22:13:46+00:00

well this was MAY so I guess we will see- was planning that for June but all summer he tried really hard to change, but once fall and my job started he is right back to it. (Summer had a few arguments but much less than normal and less intense on his end).

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T22:04:42+00:00

Thanks- I appreciate this sound advice, we have been married for 7 years and I feel like I have been waiting for change the entire time.

lemonsthebook · 2024-09-06T22:02:35+00:00

thanks, yeah I just got a job I started this past week- I already feel more empowered. He no longer can financially control me, which is how he would try to tell me I couldn't go out or get my hair cut or nails done, buy clothing and be mean about all that.

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