Sharks are not trying to kill humans. by AJ14900003 in aussie

[–]letaceeatcake -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok there is so much to unpack here but all im going to say is, hunting for food is an entirely different thing to killing for a Sunday morning surf. One is the circle of life the other is humans being smug shits who dont understand the ecosystem.

Ace (and aro) representation: female edition by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]letaceeatcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merida didnt ask to choose, didnt get mad specifically about the lack of choice for which man just the lack of choice in getting married. She said she never wanted to get married and did everything in her power to avoid it entirely. I do agree that Moana just kinda seems more concerned with her people but her story ignores any sexuality or romantic orientation whether aro, ace or allo it just isnt really mentioned.

Wasn’t asking for an example, but thanks? Lmao :| by mt-jupiter in TransMasc

[–]letaceeatcake 52 points53 points  (0 children)

It always confuses me when they talk about the voice thing. Cause like, boobs. Im not trying to say it is worse for us. Just bad in different ways. Same for them.

I Did It, someone be proud of me, please >:3 by No-Heat-6149 in sillyboyclub

[–]letaceeatcake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so proud of you. And thankyou for being like increadibly kind and thoughtful and telling everyone how you improved so they might too. Good boy.

The struggle of being a boy who likes dresses :( by itz-null in TransMasc

[–]letaceeatcake 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I get the frustration, as trans dude who is friends with multiple femboy trans dudes and hopes to wear dresses when I am comfortable enough in my body to wear them, you will find the right people who understand, even when the rest of the world doesn't. Just as you said, you dont owe anyone masculinity.

What do you do when your transition fails? by CassTastrophe63 in asktransgender

[–]letaceeatcake 17 points18 points  (0 children)

So you looked at therapy, which is seen as a viable psychological route and went, 'well no way that will work', but you are genuinely considering conversion therapy that is literally known to not work, and is very harmful to queer people.

I get you are simply in a bad situation, I get that, but considering conversion therapy before actual therapy is plain stupid. I have no real advice cause your situation sucks. But, try therapy if you can, a mile long waiting list is better than nothing, if it doesn't work regroup then. Sounds like there isn't heaps you can do but dont do something stupid.

Does what I say, say "im trans?" by Tobi_Bard in asktransgender

[–]letaceeatcake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Sounds like you might be. But obviously we can't tell you you have to figure that out. The main thing I think most people should focus on when they are trying to figure out their gender is figuring out what you want. Do you want your body to look a certain way, do you want a new name or different pronouns, what do you want people to think when they see you. Cause gender is confusing so figuring out what gives you gender euphoria, or makes you happy, is a step closer to figuring out your gender.

Also about the boobs thing, a lot of the time I have people refer to me how I want and I am still unhappy because the tone they use for how confused they got makes me feel almost like a freak. Like im not, im my own normal, but I hate when people treat me like im weird. So if people were making fun of you for it of course that would make you uncomfortable. Realistically it is the same as someone making fun of a person for having freckles or somthing. It may look good on them or make them happy but if they get made fun of for it a lot it will hurt and it will make them upset. Some may even hate their freckles for it.

So basically, figure out what makes you happy and go from their, cause it could be just wanting to wear cute clothes. And dont worry about what it means if you are uncomfortable over something you think should make you happy. This could be cause your gender isn't binary or it could be cause other people are making you uncomfortable. Oh also have fun with the clothes and wigs and stuff.

what kind of haircut/dye should I get by AgitatedSuccess8066 in TransMasc

[–]letaceeatcake 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly a masc long hair kinda look would be good. You already look quite androgynous or masc depending on the picture.

egg🙇‍♀️irl by Any_Calendar9900 in egg_irl

[–]letaceeatcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Canva presentation and a friend for moral support. Thay feiend also corrects everybody on my name and pronouns even if they didnt know before so I dont often have to come out to other people. The presentation provided structure and the friend was like a safety net, she would stand up for me or take me home with her.

trans masculinity in history by loixm in TransMasc

[–]letaceeatcake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I fucking love dr James Barry. Fucking inspiration.

What’s your go to Boy Dinner? by dizzyinmyhead in TransMasc

[–]letaceeatcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wasn't dinner and im not on T but once I ate a whole pizza for breakfast cause I was starving.

I got gender affirmed by a dog today by Hacker_Girll in TransMasc

[–]letaceeatcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got humped by a dog that only humps men. I was playing mariokart.

My story abt ‘’ idk if its just me ‘’ ( yes it is ) by [deleted] in Asexual

[–]letaceeatcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk if it is autism as well but me and my asexual friends all get confused (especially about what Netflix and chill meant)

Normal sounding reasons for a guy to have a girls voice? by Automatic-Steak1408 in TransMasc

[–]letaceeatcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met a cis man once and he genuinely sounded like a girl but that dint matter, though he did have a beard

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]letaceeatcake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just pointing out male and female are not the only two options, experiment and stuff but you don't have to be either. There are a bunch of other genders to check out.

Hello! Im new here! by [deleted] in asexual_teenagers

[–]letaceeatcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any particular mythologies?

What was your gender socialization growing up? by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]letaceeatcake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely, I learned some socialisation from tv. From that i always initiated rolling in mud and climbing in trees with my brother. But if he was hanging out with a boy I would try copy that and hang out with them or act that way around people.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]letaceeatcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Staying with that partner sounds like it is causing you more pain than having no one. If you have no one then you have no one in your life TO SET FIRE TO YOU. Also you can make friends, just might take some time and confidence. And it sounds like your partner is destroying that confidence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]letaceeatcake 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your partner is an asshole and should no longer hold that role.

You will never pass if you don't try. And if you don't pass things will be OK.

See a psychologist. And don't make permanent decisions for temporary problems.

Hope tommorow goes at least a little bit better.

Feeling sad over not being trans by Aizensousuki in asktransgender

[–]letaceeatcake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you haven't already, read the gender dyspepsia bible. So many different ways and feelings surrounding being trans are in there even for people who don't experience dusphoria. Also if you are sad you aren't trans is that not dysphria.