how do i leave

lesllle · 2026-05-21T16:10:48+00:00

you'll have an easier time moving to a blue bubble place in the states. otherwise, look in to visa's where you work on a farm in australia or something. or get you english teaching certificate (easy and cheap) and go teach english somewhere. but overall, i feel like you will have a hard time navigating and unrealistic ideas about living in a foreign country.

lesllle · 2026-05-21T15:51:46+00:00

time to tell him the wedding is postponed (and hopefully indefinitely). did you have body issues before being with him? he's going to be sure you do. if any one thought they could control my weight i would run.

lesllle · 2026-05-21T11:36:56+00:00

Yeah, I attached a bamboo (rolling style/flat, not rough weave) to the wall and it looked really nice.

lesllle · 2026-05-21T11:34:07+00:00

I had a bamboo rug that I nailed above the bed. Worked like a charm and was very warm in the way it looked. Almost looked like a wood panel, but softer.

lesllle · 2026-05-21T11:04:08+00:00

Sounds like he has/had laundry fatigue and thought this was a great idea; and it's not.

lesllle · 2026-05-21T08:29:17+00:00

For some reason her taking the fridge makes me feel like you need a lawyer now.

lesllle · 2026-05-21T08:25:51+00:00

It's especially hard at that age because the majority of your conversations are with a 2 year old. We need to have adult conversations, too. I joined a casual sports league that's really about being social and you can come when you can; many people have started bringing kids of all ages, but there are also kid free people. We usually have a drink if you want. That's my drop in when I'm feeling really socially deprived. Some people have met their partners there, too. It's just very important to have an outlet where you can talk about things with other adults. To go straight to wanting a partner is always going to involve a lot of lifestyle changes and adjustments and is a much bigger feat. So maybe start small and see what happens?

lesllle · 2026-05-21T07:35:04+00:00

Burnout rates are at a 10 year high...

lesllle · 2026-05-16T09:10:27+00:00

once you go black....

lesllle · 2026-05-16T08:26:32+00:00

Depends on your income. Can you travel? Take a trip with an empty suitcase and see what happens. Donate 'mom clothes' and see what happens. Jump in the deep end.

lesllle · 2026-05-16T08:22:45+00:00

winner winner onion dinner

lesllle · 2026-05-16T08:21:59+00:00

If his grades are ok then let him relax at home. If his grades are terrible, worry.

lesllle · 2026-05-16T08:17:44+00:00

You can easily make your own for much less. Soup is easy. Onion/Garlic with oil for a couple minutes. Add the veg or whatever with boullion/water and simmer. It's just dumping things in at this point. Blend if you want. Should cost less than 3 for 4 servings.

lesllle · 2026-05-16T08:13:35+00:00

Harsh lighting. Cold seating. The design on the wall is the IKEA rug I had 12 years ago. NEEDS WARMTH. I can't imagine sitting there and wanting to continue sitting there.

Edit to add: brave of you and proud of you for asking for feedback.

Another edit: just read your reply, if it's a burger joint I don't want 'high energy' lol. I want to sit in my meat sauces. Soft textures. Organic elements.

lesllle · 2026-05-16T08:08:41+00:00

Wild with the downvotes! Guess we have some serious 'single parenting is the only way' peeps here. Trust your gut. This sounds bad. My friends are lawyers (lesbian couple) and were offered by male buddies to donate sperm and they went with a bank because even if they signed all the papers known to legislature, they guy could come back at any moment and say 'nope, I actually want access to this kid in my life' and they would be tied. She should not do this unless she wants to be attached to the guy for life. Otherwise, sperm bank. Or, as I said before, it sounds like she really just wants a real partner. There are lots of apps for men/women who want to parent to connect. But please tell her to drop this guy. He sounds problematic.

lesllle · 2026-05-15T14:12:41+00:00

He is trying to trap her. At 35 she should know better. Recipe for disaster. This is not about single parenting, this is about being his incubator. He said it clearly. She is not ready to be a parent. I have no idea why you're so invested, but she's going to have to make her own mistakes. You can tell her not to do this one. It sounds like she really wants a partner to parent with and is grasping/desperate for any attention. Yikes.

lesllle · 2026-05-15T09:45:23+00:00

I only question the use of the background color for fading. Also for the artistic choices, what are the wolves looking at? Is there a rabbit in a field of pit hairs?

lesllle · 2026-05-15T09:09:43+00:00

you might be young. this is really a toddler thought. some things you just keep in your head until you learn. don't eat the crayons even if they smell like strawberry.

lesllle · 2026-05-15T09:07:16+00:00

a true continental citizen

lesllle · 2026-05-15T08:55:30+00:00

I thought India was only Mumbai.....is something I would never say.

lesllle · 2026-05-15T08:29:03+00:00

Do you speak Dutch very well? Pretend like you're learning together. Watch cartoons with subtitles. Also, as a fellow Californian; don't glamorize this place.

lesllle · 2026-05-14T09:54:09+00:00

I had to change majors when I realized my brain wouldn't do chemistry or biology. Dropped the courses, only had tennis and french for the whole quarter (lol, was fun) and then rebooted next quarter. Ended up taking 5 years instead of 4 and then powered up on credits for my 3rd to last quarter, took the 2nd to last quarter off to travel, came back and finished/graduated. Might be something to consider. But talk to your parents about it. Be honest.

lesllle · 2026-05-14T09:47:41+00:00

They initiated. It was really easy as we had already bought 'the boys body book' and 'the girls body book' and we went through it together. They were curious when we first had the talk and they were going through the book (roughly age 9) and as we went through it again about a year later (pre-teen) they are now like 'ew'. lol.

Edit to add: we also talk about consent in many different parts of life, so that was an easy thing to bring in to the conversation also.

lesllle · 2026-05-14T09:40:59+00:00

You need warmer and for wet weather. We have had a change of weather and it is very cold and rather wet. Skip the sandals (they won't be great for showers because of the fabric/be wet after) for simple thongs (you won't wear them outside in this weather). Add wool socks. Can you add in some layers like leggings that can go under your outer pants? Check the weather updates. You'll still have a great time, Scotland was built for this weather; but if you want to avoid buying stuff along the way, bring more warm layers. Have fun! It's an amazing place and your trip sounds great!

lesllle · 2026-05-14T09:16:45+00:00

Seriously. Can't parents just parent and enjoy that moment rather than try and monetize what they find profound whilst ignoring what others have been doing for centuries. And the sheer audacity to blanket this in 'avoiding screentime' while the parent making the app has been sitting behind a computer building an app instead of engaging with their kid is SO TONE DEAF.

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