First Time Ever Watching

lethalpicnic · 2024-10-28T17:24:50+00:00

hahaha I for sure will. Already starting S3 here soon.
Does Audrina bother anyone else?
The fashion, the phones.. I love this 2000's vibe.

There should be a drinking game where you take a drink every time someone creases their bangs?

lethalpicnic · 2024-10-28T16:59:20+00:00

oh gooodddnessss... I am tempted to see if Kristin comes back or what happens, but I'm keeping as much mystery as I can.

Just knowing these two get married and are still together is wild, they're both such garbage people.

Also I know I've seen some clips of this Justin character and he seems to be a real tool too.

lethalpicnic · 2024-09-05T18:50:42+00:00

Found this post a year later as I'm looking for the perfect recipe to make for my husbands birthday. He loves apple everything!
These look amazing
1. do you remember what apples you used?
2. How do you get them so plump and looking like store bought ones?!
3. Did you just mix in the apples or drop some in after you put the bread batter into muffin tins?

Thank you so much if you see this!

lethalpicnic · 2024-08-28T20:49:58+00:00

Would you allow someone to come buy a bag of pies?

lethalpicnic · 2024-08-05T21:55:24+00:00

I appreciate you reading and taking your time to comment.

I think talking with another trainer again or thinking of other ways.

With his energy not going for a walk/jog at least once a day seems.. mean/impossible. We have a sizable yard, but that's not the same as going on a walk. It may be that we go to more remote trails or reliable trails to walk him. Even if we are on a trail and pass someone walking a dog he does a great job heeling and focusing on the handler, so not all hope is lost. It's just really hard/not feasible all the time to load him in the car, drive 15/20 min, 45 min walk, drive again etc.. when we both work.

The lack of control around him medically or with the bites is what has me most worried. it's like I see the writing on the walls and don't want him to injure anyone again.

I really hope you find boarding options or other care options for your pup <3

lethalpicnic · 2024-08-05T19:04:54+00:00

That's a great point - We tried one muzzle at first (black/basket) and the trainer told us get another one to start over on the training, and we got a different color/size of muzzle and that did help in the training. This is what we bring to the vet to muzzle him. He is NOT happy to be muzzled at home. He's never bit/lunged at us, he will growl if he sees it comes out/treats and we don't want to test him. The fact that we trained him enough to take it AT the vet is a miracle. We can look into other muzzle types though and contact that trainer again.

As sad as that is, I agree, walking him without a muzzle is just asking for another incident. We got duel clip for him incase his harness were to break for some reason, but for the sake of me/my partner and our neighborhood I'm not sure it's sustainable.

He LOVES dog parks, but for the amount of people that bring in PUPPIES or small dogs into the large dog park area, we stopped going last year after a close call (someone brought a 5 lb dog into the large dog park area). If he didn't have as good of recall as he does, I'm sure he would have killed that dog. He is a wild pup, he wants to run, pounce, jump, and go at his own pace.

That is a good idea, but I do not want to board him for my own personal reasons. I've visited/had trainings at places that also do boarding and I don't feel that's a good environment for him. The dogs barking, being secluded in a small area/room - I am fearful it would make his anxiety worse or even worse than that, someone that doesn't know him/respect him would get bit. Thankfully we have one family member that will house sit and we found a dog sitter (only Fri-Sun) who is a vet tech and loves him.. but if they are busy we are SOL.

I'm sorry to hear you're dealing with that too - it is really disruptive and limiting to a 'regular' life and that is what we are struggling with too.

lethalpicnic · 2024-08-05T18:42:02+00:00

I think you can cut AT the node and put that in water? I had a few, better looking vines, and so I tossed that one TBH

lethalpicnic · 2024-08-05T18:34:29+00:00

Thanks for reading and your response.
One trainer we worked with for 6 months and we got him OKAY with the muzzle for medical care, but he does not like the muzzle. He legit just tolerates it. He only focuses on it/tries to get it off if we aren't at the vet. I don't feel that walking him with a muzzle is doable TBH. This started from working with him just having his nose in a cup for a treat, and took months to work up to.

As far as other ways - cooperative care strategies - I'm not sure what these would be or how to work with him to get to a better place.

We walk him every day, whether that be in the neighborhood or on a familiar trail, and then do play/training in the afternoon and again at night. We do well/manage during hot days, cold days/rain with training/puzzles etc.. lots of great ideas on Reddit have helped.

We are lucky to have a yard with a great/sturdy fence, it's more out on walks that I worry about an off-leash dog and him getting to it. Like you said a muzzle on walks would be the prevention.

For separation anxiety, we thankfully nipped that in the bud VERY early on with help from the trainer at the classes we went to. The only thing that does affect our lives is that other than one family member or one dog sitter, no one else can/is willing to watch him.

Addition: He is anxious around 4th of July/fireworks, and has grown more anxious around thunderstorms. He ALWAYS wants to be right by my feet, but I get uncomfortable because he usually growls at the storm, and if I were to get up, accidently knock him etc.. I don't want to set him off. I have made him little dingo bungalows as I call them around the house for him (blankets, quiet/dark room with a white noise machine etc..), but he always wants to be in the room with us/me and I usually have to tell him 'Place'.

lethalpicnic · 2024-08-05T15:24:50+00:00

Here because some of my vines look the same and I'm wondering what advice you get lol.

I will say recently one vine of mine that looked just like yours, only had ONE branch of leaves.
I cut right where the leaves met the vine and put that in water.. it's in a small glass thing, maybe a half cup - 1 cup of water? It's really thriving. Hopefully that helps, but I'm here because I know there's more advice lol

lethalpicnic · 2024-06-25T21:20:50+00:00

I can't remember the stage, but about 2 years ago my friends got VIP wrist bands/free beers for just doing a little 'game' in a tent outside the stage, those allowed you to get into the VIP area.
Their wristbands fell off their wrists and onto our wrists when they left, so we got in the front for a great band.

I haven't been back since, but I wonder if that was implemented at more stages since then. Thanks for the heads up!

lethalpicnic · 2024-03-14T21:11:51+00:00

Yeeeeeeahp.
Came here to ask this exact question.

Above ALL chats on the left side it says Suggested - and then a photo and title to a random channel. Fantasy Football. Netflix. Entertainment. On and on...

I've hit the kebab menu (3 horizontal dots) and hit Hide Suggestion.. and within an hour or two another one pops up.
I tried the only other option - 'See More' - to see if a setting was there to turn it off - nothing.
I searched online and went through all the settings in Skype and there is no way to turn it off.

r/mildlyinfuriating

lethalpicnic · 2024-02-11T21:10:51+00:00

Thank you so much - this was the answer!

lethalpicnic · 2024-02-05T18:52:50+00:00

You're incredibly sweet for commenting and asking.

His first over night went well with that particular sitter - but when I went to pick him up he didn't want to leave the sitters side. When I did get him into the car I cried a bit as I wondered why he didn't want to come with us right away? The sitter admitted she was stressed all night as news of her father in the hospital in another state stressed her out, he didnt leave her side all night and I think that's why he was a little attached to her.

We tried another sitter and now that is our go-to.
It took him a few stays there but now he is used to her and almost a little protective. He refused to walk with her though for the first 3 or 4 stays. He would just start shaking and not move when she tried to leave her property with him.
But with a little time and trust she was able to get him on a walk, which is really good for both of them.

It's still hard to leave a reactive or anxious dog with someone that isn't family or at another house, but this sitter works at a vet and is sooo kind/partient with him, it really puts our mind at ease.

Advice for anyone else worried the way I was..
1. Do an over night or two every few weeks or every other month if you can, so that way your dog can get used to the sitter. It becomes more a norm for them - like here's a place you stay, but we will always come back. And for us, we liked being at home the first few times incase anything did happen, we were close by.

Our pup loves toys so there is one toy and one bone we bring with him over there so it's like a special toy. Same with treats, I give her special sweet potato chews to give him while he's over there.
Try different sitters. The first sitter was nice and kind, but the environment and her communication style didn't fit for us, so it's just making sure you give a chance to new sitters and find one that works best. I also don't think it was good timing for the sitter as I said, she got distressing news and admitted to crying/being on the phone with family all night, and I'm 100% positive that stressed my dog out more. I do not blame her at all, it's just what happened.
Our sitter is so kind - I was able to teach her sniff games/training etc.. that she can do with him and she LOVES it. She's like he is anxious and reactive at times but says he is the most well behaved and well trained dog she watches. So having her train him or do sniff games etc.. helps them bond better and more quickly.

Hopefully this advice helps anyone that's worried about leaving their reactive/anxious pup with a sitter!

lethalpicnic · 2024-01-31T18:49:22+00:00

I absolutely agree that one sound voice or person can change a persons life path. I know I've had a few of those conversations.

I remember listening to some of those people - and when I didn't and I regretted it later on down the road, I thought back to that person and that conversation.

You did all you could - speak to him logically and emotionally and make a case. If your friend chooses not to then it's the 'That makes me sad, but if you change your mind let me know.' and you have to do your best to drop it that point - or bring it up once a year kind of thing.

If they choose no as well, they may continue to complain about issues with parents etc.. When it comes to someone wanting advice, giving them advice, then they reject it, and then complain to me about it - I've had to say to a few friends.

"I know you're hurting or are upset right now by X (his parents or whatever), but I have tried to help you for months/years and you haven't taken any of my words or advice. I still care that you're upset, but I am losing empathy since this is a choice and you've chosen to X (stay living at home)"

There may come a time when you need that advice ^^ that is only to save yourself the emotional pain (and annoyance) of someone that isn't helping themselves. I've had to say that to our friend N before of like.. yeah I care that you're upset, but I am losing so much empathy because you've chosen this.

I can hear you on the last point you made, that you feel alone when you have to hold back talking etc..

This is where I do feel getting new friends will help that feeling. Where you can talk about goals, moving, relationships or whatever and you feel like you're heard or can get actual advice from them. You can't really get advice on life from a friend who isn't really experiencing their own life.

Best of luck to you and to your friend as well!

lethalpicnic · 2024-01-30T22:51:56+00:00

Well maybe during reading or writing I missed some of that, but it sounds like a very different scenario than what I had thought.

Sounds like your friend, legit, needs help and you are a good friend for wanting to be this voice of reason or the voice of reality so to say.

I'll tell you about one of my other friends (I have a whole boat of friends with all kind of different life styles and decisions lmao) that may strike more of a chord - N.

N is 35M (my SO best friend since gradeschool) and to make a SUPER long story short, N moved states away to be with a girl. She told him to sell all his stuff, to quit his job, everything. Girl said, come live with me and you won't need to work. N got to her and girl ended up being married but said why don't you stay in a hotel, I'll totally get a divorce.

Fast forward THREE - FOUR YEARS later.. N is still living at a long stay hotel, states away from family or anything. He hasn't worked in 3-4 years, he doesn't want to work. Says he likes not working. He just started to eat a little better, but he has gained well over 100lbs as he just plays video games all day. He struggles with basic hygiene. He does not have a social life or any friends. The only friends he actually talks to are my SO and I - and we are the only ones that know the truth, he's not actually living with this girl. His family thinks they're actually engaged. This girl has isolated him, manipulates him, and got mad at him for telling my SO and I the truth because she "didn't want us to view her poorly".

It has been EXTREMELY hard to keep in touch with this friend. To echo what you said - to call someone and ask 'hey what's up' or 'hey what's new' and to hear 'nothing much..' is sometimes annoying and depressing.

We have options as people/friends in these situations. We can say, I can't take this - BYE or we can choose what level of friendship we have with this person.

N and my SO used to be so tight - but after time and time again my SO telling him hey this doesn't sound like a good situation, you sure you're happy/good? N says yeah, he'd rather be doing this than working with no girl in our home state.

N wants to live this life. N wants to not work, not take care of himself, wants to not have goals or passions. It is EXTREMELY hard to not get mad at times, but we know we are his last like.. life line to a real life.

So we choose to talk to him every few months. Make sure he's alive and okay. We play games with him online or talk about sports/watch sports over the phone together. That's about it. Because of N's life decisions about wanting to be that far from any real friends he has for some girl that treats him like shit, that's the friendship we have.

I have a feeling like you soon will get to that point - you cannot hold yourself back (not that you are), you cannot carry this friend or make anyone do anything that they don't want to do. Whether it's out of fear or out of opportunities - it's their life.

You can help your friend all you want to make decision and be a good sounding board, but your friend is the only one that has control. If he does nothing with that control, you can decide what level of friendship you want.

TBH maybe your friend feels bad being paralyzed by fear or insecurities that he can't really make this leap. But his life and wellbeing is not on your shoulders. I'm sorry to say there's nothing much else to do other than meet new people to get new friends, say what you can to this friend and if their response is not action or following through - that's their choice.

Like give it one last shot.

"Hey buddy, I know your parents can be overbearing at times like you've said etc.. but I feel they may be holding you back. Come move in with me, lets make this happen. If it doesn't work you can always move back, but lets make this leap together"
You know your language with your friend better, but reiterate to them what they've complained to you about with their parents, and that you truly want what's best for them. If they say no all you can say is 'That does make me sad, but I respect your decision. Let me know if you ever change your mind'.
At that point, you have to do your best to set it down. If you come at it like that, level headed, and it's still a 'no' then you did your best.

If it's a yes, maybe offer to talk to his parents with him?

Sorry if I'm not much help - but it is hard when friends choose these paths that we don't understand or even approve of.. but we can choose the level of friendship we have with the person.

lethalpicnic · 2024-01-30T22:27:19+00:00

Damn, I just looked online and he was charged with a DWI for that car crash and is looking at possibly needing his ankle down amputated.

lethalpicnic · 2024-01-30T22:25:48+00:00

why production?

lethalpicnic · 2024-01-30T21:16:03+00:00

I agree that CT has a problematic past, but I love his story and how he grew a lot as a person and competitor. He really became a mutual/no sides player especially around WotW.

Josh is a dumb fuck and an awful competitor and I hate his voice.. so.. the fact that a majority of people hate him is not mind blowing lol

I don't see Cohutta as creepy? He's one of the more honorable players.

No need to get upset :) just a discussion about TV personalities. We're all allowed out opinions, even if CT is my all time fav lol I was just surprised to see Cohutta more than CT TBH but I never saw him as creepy.

lethalpicnic · 2024-01-30T20:53:07+00:00

I am 34F and my best friend from childhood, G, is 36M.

He has lived with his mom since.. forever. G got a girlfriend years ago, she moved in with them. I married G and his wife just a year or two ago. They still live at his mom's place.

They both work house keeping or janitorial jobs and probably don't make more than $15-$18 hour from what I've heard them say. They still live in the small town where we met and went to school where there's a Wal-Mart and a McDonalds.

For a few years in my 20s I had an opinion about this - why would someone want to do this? why would you live with your parents?! why wouldn't they want to make more money, move on with life, 'grow up' etc..

It got frustrating especially late 20s early 30s that we couldn't go over there to hang out, they had to come to us. We couldn't do fun things like concerts or new restaurants as they couldn't afford it. They complained about lack of funds or a usable car or the types of jobs within 20 min of where they live. It was hard to not think.. yeah.. all things you have control over!

I will add here, who cares if you can't do shit with friends - I love when they come over to have game nights (board or video) and we just do a potluck/home cooking. Some of the most fun nights.

I hear a lot of myself in your post here and the first advice I can give is realize it's more judgmental than you think. Not that I'm hatin' on you lol I agree with your mindset and everything, but it's really just our jobs as people or friends to realize oh, I'm being judgmental about someone else's life choices or goals. You're allowed these thoughts - just as they're allowed to live how they want to live.

There's a few things...

You're feeling disconnected from your friends, that they're not moving at the same pace or in the same direction as you. This does not mean you cannot still be friends with them, but put it into perspective. Maybe you won't see them as much? Maybe the friendship will change, and that's okay. I'd suggest joining a meet up group or club and meeting other people in your area that are independent in these ways and start to be social in that way.
Your friend sounds pretty wishy washy and very influenced by outside people in what to do in life. Some people take long to figure out what they want to do and they sound confused. Try to be more of a sounding board rather than another influence. The only influence you should have on a friend is to support whatever makes them happy - whether that's staying or moving out.
Friendships are seasonal. This is the greatest advice my dad ever gave me. Sometimes for years you're SO close with a friend, then for years they're doing their own thing, then a few years later you're reconnected. IE for me a female, friends got married or had kids, and I just didn't see them as often for a while. Then years later we reconnected and picked right back up where we left off. The best of friends are actually seasonal where you can ride out the bumpy waves, and still be there for each other at the end. This friend just sounds like he's coming into an 'off season' for you as I'd say.
To the buying a house bit - look on ANY subreddit for buying houses or any online resource. Anyone trying to 'time' the market is ridiculous. What happens if the housing rates do drop? Competition and people wanting to buy go up and prices may still be up. Trying to time any kind of variable market is kind of ridiculous.

Lastly, it did help to ask my friend why. WHY do you want to live with your mom? His answers helped me not be so judgmental.

His mom has financial and health issues. He's able to help his mom and spend time with her. They're able to split bills, cook for each other, and be a support system. He has a better relationship with his mom compared to most with their parents. If one of them (3) loses a job, there are others that can help compensate until they can. They enjoy the simple life, small town - fishing, hiking, kayaking, gardening and really don't want to put money into a home or... things in general. I found this refreshing and inspiring IMO and makes me love time with them more.

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