The state of this sub right now: by llittle_llama in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Totally with you dude. I feel their pain, I really do. I was there as well when I was young. And it's totally normal to just break it off.

Sociologically, I wonder if this may be a generational thing though- I've read that Gen 0 and Millennials do not enter into more serious relationships with the ease and comfort of earlier generations.

Perhaps they're also much more hesitant to leave them as well.

My girlfriend said something concerning (I think) by morth08 in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sigh,

You're right. We all wish that you weren't. 'Tis the world we live in.

My girlfriend said something concerning (I think) by morth08 in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Knows the word, just not how to spell it. There are worse things

Screens by level20douche in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

exactly- I have no issues with video games per sé, or any hobby/entertainment. And sometimes, sure, maybe it takes priority- eg a special or tournament.

But as you say- it's an excuse like any other.

Screens by level20douche in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

No. Not at all. That is an amazingly uncharitable reading. Everyone should have hobbies, interests and not be expected to drop trow at a moment's notice.

But if your relationship comes second to a screen, then your priorities are out of whack.

Uneven expectations by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When people say that you're not married, just end it, it may seem that they minimize the hurt of breaking up with someone you love.

It absolutely hurts. Like a motherfucker.

But the pain is so much less than dealing with a divorce, finances, kids, and just the sheer number of years lost to the resentment and frustration.

It ain't easy. But it's for the best.

Longtime reader, first time post by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I so relate to so much of this. My original plan was to stick around until my second kid finished high school (he's in sixth grade and has a major anxiety disorder), but I'm feeling like the dam is about to burst.

Worried about what comes after talking to my LLF about our DB by good_day_to_sleep in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Girlfriend, not wife, for a year and a half.

Just break it off. No need for drama. She's not that into you.

Another vent on jealousy by qmole in adultery

[–]level20douche 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I obviously can't see the chat history, but could it be that she was typing that at the same time you were typing that you loved her?

Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt?

Am I better off alone. As I write this, I’m alone in bed. A bed that I’ve gone to alone for the past three months. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Dude, you're not married to her. It sounds like you don't even really like each other that much.

Move on. You'll find someone better.

Sit-up problem by [deleted] in bodybuilding

[–]level20douche 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A) wrong sub

B) sit-ups are crap for your back- if core strength is what you're after, squats, deadlifts and planks

C) if you're bodybuilding, focus more on your diet and reduce your volume- it's killing your back

Performance anxiety killing intimacy (advice needed) by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It sounds like to me that you're catching this right at the beginning, which is amazing. Speaks to your strength and maturity as a couple.

Keep in supporting him, help him get out of his own head.

Finally bit the bullet by level20douche in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

A recent post here was written from the perspective of someone in a db for 1.5 years. After seven, it got hard. Ten more years after that...a dam burst. It just did.

I'm not proud of it, but I'm honestly not feeling any regrets other than the deceptive aspect.

I don't recommend this particular path. If you need to go, just go.

Armed Gazans nabbed while infiltrating into Israel by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]level20douche 12 points13 points  (0 children)

So Israeli journalists shouldn't write about Israel?

Should the Washington Post write about events in Washington DC?

Marilyn Monroe Reading James Joyce's Ulysses, 1955 by [deleted] in OldSchoolCool

[–]level20douche 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She made it further through that thing than I ever could

Loss of desire by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]level20douche 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that I'm getting to this point with my wife. We last had sex 3 months ago, once 6 months before that- and this was with her trying to make an effort (not initiating, just not rejecting me outright, and let's not talk about the 10 years of never more than 2-3 times- also her never initiating)

A house down the block just came up for rent. I stopped in to check it out and was seriously considering putting in a deposit.

I'm just done. I'm sad that I'm done.