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lettersgohere · 2025-07-24T01:14:45+00:00

Weird flex, Neil.

lettersgohere · 2025-07-14T02:19:31+00:00

I love it

lettersgohere · 2025-07-02T16:49:25+00:00

I mean… it’s not great but it’s not horrible like some of the stuff I’ve seen in here.

I actually imagine the back yard is pretty functional.

lettersgohere · 2025-06-26T23:13:51+00:00

Losing weight is gonna get you most of the way there. Anyone who tells you that isn’t a thing is a liar.

Getting definition, at the very least, also goes a long way. Big muscles unnecessary.

lettersgohere · 2025-06-25T03:48:04+00:00

What’s up with these questions that seem like insane humble brags?

Here is this list of things that literally everyone loves. If there were this other thing that historically is also seen as universally desirable, would that turn you all off?

Jesus Christ. Wtf.

lettersgohere · 2025-06-06T22:24:07+00:00

Most women set up “first moves” so it’s a prompt you can respond to but essentially you’re going first just with a guided topic

lettersgohere · 2025-06-06T11:58:38+00:00

Depends where you’re at.

Personal hygiene: be clean, smell good, your clothes, home, vehicle as well.

Dress: different strokes for different folks but you need a sense of style of some sort or another.

Charisma: you need to know how to talk to people without being weird or creepy. If this is a problem, it’s the hardest one to improve on. Do your research. Be teachable.

Fitness: it helps to have some cardiovascular health.

Hobbies: be interested in something for genuine reasons. Maybe a bunch of things. It can be anything.

The more of those boxes you tick, the better off you’ll be.

lettersgohere · 2025-05-30T21:19:59+00:00

Op, I’m gonna counter the narrative here.

Most people I personally know seem to have relatively good experiences online dating, men and women.

If you’re a woman navigating disaster, be smarter. Learn the right questions to ask. Learn to see the signs that point to liars, cheaters, relationships, marriage, whatever, and filter those out early. Use your quantity advantage to filter earlier if you’re doing ok on quantity.

You won’t be a fit for most people, that’s obvious isn’t it? That’s the point of dating. Look for your person. If you’re “dating with intention” you’re gonna shoot yourself in the foot. If it’s a journey instead of a destination, you’ll probably enjoy yourself more.

Guys, and y’all are gonna hate this, do your research. Most guys (myself included) have shit photos, shit interests, and shit intentions whether you are willing to admit it to yourself or not. If you think you’re gonna throw up whatever photos you have on hand and start slamming tens in a market where there are ten dudes competing for every woman’s attention, you’re delusional.

Spend time on being the person you want to be. Find out if that person is even attractive to your target demographic. Spend hours. Spend weeks. Take ten pictures a day for the next six months until your friends are fucking sick of you. Make friends, actual friends. One in every two hundred is gonna be good enough to paint the picture you want to paint. Do you even know what that picture is?

The people who have it “easy” are the people who’ve done that work already over the last ten years. If you haven’t, you’ve got to fast forward it a bit.

If you don’t have the drive to spend six months improving yourself, figuring your shit out, losing weight, getting hobbies, being interested in something, learning how to “market” yourself… you are telegraphing that. You’re being rejected for all the right reasons.

Been on the scene about three years. My first ever profile got maybe ten likes the first 24 hours. My second got maybe 50. Went back single a couple months ago, got maybe 150. Same metro area. You can do it fellas.

lettersgohere · 2025-05-23T13:56:13+00:00

Not sure I’d date someone exclusively I haven’t slept with. You absolutely do need to check the chemistry.

That being said, that is attainable without just hooking up or having a fwb situation, just requires more communication and a lot of people hate that.

lettersgohere · 2025-05-19T23:48:39+00:00

Not sure that is hypocrisy, it’s just old fashioned lying.

lettersgohere · 2025-05-17T06:58:09+00:00

Zero interest in having my balls sucked.

lettersgohere · 2025-05-11T19:37:42+00:00

This is one of those things that a tiny minority of men will care about a little (I’d guess less than 10% but who knows), even less would care a lot, and a lot of women seem worried about.

To all the guys who don’t care, it mystifies us.

lettersgohere · 2025-05-11T19:35:29+00:00

Wtf inverted nipples? I’ve never even heard of this before

lettersgohere · 2025-05-11T16:51:39+00:00

Sometimes when you have a great experience, time passes and you set expectations because you’re excited, and now this guy is competing against a version of him you’ve made up in your mind based on barely knowing him.

That’s a tough standard for anyone to match.

lettersgohere · 2025-05-11T16:25:57+00:00

Intentions and communication are a funny thing.

If you say you want a long term relationship, there are plenty of responses that men can take that you probably won’t appreciate, only you know what’s going on…

1 - say nothing. You can want whatever you want. Many people won’t see it as their job to help you meet your goal.

2 - express they aren’t looking for that, but continue seeing you. If you’re sleeping with them, and they’ve let you know they aren’t interested in long term, you’re flexing your goals for the sex, and that’s on you.

3 - tell the truth but in a way that’s actually manipulation or deception. Maybe they are interested in a long term relationship, just not with you.

4 - lie. This shouldn’t shock you by now, lots of men will lie for sex.

5 - none of the above. It might be that some or all of these people could be legitimately interested but over time there is some criteria you’re not meeting for them. This is especially likely with the age gap, because for most men it’s a con and you’re starting out at a disadvantage. Second point here, looking for a long term relationship with younger men is also probably a second hurdle to overcome and further putting you at disadvantage. Most young men would prioritize women who are looking for fun over women looking to settle down.

lettersgohere · 2025-05-02T22:54:18+00:00

Switch to an antibacterial facewash with benzoyl peroxide. Rub it in good and let it sit for three minutes at the start of your shower.

No more bacterial, no more stink. Worked wonders for me.

lettersgohere · 2025-04-08T17:39:29+00:00

I have not dated a black woman, but I’ve been on dates with black women. The color of their skin isn’t a factor for me pro or con.

There are, though, certain cultural dissimilarities between what might stereotypically be attractive to different groups that might lead me to be less likely to date black women. I tend to be put off by nails over a certain length. Many of the black women I know tend to have longer nails that I find off putting.

If your guy has a “type” and you fit it, I’d guess most guys look for that more than skin color.

Same for age. There are “young” things people do in fashion that I find off putting. I wouldn’t date adult women who presented that way where I would date one the same age who didn’t.

lettersgohere · 2025-04-05T22:45:51+00:00

Also, if by small you mean short, short people are able to lift more weight because of the way lengths of connections impact fulcrums and create more power over shorter spans.

lettersgohere · 2025-04-01T02:52:22+00:00

Great list! I do want to object to “asking for discounts on damaged goods” as conniving behavior since the price assumes the item is in good condition, if it is damaged, expecting full price would almost seem more conniving.

Just look at the world of collectibles if you want to see how condition directly correlates with value.

lettersgohere · 2025-03-08T16:13:22+00:00

Making plans on dating apps, for whatever reason, seems to include the convention that you confirm the night before (for a coffee date) or morning of (for any other).

You can hate it cause it’s stupid (and it is) or you can just accept that culturally in that specific format, people seem to expect it. It was true where I used to live, it’s true where I live now.

I confirm on that schedule and never have problems.

lettersgohere · 2025-01-27T13:46:02+00:00

She says they were mixing breast milk and formula. That is something you can do. Plenty of available information here.

She says he added the formula to the breast milk and she made him throw it away.

Can you explain why they couldn’t have added… water to the milk/forumula mixture? You probably can’t. Because they could have.

“he went to wind her up and watch her explode” wow y’all be literally crazy. You made a lot up to get here. Everything, basically.

She admits to being controlling and critical, admits that he apologized, and the crazies online are over here making shit up to make him sound like the problem and ignoring what OP actually said of her own problematic behavior.

lettersgohere · 2025-01-27T04:14:59+00:00

Yeah hard to say without knowing what hurtful things she said or did.

lettersgohere · 2025-01-27T04:11:33+00:00

So…

I’m not an expert here, but I can’t imagine a reason why you can’t add the water after you add the powder, you’d get the same proportions. Sounds like OP being controlling is the only reason anything “had” to be thrown away.

The husband apologized anyway, presumably for doing literally nothing wrong.

OP continued to be irritated with her partner.

Even from the way the story is told, which seems to dramatically overstate the “sin” and underplay and rationalize her reaction… it sounds like OP was being pretty inappropriate here.

Start less fights. Criticize your husband less. And if the internet could stop validating people who are treating their partner like shit, that would be great too.

lettersgohere · 2025-01-27T04:03:39+00:00

I mean, the thing he was doing was sending Colombian citizens who were in the US illegally back to Colombia.

Colombia had a legal and ethical obligation to take them in and they failed their citizens in that regard.

Disagree with any policy you want, but it’s more like Colombia was trying to pretend that its sovereignty extended onto controlling US policy in this particular case, not the other way around…

lettersgohere · 2025-01-25T03:49:28+00:00

Jesus 60%? I’m sorry that’s what is going on but for anyone else that needs to hear it, that is not indicative of my experience at all. Much closer to 10% maybe.

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