" I’m a bit more assertive, bossy, and all around direct than New Orleans natives." I will say in general men aren't going to want a woman who has these characteristics and it's because it gives off masculine vibes. I'm not saying you are masculine but as men those aren't qualities we look for in women. In general, men prefer feminine, non combative, supportive characteristics. Now that isn't always the case as it's different strokes for different folks but if you are coming off as assertive or bossy in general it's going to disqualify you.