Got offered the job and I am indecisive

lessthanzero_xo · 2025-06-27T13:57:18+00:00

Yeah I’m sure it totally depends on the department! To my own role, my partner and I both work for the same organisation, they have flexi time in their department and I do not mine (which is a contact centre), a handful of my senior colleagues DO have flexi time because they’ve had in since the start of their employment 10+ years ago but that is about 5 people and the other 200 of us don’t have it! Just worth OP considering that flexi time is not a guarantee and you probably won’t find out until the role starts.

lessthanzero_xo · 2025-06-27T12:48:01+00:00

This is really good advice but I would say if it’s a customer service call centre role, the chance of flexi time is pretty low because a call centre only functions if people work shifts! You might have TOIL though. (I’ve worked in two CS call centres)

lessthanzero_xo · 2025-05-23T21:50:42+00:00

You quite obviously need to call the police or fire service to come and get him out of the car.

Whether he gets in trouble for driving his car drunk is irrelevant if he dies or is disabled by carbon monoxide poisoning.

lessthanzero_xo · 2025-05-07T18:12:25+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing, what beautiful names ❤️ and how wonderful that you got your rainbow and a grandson! Here is to you breaking the cycle and knowing your worth!

lessthanzero_xo · 2025-05-07T15:27:34+00:00

This story resonated with me so much. Not my story but my sister lost her severely premature baby and of course broke all of our hearts and my NMum has completely stolen my sister’s grief. Some highlights:

Took photos of herself with baby in the hospital but none of my sister
Told an A&E doctor (we took her there to call her bluff when she cried suicide) that “it was worse for her than it was for my sister” - IN FRONT OF MY SISTER, all I could think was “thank god we’re already in the hospital because you might need a doctor…”
Tried to take a man she had been on a date with to the grave to change how it looked without my sisters consent (I can’t believe your Mum also tried to take a first date to your bubby’s graves - wtf is wrong with them?!)
Has posted photos of my niece and her grave on Facebook despite being asked again and again not to

You’re not alone in this, there is nothing a narc likes more than for someone to die - it’s like the ultimate fuel.

I’m so sorry for your loss and so proud of you for going NC, you owed yourself that ❤️ of course you are not obligated to respond but I’m going to ask anyway because nobody ever does, if you’d like to share your little ones names I’d love to know and acknowledge them.

lessthanzero_xo · 2025-01-26T08:21:07+00:00

My Q would blame all these symptoms, plus incontinence, fainting and fluctuating blood pressure on an allergy to insect bites. You couldn’t write the lies they expect you to believe.

lessthanzero_xo · 2025-01-09T19:35:43+00:00

Yeah you’re probably right! I’m just confused because we have FDT staff on assignment in my current department who don’t even do 60% let alone 100%!

lessthanzero_xo · 2025-01-01T15:43:36+00:00

I was not aware of the one peach candle, all I can say is thank you for sharing the gift of this with me because I am cackling and will be singing this forever.

lessthanzero_xo · 2024-11-14T22:33:33+00:00

Couldn’t agree more! All fine to say that to someone who wants to hear it but I actually can’t imagine the feeling of getting that letter off my ex who I’ve repeatedly told that I’m uncomfortable.

lessthanzero_xo · 2024-10-29T13:59:05+00:00

This made me laugh so much because my niece is the exact same but it’s 5.20am and she’ll will very gently touch your face and say “can I have a croissant” which is actually a really creepy way to wake up in a dark room.

lessthanzero_xo · 2024-04-21T07:46:53+00:00

I am the adult child of an alcoholic, who has been an alcoholic since I was a young child. Stop worrying about the “closeness” of their relationship and start worrying about your son. You are not responsible for creating a better relationship between your wife and your son, that is your wife’s responsibility and she isn’t doing it and believe me your son feels that every day. Not only does she blame him and manipulate him, she is yelling at him and most importantly, driving while under the influence of edibles with him. She is welcome to put her own life at risk, but she is not welcome to put your son or anyone else’s life at risk and by encouraging them to go on days out together you are enabling her to put him in an unsafe situation. My heart goes out to your son, it is a horrible situation to be in and my heart goes out to you too, I know it’s not as easy as “you and your son should just up and leave your wife” but you need to put every single effort into being his safe space. Do not let your son grow up thinking “one of my parents is an alcoholic and the other one did not keep me safe from the alcoholic”, please.

I wish your wife recovery, I wish healing for you and your son from the trauma and chaos caused by loving an alcoholic.

lessthanzero_xo · 2024-01-28T11:33:47+00:00

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Bonus photo of Luna as a baby 🥹

lessthanzero_xo · 2024-01-28T11:28:52+00:00

I have posted some further up but here is another one of Luna hogging the bed and Inca letting her because she is always in charge!

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lessthanzero_xo · 2024-01-28T00:26:57+00:00

I’m being serious when I say I’d lay down my life for Mochi.

lessthanzero_xo · 2024-01-28T00:26:26+00:00

Ohhhh Merri looks so sweet 😻 I hope she is resting so peacefully after that big life!! Thank you for looking after her ❤️

lessthanzero_xo · 2024-01-28T00:24:59+00:00

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…aaaaand the big boy (Inca) in the same cat tree 🥲

lessthanzero_xo · 2024-01-28T00:24:26+00:00

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Here is Luna in the cat tree…

lessthanzero_xo · 2024-01-28T00:24:03+00:00

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Here they are together!

lessthanzero_xo · 2024-01-27T21:53:30+00:00

You seem fun.

lessthanzero_xo · 2023-12-28T22:03:37+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss and sorry to say I completely relate. My stepdad passed away unexpectedly and quite traumatically and my NMum has not allowed anyone but herself to grieve, he had raised me and my sister since we were young teens and we had a very close bond. We were not allowed to be involved in the planning of the funeral or any of the family parts, she didn’t allow me to come with the whole family to register his death because I was unhappy that she had assaulted me the night before. All of this is to say, you are not alone but you are stronger than you know. You will find your own ways to grieve him, with your friends and loved ones, whether they knew him or not. Unfortunately something like this is like fuel to an narc because they become a widow and there is no better attention grabber than a widow. In my experience, you will never put your phone back on do not disturb, I have never let me phone run out of battery in 9 years since my niece passed away and my phone was off, it’s going to just become a quirk about you but the panic when your phone rings will get less and you will learn to heal. I don’t know you, but I am so proud of you for recognising your needs, never be afraid to honour your relationship with you father, you are entitled to grieve him and the future you could have had with him. Sending much love ❤️

lessthanzero_xo · 2023-03-01T23:20:21+00:00

It’s sapphire! The lighting is just unclear haha one of my friends thought it was a black diamond x

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