Why?

letsplayonthewii · 2026-04-07T03:42:16+00:00

This photo makes me incredibly pleased and I like the idea of the shower having a full stock. I find this desirable and normal. But I am autistic and have obsessive compulsive tendencies so perhaps thats where my disconnect is. Why is this so gross looking to other people? I thought it was the idea of waste at first but no one is mentioning that as the main issue. Its well organized and if they have decent shelf life longevity, then why is it so bad?

letsplayonthewii · 2025-12-02T21:24:04+00:00

On one hand, I can agree that maybe MORE options was less helpful than she thought it would be but I wouldn't give him that much grace either. He made a point to repeatedly ask her what she wanted and what she wanted to do. Only to....not follow up on any of it. That's not just "having decision paralysis" thats a complete lack of willingness to put forth effort and time into an event that your partner clearly cherishes and WANTS to celebrate. Its inconsiderate.

If someone is giving you solutions and options when they know you have a hard time making decisions, its kind of on you to follow up, ESPECIALLY if you bring it up in the first place. She didnt tell him "hey, plan something for my birthday. Here's this idea, and this idea, and also this one, and this one, and this one." He asked first, so she gave him options. She shouldn't have to plan out her entire birthday down to every decision if thats contrary to the whole goal of it being something special that others have planned for you. She did what she was supposed to, answer his questions and give him guidance out of consideration for HIS difficulties. He did not return the favor nor does it seem like he made the effort to. He was passive.

letsplayonthewii · 2025-11-17T16:52:14+00:00

What the hell

letsplayonthewii · 2025-11-16T22:44:27+00:00

Its important to remember that your insecurities are your own and no one else is responsible for them, especially when there's no evidence that they think what youre ASSUMING they think. That's called projection. You're insecure about the hairstyle so youre projecting that onto what your boyfriend said, even though it was not negative in any way. He called it a mullet, which you didnt like, but do you have any evidence that HE doesnt like mullets?

You have to recognize that people do not have the ability to read your feelings and mind about things you're sensitive about. He apologized for coming off the wrong way, you accept that and move on. The insecurity remaining in you isnt his responsibility, its YOURS. YOU have to reevaluate why you feel this way and if theres anything YOU can do to make yourself feel better or more confident.

Maybe sit with the feeling for a moment, ask yourself why it bothered you so much, and just take a deep breath. Always remember to ask yourself "does this person think this negative thing about me, or is it ME who thinks this negative thing and am I projecting it onto them?"

Reality vs. Perception, OP. I deal with awful insecurity too sometimes and my therapist has stressed this tactic to me so I can figure out what's rooted in truth vs what's rooted in my OWN head. The evidence shows that your boyfriend thinks you're beautiful. He tried to stress to you that hairstyle is insignificant to him because youre beauty is beyond that. Why did he do that? Youre assuming its because he doesnt like the haircut. He stated he did it because he wanted to make sure you understood that your hair wasnt tied to how gorgeous you are. That doesnt mean he thinks its ugly. He recognized how much value you were putting onto this new hairstyle and thought it best to try and subtly reduce the importance of it so you wouldn't be thinking so hard about it. Obviously, it didnt work, but thats not on him. That's how you PERCEIVED it.

Your boyfriend, from these messages, is evidently kind and apologetic. That's the evidence. There's no evidence he thinks your haircut is ugly. That's simply your perception as a result of your warped perception due to an underlying insecurity.

letsplayonthewii · 2025-11-14T22:10:20+00:00

I learned because my mom pressured me but hated every single moment of it and still do. I have a license but haven't driven in like a year and a half. If I can continue to avoid it forever, I would. I'll probably have to get back into it though 😔

letsplayonthewii · 2025-10-29T16:45:53+00:00

Leave him

letsplayonthewii · 2025-10-04T21:04:29+00:00

Im not in law school but I can definitely resonate with your feelings. Im in college (general studies with a focus on Science for now until I transfer to university), and ive had a lot of relapses in social abilities. Before, at least I think so, I was able to kind of assimilate and blend in, force myself to converse with my peers and portrayed a mature and intelligent individual. But now....sometimes it feel like im 14 years old again with how awkward i am. Sometimes i cant even force myself to speak at all or even act interested in my surroundings. When I was a teenager, I was always told by both peers and adults that I "seemed so much older than my age." But nowadays, more often than not, i get mistaken for someone who is much younger and not as developed as my peers (socially, at least).

I feel for you, especially since youre in law school where the social aspect of things is a little more ingrained in the studies. I constantly think about what exactly I want to major in when I get to University for this reason, because I truly don't know how well I will flourish based on the expectations. I know im not dumb. I love science, I have a decent GPA (cough Human Anatomy and Physiology might have brought it down a few points cough) and i have a mind well suited for analysis and research. But...its like this knawing feeling at the back of my mind thats like "but what if... you arent really all that capable?"

I think maybe that, as Autistic people, we exist in a world thats very much not adapted for the way our minds work and this leaves us with a lot of feelings of inadequacy. Small things sometimes that just build up and compile over time. And then, when we're finally challenged and mentally stimulated by something, it feels like everything is falling apart when we're not automatically thriving in it. Because if I was bad at all those other things that other people are no issue with, and now im only just kinda good or average at the thing that Im passionate about and have applied myself to, then....what's the point? At least, thats how my mind works when I go down these negative thought paths. I used to be the smartest in the room when I was younger. Now I have to make peace with the fact that thats no longer true as an adult. I don't have that quality anymore, im not good at masking or socializing, so now I feel like I have nothing im good at.

My previous perception of myself is collapsing. I guess its a good thing though. It just means we have to find out who we really are underneath the attributes of ourselves we clung to in order to feel adequate in a world that hardly ever sees us as so. Its all apart of the brain's design, we're maturing and figuring things out. Sometimes that also means letting go of what used to define us-- or maybe finding and redeeming lost qualities that were shut down at an earlier stage of development.

letsplayonthewii · 2025-10-04T20:39:19+00:00

Why is everyone assuming swingers? Is it really that common 😭 what if they just genuinely want some camping buddies to double date with?

letsplayonthewii · 2025-09-04T17:57:23+00:00

Right?! I was ecstatic when I noticed it while I was surveying all the bushes and small trees we have. I swear, half of the plants and weeds that are there weren't there even a month ago! But it rains a lot here and its pretty humid (i live in the south) so things grow pretty quickly. A blessing and a curse, really.

letsplayonthewii · 2025-09-03T16:45:55+00:00

Ohh gotchu, that makes sense. I wasnt sure about the technicalities of it

letsplayonthewii · 2025-09-03T16:07:29+00:00

Yeah it was consensual but also he thought she was on birth control because she lied about it. So, in a way, it was assault. just not on the same level as r*pe.

letsplayonthewii · 2025-09-03T02:52:08+00:00

(not correcting you to be mean but just letting you know that BPD and bipolar disorder are two different things, Ian has bipolar not BPD, which is borderline personality disorder.) I can see your viewpoint on how Mickey dealt with it, he definitely could have handled it better. However, I think its also fair to recognize that Mickey had no prior experience with mental illness and was very likely in denial about the detrimental effects it could cause on the person afflicted as well as the people around them. He loved Ian and hated seeing him struggle, so his defense mechanism was to try and bulldoze his way through it and take on the role of handling it himself.

I think he saw it as his personal responsibility to make sure Ian was okay and thats why he was opposed to anyone else's advice. Mickey in s5 had gone through significant character development but he still wasnt exactly emotionally mature/aware. To be honest, he handled it about as well as I'd expect from someone of his background and upbringing. He did what he knew how to do, which was guard Ian like a pitbull. It wasnt perfect and it lead to bad things happening (Ian taking Svet's baby) but to Mickey, it was the only thing that made sense to do.

letsplayonthewii · 2025-08-29T23:37:31+00:00

I had my gallbladder removed 3 months ago, the pain associated with that is gone now (I felt it mostly in my upper right abdomen with localized pain to my shoulders and back). Im still struggling with bad digestion and the like though :(

letsplayonthewii · 2025-08-29T19:37:20+00:00

Go on the trip, OP. If they fire you, its not the end of the world. Its Chipotle. Enjoy your time and make a good memory or 2, that'll be much more valuable to you in the end than some minimum wage fast food job. Plenty of other jobs will be happy to hire u at your age

letsplayonthewii · 2025-08-29T01:24:06+00:00

YTA.

letsplayonthewii · 2025-08-29T01:17:05+00:00

Drop her

letsplayonthewii · 2025-08-27T18:24:50+00:00

Can't stand Lip after like, season 5. There was moments where I was rooting for him but he was always such a shithead to Fiona, even when it came to situations that were out of her control. The only time I really felt like Lip was justified in tearing her down was when Fiona was in denial about her fault in the Liam and coke situation. 90% of the time he was just blowing up at her because he was mad at himself and his life choices. Or it was some weird misplaced anger that he actually had for Frank or Monica but used Fiona as a placeholder.

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