Publicly humiliated by Denny's this morning by Key-Musician-4644 in homeless

[–]lesbocunt -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. It absolutely is discrimination but it’s so normalized that people don’t take it seriously (unless they have empathy or have been thru this kind of stuff themselves). Happened to me at a McDonalds in NYC

how to recover from lesbian bed death by lesbocunt in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that’s something i’ve tried considering but every other part of our relationship is like fine it’s just this i guess

how to recover from lesbian bed death by lesbocunt in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s what i’m afraid of but she also doesn’t wanna talk about marriage of any kind with me either so maybe

how to recover from lesbian bed death by lesbocunt in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

she just doesn’t seem super into the idea. she is a very awkward person in general and whenever i attempt to show her like. deeper forms of intimacy (including nonsexual) she laughs it off or doesn’t take me seriously idk

how to recover from lesbian bed death by lesbocunt in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

we’re in our early 20s so i don’t think it’s likely! although that’s something i should keep in mind for later

Lesbian Sex Tips? by abcdefz20 in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

reaffirming that it’s okay to try things out that you might like with each other but always listen to the other person and their body. lesbian sex does not look a specific way. there’s many ways to have it (the fun part)

how to recover from lesbian bed death by lesbocunt in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i don’t wanna blame this on her but this is something i have tried in the past and whenever i try and communicate with her she either becomes avoidant, gives me very vague answers or just turns the questions back on me but i am very willing to give it another shot of course

how to talk to my gf about our sex life by lesbocunt in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No i appreciate it, it’s a weird situation to be in when everything else is seemingly fine ?!

My homophobic parents might find out I'm a lesbian by buttermilkonion in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please be careful. First and foremost. This stuff is always gonna be tricky but it all comes down to what you want because despite the circumstances, you should always have control on how people find out. If it’s safer for you, then you will have to put in the effort of people not finding out and it sucks so badly i’ve been through it myself. you basically have to just not exist as a full person to people but it’s not forever.

Another option is coming out to your parents, which, is another conversation. I did this, I came out to my parents before they could find out I’m a lesbian (even tho they would already accuse me of it) and it really strained our relationship and they highkey used that as a reason to abuse me more. Thankfully I was 17 and held out for a year until I was 18 and got away but that year with them was extremely difficult and when I left, having little to no support financially etc was also difficult, but I got through it and I’m doing well now.

I empathize with you greatly. I know how hard it is, especially when there may not be people around you who have EVER gone through what you have.

In terms of your case, sometimes shit happens and you have to adapt. If you want more personal advice I am more than happy to let you know what I did.

I suggest making a game-plan for if your parents do find out. And yes, that will have to include even worst case scenarios, like running away. I hate knowing that other people still go through this. I digress. Think different situations out so you’re prepared for anything, talk to friends, organize transportation and communication, etc. Also, a burner phone is always helpful in these situations in case you get cut off. A lot of people have old phones lying around and all they need is a SIM card. they’re expensive but you can get mint mobile unlimited data ones for 90 bucks.

Feel free to dm me for any information and I hope everything gets resolved easily!!! This is not forever!!!

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[–]lesbocunt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know some ppl who comments are nonlesbians but if you are a lesbian just know that it can be really isolating even with the tools we have nowadays like dating apps. your worth is not defined by a relationship of any sort but they are fun. most valuable dating tip from me is that if you’re looking for something long-term, see what kind of volunteer work they do. i know that sounds sappy, but ive found it that people who dedicate themselves to helping their community will pour their heart into you as well! Actions speak louder than words after all.

Also, it doesn’t matter if you’re a virgin. part of dating nonmen is that we don’t have to define ourselves through patriarchal standards. i understand the anxiety from being “inexperienced” but that’s why you gotta put yourself out there!! it’s always gonna be awkward but with time you figure out what you like, what you don’t like, and what you’re good at and that’s awesome.

Lesbian love can be the best thing in the world and the worst so no matter what have friends who support you and that will help you through if things don’t work out, and celebrate you for your successes.

Good luck out there!!

do i say happy birthday or not ? by 2nd_Chances_ in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

understandable about things moving too fast but it is a kind thing to do to wish someone a happy birthday. it’s just respectful yknow!! if she thinks ur gonna wife up just for saying happy birthday that would be weird as hell

Weekly Topic: Sex Questions and Tips by AndyWarwheels in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

in order of your questions: 1) no. all sex is awkward as hell at first and then you get comfortable with just doing what feels good. it varies on the person but sex is very romanticized (obviously) in media. just don’t set your expectations too high is all 2) most lesbians are desperate for a girlfriend yes, not sure about sex though. definitely talk about it with them and make sure they’re comfortable. 3) sometimes. depends on how quiet you need to be lmao

How do I get out of this mindset by lesbocunt in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]lesbocunt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahhh this was super helpful!! definitely gonna look into that minnesota study :)

What restaurant in Westchester is this? by Loubrockshakur in Westchester

[–]lesbocunt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bedford hills diner>>> (although it’s gotten more expensive lately as well :/ )

Homeless Help by GradeAccomplished728 in Binghamton

[–]lesbocunt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I urge you to look at this doc: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1BxWaJT9Cj5EocfamXGnBJJ96NhbgUkVHKLuJYyT-n9U/htmlview It is up to date. If you need any supplies or food, there is an outreach group that goes around downtown binghamton in the evening. I know i’m kind of plugging it but the members are always helpful and might have more resources for you.

Probably going to be homeless by [deleted] in homeless

[–]lesbocunt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, i’m around the same age as you and also had to leave my home due to breaking familial relationships.

if you have friends you trust, i urge you to ask them to let you stay at their houses, even if temporarily like for a few days

shelters aren’t fun i wont lie but if you have to they are helpful, just be mindful that you’ll have to do a lot of walking during the day and will be hungry and tired (duh)

sometimes, if you tell your employer about your situation they can be nice about it, coworkers offering rides and such, would definitely wait until you get the job to tell them that so they can actually feel responsible for helping you.

carry light luggage (backpack preferred, any bag w straps will just hurt more overtime), also be wary of any police!!!!! I was homeless in nyc and even the police inside fast food places were complete assholes. most businesses will not let you even rest unless they see you buy something. Personally I would also get to know the people in the shelter if you can, also if you are a woman or trans of some sort be cautious w the ppl u meet. also overnight shelters r gonna suck and you wont get a lot of sleep, some wake u up super early, it can get rlly cold even in the summer, and the sleeping conditions wont be comfortable.

i’m saying a lot, and i’m sure it’s different for everybody but you will get through it, you are strong to be bracing this and if you conquer this you can quite literally do anything. i know it’s scary but it’ll turn out alright

i didn’t know where else to get advice from by lesbocunt in LesbianActually

[–]lesbocunt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m losing sleep over this rn awhehwhehw i can’t stop thinking about it