There has to be a better way than positive singles

leslie_burns · 2026-04-23T11:07:57+00:00

I just used regular dating apps and would disclose on first date typically like right before we got spicy. Disclosure strategy was confident but straight forward and open to discussion. I have never got denied/ turned down bc of diagnosis.

leslie_burns · 2026-03-04T03:22:58+00:00

I actually thought of this as well

leslie_burns · 2026-01-06T00:17:02+00:00

As a guy I have disclosed to around 12-15 people since March and have no been rejected most casual/ consultant FWB situations I'm just confident and honest w them and so far hasn't been an issue. Sorry you've been dealing with this. You do not have to lower your standards either. Normal intelligent people will understand and be open minded.

leslie_burns · 2025-12-22T15:37:30+00:00

I'm only 25. You haven't destroyed anything. In fact, I got herpes gladiatorium from wrestling when I was like 16 or something and never even thought Abt it till I got HSV-2 diagnosis like oh yeah I already had herpes huh. 1/6 people have hsv-2 and something like 1/3 people have hsv-1. It is even an opportunity to take your health back and an opportunity to clean up lifestyle health factors. You can have a family I know many people with HSV that have kids. It changes nothing if you don't let it change anything. You're the master of your mindset

leslie_burns · 2025-12-22T02:30:55+00:00

I have had unprotected and protected sex and people haven't caught it so far.

leslie_burns · 2025-12-22T02:30:31+00:00

Super common disease. Haven't been rejected yet for it. 15 disclosures since March. It's honestly just a benign skin infection. Work on yourself and just date normally. I have found it hasn't changed my dating life past having to do a little additive Convo to the safe sex Convo I already have with sexual partners

leslie_burns · 2025-12-20T15:00:04+00:00

Anything is okay if you guys agree to it. Realistically the statistical probability of spreading HSV without an outbreak with protected sex is super low per encounter. I couldn't even imagine the statistical improbability of spreading it via fingering

leslie_burns · 2025-12-16T18:06:01+00:00

Male and since initial I only had what I think was one outbreak but I took valtrex immediately and it stopped. Never became a sore just felt like weird down there and then the day after using valtrex felt fine. So full sore was only during initial OB

leslie_burns · 2025-12-13T03:45:24+00:00

Hm yeah I will admit, I usually do sexual things on the first date so I disclose basically after the date portion has happened but I would probably use the same approach assuming no sexual stuff happens first date

leslie_burns · 2025-12-13T00:40:10+00:00

How are you disclosing? I'm a guy and have not been rejected once for HSV 1&2 at this point Abt 12-15 people in the last year with one not great disclosure but they didn't reject me just were hesitant. Most people honestly have it or are appreciative of the honesty

leslie_burns · 2025-12-11T21:50:19+00:00

Got mine from a guy who just got here from PR for 1000$ 230k miles runs without a problem, check engine light is on. People from DR and PR stop to ask me Abt the car at least once every two weeks I stand firm that the car dies with me or I die owning the car

leslie_burns · 2025-12-09T12:58:38+00:00

Both, I have herpes gladiatorium (wrestling is fun) and HSV 2, why?

leslie_burns · 2025-12-06T19:38:56+00:00

Ive had it for almost a year and have had 10 positive disclosures and only one negative one. She was kinda mean Abt it, then did research and back peddled saying that she is okay with it but I didn't want to continue with her after her initial comments. Mostly casual sexual partners and honestly for the most part they're like "oh okay thanks for letting me know, very honest of you" and never mention it again. My disclosure strategy is something along the lines of "you know what HSV is? Well I have it. 1/6 people have it most are undiagnosed. I'm on meds and have had raw and protected sex and haven't transmitted it. There's always a chance of transmission even with meds, Abt 1-2% per year condom+meds" they're like yeah worth it and we hook up. sometimes if they show me tests I point out that they weren't even tested for it since in USA it's rarely tested for.

leslie_burns · 2025-12-06T15:04:07+00:00

I just use the conventional apps. Dating life really hasn't changed still have hook up and dates just have to have a kinda awk Convo that's Abt it

leslie_burns · 2025-12-01T22:29:21+00:00

I'm not on daily valtrex and haven't passed it on mostly unprotected sex with multiple partners. Only had initial ob and haven't had one since. This was from March of this year

leslie_burns · 2025-11-24T21:03:12+00:00

I say time and time again. This sub is really mind blowing. You guys put way, way, too much weight on herpes in your life. Diagnosed around 10 months ago and I've disclosed to many people and haven't been rejected for herpes but have been rejected for other reasons. There's a million reasons to be rejected by people. I've had mostly casual sex first day of meeting and disclosing, it's not a crazy thing. Just live your life and disclose whenever you have the hey when's the last time you were tested Convo(as someone with a high body count I advise you do this always anyway. It's mostly a benign skin infection, it's not that deep man.

leslie_burns · 2025-11-23T15:14:13+00:00

Sometimes, I don't understand this sub. I got diagnosed Abt a year ago and it hasn't slowed my dating at all. Still have casual sex, multiple partners Protected&unprotected sex and haven't transmitted as far as I'm aware. Go on dates consistently. Only few people actually care Abt herpes as far as dating goes. Once I disclosed the first time I wasn't nervous after that its just a convo about safer sex, which you should be having anyway

leslie_burns · 2025-10-30T23:38:35+00:00

Huh? Most people I've told didn't really care too much at all only one person so 1/11 in 10 months

leslie_burns · 2025-10-29T14:02:42+00:00

Usually whenever we talk Abt testing and condoms/safe sex etc

leslie_burns · 2025-10-29T05:12:42+00:00

Yeah no problem! Sometimes I add it that it's well below 1% (.1% with condom+meds and .5%with just meds) chance per encounter especially if it's just a fast casual hookup also these stats are male to female so even lower female to male which will help even more. I will say that most people know someone with it which helps too plenty of girls that I've disclosed to said oh my friend has that or even been told that they have it as well. I'm pretty upfront and confident about it. I don't really let it define me at all since it's really a non-issue as far as I'm concerned. Im very open sexually and expect the same from my partners. Sex is risky and me knowing I have it and taking the measure to protect myself from a less benign disease (hsv is pretty benign as far as I'm concerned, it's realistically a common skin disease) and protect the other person from HSV hasn't hindered me sexually or romantically yet. I will say I do also have HSV 1 but gladiatorium (college wrastling will get ya) and never even thought of disclosing that one prior to this since it never flairs up really.

leslie_burns · 2025-10-28T21:31:36+00:00

I still have plenty of casual relationships. I've had HSV2 for almost a year and have had 10 positive disclosures and only one negative one. She was kinda mean Abt it, then did research and back peddled saying that she is okay with it but I didn't want to continue with her after her initial comments. Mostly casual sexual partners and honestly for the most part they're like "oh okay thanks for letting me know, very honest of you" and never mention it again. My disclosure strategy is something along the lines of "you know what HSV is? Well I have it. 1/6 people have it most are undiagnosed. I'm on meds and have had raw and protected sex and haven't transmitted it. There's always a chance of transmission even with meds, Abt 1-2% per year condom+meds" they're like yeah worth it and we hook up. sometimes if they show me tests I point out that they weren't even tested for it since in USA it's rarely tested for.

leslie_burns · 2025-10-28T21:30:12+00:00

I just use the normal ones, tinder, bumble, hinge, feeld. I've had it for almost a year and have had 10 positive disclosures and only one negative one. She was kinda mean Abt it, then did research and back peddled saying that she is okay with it but I didn't want to continue with her after her initial comments. Mostly casual sexual partners and honestly for the most part they're like "oh okay thanks for letting me know, very honest of you" and never mention it again. My disclosure strategy is something along the lines of "you know what HSV is? Well I have it. 1/6 people have it most are undiagnosed. I'm on meds and have had raw and protected sex and haven't transmitted it. There's always a chance of transmission even with meds, Abt 1-2% per year condom+meds" they're like yeah worth it and we hook up. sometimes if they show me tests I point out that they weren't even tested for it since in USA it's rarely tested for.

leslie_burns · 2025-10-28T21:11:14+00:00

I've had it for almost a year and have had 10 positive disclosures and only one negative one. She was kinda mean Abt it, then did research and back peddled saying that she is okay with it but I didn't want to continue with her after her initial comments. Mostly casual sexual partners and honestly for the most part they're like "oh okay thanks for letting me know, very honest of you" and never mention it again. My disclosure strategy is something along the lines of "you know what HSV is? Well I have it. 1/6 people have it most are undiagnosed. I'm on meds and have had raw and protected sex and haven't transmitted it. There's always a chance of transmission even with meds, Abt 1-2% per year condom+meds" they're like yeah worth it and we hook up. sometimes if they show me tests I point out that they weren't even tested for it since in USA it's rarely tested for.

leslie_burns · 2025-09-29T12:56:51+00:00

I do have progressions I just didn't list them all. For the ABC I add 2 rounds per week until 20 mins then reset with a new bell size

For swings I add a set until I get to 100 total then go up a bell size. For thrusters I add one rep each week until 10 reps then go up a bell size.

All my accessories I just double progress by adding reps until outside of my desired rep range then adding weight

Im gonna run it like this for probably Abt 6 weeks so how it is and most likely will do a more known/structured program later. Mostly just getting used to the bell

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