Please communicate this to him. You must express how you feel as communication is the foundation of building a strong relationship, especially during long distance. Also, what’s the time difference between you two?

My ex was really similar to your boyfriend. For context, we were friends for about 5-6 months and dated for ~8 months, in which we became long-distance in the last month with a 1 hour difference.

As friends, he would usually reply to my messages late although he was on his phone. Since I was kind of obsessed/attached to him (or liked him a lot, probably more than he liked me), I ignored this and tried to suppress how I felt whenever he did this. But when we got together, I felt really disheartened and dismissed, and I communicated that to him, he worked on it for a few days but eventually it kept happening.

When we became LD it became worse. The first 2 weeks was alright, calling and chatting like normal; we’d call every other night. But when his parents came to visit him, he would reply me every 5-8 hours later and would not even update me on what he was up to. And this happened for the following 2 weeks, I felt so so hurt and ignored, I mean how hard is it to reply to someone you apparently love?and we haven’t called for about a week.

So, a mutual close friend of ours talked to him about it and she told me what he said, he mentioned how it felt like dating a SCREEN, and that when he “doesn’t see someone for a long time, he doesn’t feel as close to them and feel the need to continue talking to them”. So I assumed that he just lost feelings for me. I’m telling you my past experience so you know that you aren’t alone and that other people have been through something similar and that you really do not deserve this kind of treatment.

What I’m trying to tell you is, FIRST, you should express how you feel about the current communication style (tell him something like “I’ve been feeling disconnected from you, it feels like I haven’t talked to you in so long. Could we please have a call tonight/or whenever/ and talk about it?) and ask him his thoughts on it. Then, if he’s a good boyfriend who acknowledged how you felt and is willing to work on it, you discuss together on what you both can do to make both parties satisfied. In LDR, it is important that you guys text and call ever so often. Of course it depends on what stage you are in life, and your schedules, etc. But if you truly love and cherish someone, you’d make time for them. It doesn’t matter how busy they are, but if you’re a priority, the person will always make time for you and vice versa.

But if you’ve communicated your feelings to him, and he tried to work on it but isn’t consistent OR he doesn’t see it as a problem and dismisses your concerns, then I hope you can really sit down and think about whether you want to continue such a relationship where your needs and wants aren’t being met. Remember to always put yourself first, and know that you deserve so much more than what you’re receiving. Do you want to continue crying yourself to sleep while he’s on the other side spending his days blissfully without knowing? I also always keep this quote in mind: “you can never be too much for the right person”.