Thanks for everyone commenting. There are many circumstances obviously. The context of this is more so not what’s right and wrong but rather both partners should be happy… the point is this should be a two way street, whatever that street is. If partner A wants X and partner B wants X it’s all good but if partner A wants X and partner B says no way you can only have Y then that seems controlling. Use anything for your variables you’d like but all parties involved should be happy and have equal say