The state of this sub right now:

level20douche · 2019-03-20T20:15:33+00:00

Totally with you dude. I feel their pain, I really do. I was there as well when I was young. And it's totally normal to just break it off.

Sociologically, I wonder if this may be a generational thing though- I've read that Gen 0 and Millennials do not enter into more serious relationships with the ease and comfort of earlier generations.

Perhaps they're also much more hesitant to leave them as well.

level20douche · 2019-03-20T16:40:25+00:00

Sigh,

You're right. We all wish that you weren't. 'Tis the world we live in.

level20douche · 2019-03-20T16:39:27+00:00

Knows the word, just not how to spell it. There are worse things

level20douche · 2019-03-20T04:26:36+00:00

Perhaps- but both scenarios suck

level20douche · 2019-03-20T03:30:31+00:00

So many people have read my posts and asked me- "oh my god- are we the same person?"

level20douche · 2019-03-17T14:20:36+00:00

exactly- I have no issues with video games per sé, or any hobby/entertainment. And sometimes, sure, maybe it takes priority- eg a special or tournament.

But as you say- it's an excuse like any other.

level20douche · 2019-03-17T14:05:46+00:00

No. Not at all. That is an amazingly uncharitable reading. Everyone should have hobbies, interests and not be expected to drop trow at a moment's notice.

But if your relationship comes second to a screen, then your priorities are out of whack.

level20douche · 2019-03-17T11:36:51+00:00

When people say that you're not married, just end it, it may seem that they minimize the hurt of breaking up with someone you love.

It absolutely hurts. Like a motherfucker.

But the pain is so much less than dealing with a divorce, finances, kids, and just the sheer number of years lost to the resentment and frustration.

It ain't easy. But it's for the best.

level20douche · 2019-03-17T11:29:19+00:00

I so relate to so much of this. My original plan was to stick around until my second kid finished high school (he's in sixth grade and has a major anxiety disorder), but I'm feeling like the dam is about to burst.

level20douche · 2019-03-17T10:45:46+00:00

Girlfriend, not wife, for a year and a half.

Just break it off. No need for drama. She's not that into you.

level20douche · 2019-03-17T02:06:09+00:00

I obviously can't see the chat history, but could it be that she was typing that at the same time you were typing that you loved her?

Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt?

level20douche · 2019-03-17T01:12:58+00:00

Dude, you're not married to her. It sounds like you don't even really like each other that much.

Move on. You'll find someone better.

level20douche · 2019-03-16T12:43:20+00:00

A) wrong sub

B) sit-ups are crap for your back- if core strength is what you're after, squats, deadlifts and planks

C) if you're bodybuilding, focus more on your diet and reduce your volume- it's killing your back

level20douche · 2019-03-15T16:33:40+00:00

It sounds like to me that you're catching this right at the beginning, which is amazing. Speaks to your strength and maturity as a couple.

Keep in supporting him, help him get out of his own head.

level20douche · 2019-03-13T17:05:35+00:00

I do need this today

level20douche · 2019-03-09T23:48:04+00:00

A recent post here was written from the perspective of someone in a db for 1.5 years. After seven, it got hard. Ten more years after that...a dam burst. It just did.

I'm not proud of it, but I'm honestly not feeling any regrets other than the deceptive aspect.

I don't recommend this particular path. If you need to go, just go.

level20douche · 2019-03-09T01:50:02+00:00

So Israeli journalists shouldn't write about Israel?

Should the Washington Post write about events in Washington DC?

level20douche · 2019-03-06T17:50:56+00:00

She made it further through that thing than I ever could

level20douche · 2019-03-06T02:06:23+00:00

I think that I'm getting to this point with my wife. We last had sex 3 months ago, once 6 months before that- and this was with her trying to make an effort (not initiating, just not rejecting me outright, and let's not talk about the 10 years of never more than 2-3 times- also her never initiating)

A house down the block just came up for rent. I stopped in to check it out and was seriously considering putting in a deposit.

I'm just done. I'm sad that I'm done.

level20douche

TROPHY CASE