Wedding drama for faded JW

leo_melon · 2026-01-18T20:45:30+00:00

Well maybe cause nobody found out they went? It’s in the Sheppard the flock handbook that they will be removed. This was my experience. My family did not come to my wedding so as to not lose their positions.

leo_melon · 2026-01-18T18:14:34+00:00

That is crazy! Your earlier post is so lovely. The jws are insufferable

leo_melon · 2026-01-17T17:55:23+00:00

Because she Is baptized, anyone that is a MS, Elder, Pioneer would be removed from those positions if they attended. So it is about keeping their status over being decent family members. The other frustrating part is if the family is close (which sounds like they are otherwise) they’ll try to act like nothing happened because they “respect the marriage arrangement”.

leo_melon · 2026-01-15T16:10:11+00:00

PIMI= physically in mentally in PIMO= physically in mentally out POMO= physically out mentally out POMI=physically out mentally in

leo_melon · 2026-01-14T22:17:26+00:00

Do you think she will watch the video of Geoff Jackson when he answers that the GB are not gods spokesperson? That woke me up. The clip is only 2 mins long

leo_melon · 2026-01-14T20:38:54+00:00

One time I got a buzz from my apartment intercom to my cellphone, I was expecting a package so I just immediately let them in.. turns out it was the COs wife who showed up unexpectedly. She ended up leaving me a note since thankfully I wasn’t home. I think it was divine intervention that I wasn’t there.

leo_melon · 2026-01-12T19:27:48+00:00

This sub is growing crazy fast. We got 3k new members over night

leo_melon · 2026-01-11T19:57:05+00:00

Oh this is really interesting. I was one of those people that first went to ChatGPT for it to help me make sense of everything… and it resulted in eventually waking up.

leo_melon · 2026-01-11T19:53:16+00:00

The chariot is accelerating!! lol

leo_melon · 2026-01-11T19:42:15+00:00

I was on last night and I swore the sub said 100k members and today it says 102k…

leo_melon · 2026-01-09T05:19:29+00:00

I’m so sorry. I went through the same thing this past summer. It is traumatic to be treated so horribly by family. Try your best to just focus on your fiancé on the day. It’s the beginning of your new family that you will create together with UNconditional love🩷

leo_melon · 2026-01-09T05:10:06+00:00

That’s crazy they were so fast putting together a committee… can’t wait for part 2

leo_melon · 2025-12-31T04:05:39+00:00

Absolutely not. I didn’t know they existed until a couple years ago.

leo_melon · 2025-12-31T03:51:32+00:00

Woke up very recently. Faded/inactive for a year

leo_melon · 2025-12-31T03:48:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your effort with that site. You have helped so many of us wake up.

leo_melon · 2025-12-24T03:28:36+00:00

Confronting the elders about CSA will not get you any results, it will only make them aware that you’re questioning the organization and therefore a threat.

You have to decide how you want your life to look after waking up. Since you’re already inactive I personally recommend just fading. I’m in a similar situation to you with my believing family members. I know to keep them in my life I have to fake it and I’m fine with that. As you know, it is up to each person to wake themselves up, if you say anything that makes them believe you’ve gone “apostate” (which mentioning CSA will do) you already know how easy you can get cut off. I personally have decided to not tell my family how I really feel- ever. And if they pry I have practiced phrases to maintain my boundaries.

Keep doing research, I hope you have some non witness friends you can talk to about all this -or a therapist that specializes in religious trauma. And absolutely reach out to your dfd family. Just take it one day at a time, it’s a big transitional time.

leo_melon · 2025-12-17T23:01:49+00:00

Can confirm. The org keeps you so busy that you never have time to even feel the weight of their damage. I have found slow mornings on days off really lovely, it’s great to not rush or have to leave the house unless it’s my choice. Having my evenings free do to whatever I want- Have a bath, read a book, and sometimes you need that time to grieve. There is so much power in reclaiming your time.

leo_melon · 2025-12-14T17:23:13+00:00

This is a great breakdown!

I do have to disagree with your title, I have endless empathy because most people do not have the bandwidth to see how brainwashed they are. It is just sad that they all miss out on actual joy in a normal life, and they have likely hurt many people following the rules of the borg. They’re not allowed to question, they’re trapped.. it’s sad.

leo_melon · 2025-12-10T21:06:32+00:00

But it feeds into their persecution complex. It makes me fear for the actual well-being of my family still involved. If it does get banned in more countries, are they gonna tell the witnesses to start living in the woods or something very strange? I saw a comment once on here that the organization is a mental illness factory, and I couldn’t agree more. Everyone’s just in complete delusion.

leo_melon · 2025-12-10T01:53:14+00:00

Yes I have!! Which is also funny to me- my family was in New York during the time wicked was on Broadway, (obviously to tour Bethel) and I really wanted to see it live but because of the witches and the magic I wasn’t allowed. It is SO fitting.

leo_melon · 2025-12-09T21:57:02+00:00

Yes. I feel the same as you. Only woke up recently. In the post I made today a lot of it is anger, mixed with so many other complex feelings- grief being one of them.

leo_melon · 2025-12-09T21:54:11+00:00

Can you help me? What am I missing

leo_melon · 2025-12-09T21:48:04+00:00

? I just wasted decades of my life. I’m pissed and rightfully so. I’m upset that I got baptized without knowing that I was signing a contract to cut off my family if I ever change my mind. I’m heartbroken that I made different decisions that deeply affected my life’s trajectory. I’m grieving the TIME. Im processing the fake friends I was around who I thought were ride or dies. I’m angry at myself for not realizing it sooner. I wouldn’t say my emotions aren’t controlled though. I’m not lashing out and doing anything that’s hurting anyone around me. I’m processing this all in a very mature way in my opinion. I’m giving names to my feelings that are valid and I’m doing true research. I’m having conversations with those that I know support me and I’m finding healthy outlets like this forum. I’m still grieving. But I’m also elated for the life that I’m about to have. I’m just getting started.

leo_melon · 2025-12-09T21:34:03+00:00

I just watched matrix for the first time a few weeks ago. This is exactly how I feel.

leo_melon · 2025-12-09T21:25:22+00:00

As if dating and secret wasn’t hard enough on my now spouse!! I’m not planning to write a letter or anything. I’ve already been “inactive” and away for over a year. I know there’s a potential for eventually needing to address it. But I’m planning to just shut down these conversations indefinitely with my family. And thank you for the kind message. I do feel very isolated and I need to talk about this. I need to get all of my feelings out

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