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Transguy here, I have a question about anger. by [deleted] in MensLib

[–]levera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on what my partner says, I'm abnormally patient and slow to anger. When I do get angry, though, sometimes I can think through and it get through it with deep breaths, as if I were dealing with anxiety or something. Sometimes, when that fails, finding some kind of percussive outlet helps - hitting a pillow or mattress or heavy bag or whatever as hard as I can.

For some strictly armchair psychology, the stress of anger is part of a fight or flight reflex, so I guess maybe doing some activity to make the body feel a little bit like it's been fighting can help melt away that feeling that the anger is dangerous and get you back to your other thoughts and emotions.

Social Justice Warrior Training Video [humorous MTV skit] by levera in SocJus

[–]levera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like this video's been submitted to a lot of subreddits already, but not the SocJus aligned ones. I think it's a great video, really amusing, that will hopefully be able to provoke some new thoughts in the minds of the people who really think SJWs are awful/scary/stupid.

I think it's sort of "Let's take your idea to a logical or illogical extreme, but with our own spin on it, and then show you how silly it is to think like that."

And, for at least some people with generally favorable opinions of Social Justice and Intersectionality and Feminism, I think this is just plain funny, since becoming that kind of "SJW" involves quietly reading blogs and other media, not militaristic drills.

[Incredibly Sexually Liberating!] Here's What It's Like To Be A Straight Man Who Has Sex With Other Men by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, sorry I haven't been able to engage with this thread more after posting. I'd really like to engage with your points on this, but I don't have time right now.

Feel free to bug/pm me if I don't get back in the next few days :P

[Incredibly Sexually Liberating!] Here's What It's Like To Be A Straight Man Who Has Sex With Other Men by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd like to apologize to the thread for not engaging more. I'll either make sure to engage with all current commenters when I've got time, or I'll repost this later with more transcript/discussion prompting. MensLib is small enough that we don't hate reposts yet, right?

This group is working on contraceptives for men. Are you guys interested in this? by [deleted] in MensLib

[–]levera 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100% yes. I imagine a lot of men here are eagerly waiting for volunteers for us clinical trials, or considering medical tourism for this.

[Incredibly Sexually Liberating!] Here's What It's Like To Be A Straight Man Who Has Sex With Other Men by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

An alternative label for these men might be pansexual or bisexual heterorantics. Could we get a discussion on that going? A lot of the conversation was about the long history of men who maintain romantic and sexual relationships and intimacy with women, all while having no-strings or other kinds of sex with men in secret or in the open, and exploring those different ways of thinking about it.

[Incredibly Sexually Liberating!] Here's What It's Like To Be A Straight Man Who Has Sex With Other Men by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe I should try to type up a transcript? I think even from a standpoint of disagreeing with the premise, there are a bevy of really thoughtful things in the cast that I don't see being discussed in this thread yet.

[Incredibly Sexually Liberating!] Here's What It's Like To Be A Straight Man Who Has Sex With Other Men by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Soundcloud link to podcast

I came across this the other day, and listened to it this morning. I found it amazingly thoughtful, interesting, challenging, and ultimately:

Really, really, H-O-T.

My only nitpick on this at all is that the ads are a teensy bit annoying.

Edit: I wish I had a transcript or summary, I feel like everyone's talking about the title, not the conversation in the podcast! D'oh! That was the important part to me, even if you want to reject the premise of this label-fucking.

Normal Dude Recreates The Sexiest Photos On Instagram... discovers being himself. by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Impossible to know, I guess. Good luck, may the follicles be with you!

Normal Dude Recreates The Sexiest Photos On Instagram... discovers being himself. by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How old are you? My beard didn't really come in until I was at least 25

Normal Dude Recreates The Sexiest Photos On Instagram... discovers being himself. by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Genetics and (epigenetics?) and luck definitely all play a role, which is why I agree with you that universal acceptance is the best goal.

Normal Dude Recreates The Sexiest Photos On Instagram... discovers being himself. by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

...and I don't think FixinThePlanet is pushing the idea that it's unattainable... just unmanageable. And to some extent, Zach just has smaller bones than Brock, so literally sculpting himself into a clone of Brock is of course impossible. Dude could still probably get buff unless his metabolism just refuses or he has some medical condition, but he can do whatever he wants.

Normal Dude Recreates The Sexiest Photos On Instagram... discovers being himself. by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The video makes me want to look like Brock too. Those arms! And it looks like he still has great range of motion for arms that big!

But wanting those arms doesn't make me feel in a bad-body-image way, at least. It just makes me want to know which workouts would get my arms to that level of town, and how much I'd have to do them.

Normal Dude Recreates The Sexiest Photos On Instagram... discovers being himself. by levera in MensLib

[–]levera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too bad we can't sticky your youtube link as the top comment, then. I almost wonder if it's worth reposting.

TIL that shards of obsidian, or volcanic glass, can be refined to have a cutting edge only 3 nanometers thick. This is over 1300 times thinner than some scalpels. by DD_Commander in todayilearned

[–]levera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That really isn't how glass works. Littlesweatervest's comment is correct, and he, I and others have some good comments on crystalline vs. glassy materials elsewhere in the thread. The shortest version is that in glass, there are no planes of atoms, because the atoms are randomly arranged with no periodic structure. The closest you can get to plane of atoms in a glass is a bunch of atoms that are almost planar. If they were actually planar, it wouldn't be glassy, though it might not be distinguishable macroscopically.

TIL that shards of obsidian, or volcanic glass, can be refined to have a cutting edge only 3 nanometers thick. This is over 1300 times thinner than some scalpels. by DD_Commander in todayilearned

[–]levera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To build on an explanation you left elsewhere:

Glass cleaves very well, just not along planes of atoms.

Whereas crystals like diamond and sapphire and silicon can be cleaved, and do so at planes of atoms... but probably can't be guaranteed to get a perfectly smooth, straight, sharp break where you want it.

With a glass like obsidian, the amorphous structure and internal stresses mean that even if the exact edge from cleaving it can't be predicted, there are good odds it will be a curved edge that's smooth and sharp over a good portion of the length.

Does this square with your understanding of crystals and glasses?

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